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Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life Paperback – April 1, 1992
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In order to call themselves good Christians, many people have drawn overly flexible boundaries (unwilling to say no, always accommodating others' needs) or overly rigid boundaries (to the point of being righteous and judgmental). Psychologists and inspirational speakers Cloud and Townsend show readers how to set reasonable boundaries in order to follow the true path of Christianity. This book has become immensely popular, most likely because it makes personal boundaries easier to define and is filled with spiritual purpose. Some cautions: the format can be overly self-helpish for such a complex discussion and the authors at one point imply that judicious spankings may be an acceptable form of setting boundaries with children. However, many Christians will probably find themselves grateful for this biblical context of boundaries. --Gail Hudson --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend have great insights and practical wisdom into the God-given gift of boundaries. As they discuss how to take responsibility for and ownership of our lives, they give hope that we cannot just survive -- but thrive! --Josh McDowell, Author, Author and Speaker
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The other issue is one of an abusive marriage. He talks about putting up boundaries and leaving for the night if these boundaries are violated. This is always done for a short period of time and then the abused spouse returns home. There are situations where this is effective. But in a true abusive situation (physical or mental) it is playing with fire to leave and return over and over. The physical abuser can be deadly. A mental abuser will learn how to better manipulate her victim without his realizing that his boundaries have been violated and thereby twisting reality even further. Any abusive person is not to be trifled with, and without genuine repentance and clear signs of change one is foolish to continue to expose themselves to that risk regardless of history, children, or feelings. For all of his insight, I am shocked that this is not made more clear.
For example, When I offer to help someone for a couple hours. then the time is up, and my energy is gone, but the person (or organization) wants more and more. So I worked for 6 hours instead of 2-3. Then I do NOT enjoy helping them. I feel resentful, angry, abused. Sometimes I am Mad At Myself for not setting or keeping a boundary. I could just say, "I need to go now." Instead, I just do not want to help them in the future. Avoiding them in the future doesn't work well for family that depends on me.
After reading this book, I was able to use the "good Samaritan" example and we had a good talk. It will take some time to break old habits, but it's getting better.