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Boundaries: When to Say YES, When to Say NO, To Take Control of Your Life Hardcover – October 20, 1992
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The answer was in "Boundaries". As I read the book, I could identify with something in every chapter. I'm the type of person who will let everyone else step all over me to keep themselves happy. As long as I didn't raise a ruckus, and the peace was kept, everything was okay, right? WRONG! Inside I was always seething with anger, and I was livid with the fact that I had to continually step out of the way for everyone else while they ran right over me.
Through reading this book, I realized that it's OK to set boundaries in all interactions; in fact, I now believe that it would be wrong NOT to set boundaries in things. Slowly but surely, with the help from this book's message, I've been setting boundaries for a happier life that's filled with more peace, joy, and abundance than ever.
-you're not turned off by a Christian writing approach
-you feel like there's a problem because you're trying to be a good person all the time by always saying "yes"
In a nutshell, this book is for people who don't know how to set boundaries for themselves. In other words, they're always saying "yes" to things and taking responsibility for things- even when it's not their job.
And boundary lines of your responsibilities need to be present in more areas of your life than you might realize, such as...
The book covers boundary conflicts in each of these areas leaving no stone unturned. Therefore, its no big deal if you have only one or two problem areas- just go to those sections.
This book will help you realize what a boundary is, why it's okay to have them and just how to develop them. So if anything in this review sounds like if might apply to you- don't hesitate to check out the book. Other neat self-help books I liked include "Finding Happiness in a Frustrating World".
Anyway, I grew up to be a controlling, abusive tyrant, just like my Dad was if not worse. This persisted until 2008 when the beautiful, adoring woman I married got tired of my treatment of her and left me. I would never have woken up, let alone **grown** up if she hadn't done this. With a lot of time and work from my side we got back together again and the type of "man" I used to be really disgusts me. With time and effort I have been able to put together healthy boundaries of behaviour I will and will not accept from others, and from myself.
The point is my wife took a stand, just as this book says to. And it worked. On me that is.
If you are an abused spouse take a radical stand. The more radical the better. Do exactly what this book tells you to do.
I have given the book four stars because I am an atheist (sorry to any religious folks, I just cannot believe any of it, even if I wanted to) and my "God filter" had to be on at all times. Still, it doesn't matter what source the help comes from and I wish I had come across this book five years ago. My two little kids will learn healthy boundaries as well so they don't grow up to be the basket case I was.
SCROLL ABOVE and make sure you have either the paperback or the hardback WITHOUT the parenthesis. There are 2 hardbacks - one normal version - and the other is the MINIATURE in size and length.
I am so frustrated I will have to resell this one myself or possibly pay return costs to Amazon.
On reading several negative comments about the book, I notice the persons complain of things that are actually not promoted in the book - there is a balance that is actually promoted, that boundaries are not an excuse to say "No", as irresponsibility is warned as another extreme of boundaries and goes against biblical principles. Some persons complained that people didn't seem to like them after they established boundaries, "Bonding first, boundaries second". Like any concept it could be taken to an extreme. I should warn that without a strong biblical background or the support of a group these concepts could easily be misapplied and used as weapons (boundaries are not weapons) instead of defenses to protect who we are.
The risk of misapplication of the concepts does not negate the fatc that this book is biblically sound, and promotes healthy relational concepts -- if applied correctly.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
This should be required reading for every high school senior. If ONLY I had read it when I was young, how it would have changed my life!!!Published 3 minutes ago by Kathy Hoyt
I've had this book before. This book came and is Tiny about the size of your palm. So my guess is it's a readers digest version of the original book
It's too small to have... Read more
just read little pieces but a GREAT BUY.....EXCITED TO READ ON THIS TOPIC. nice chrisitan bibical suppport textPublished 3 days ago by michelle
This book is great! It is a faith based book which give you lots to think about and work on. My husband and I both struggle with boundary issues at times and this book is really... Read morePublished 4 days ago by Ashley Mckay
I recommend this book to anyone who has allowed themselves to be a doormat to anyone in their lives. Read morePublished 4 days ago by Cupcake
I purchased this used as a gift for a friend, but was redirected to the miniature edition instead... Read morePublished 4 days ago by Stephen Jackson