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“A vital and fascinating repair manual.”—A.J. Jacobs, author of The Year of Living Biblically
“A refreshing kick in the teeth.”—USA Today
"Boteach's lessons are applicable to anyone hoping to understand and overcome feelings of failure in themselves or their loved ones."--Publishers Weekly
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He also doesn't touch on the arrested development that seems to afflict some men. This would be the 40-year-old that still lives at home and spends his time watching movies and playing video games. Or the man in his mid-30s that does just enough enough work to keep him supplied with ramen noodles and a season pass at the ski resort. I would dearly like to know what is going on in their brains. That said, I loved the book, and am passing it around to friends and family.
If there is any criticism to be leveled at this it is the mass of generalizations, feel-good assertions, and unsupported idealism. Look, men's behavior is not totally a result of culture. The traits he derides in the book existed long before man had developed to ability to speak, let alone build office buildings. To think that it could all go away with a few parenting changes is ridiculous. And as always, religion (namely the bible) is a poor place to found any theory. Being that he is a Rabbi, he rests heavily on scripture and the notion of "G-d." In this instance, I think he could have made an equally persuasive case without it. He didn't and the book suffers. I would recommend a few ev psych books to balance Boteach's words with some science such as Sperm Wars, The Evolution of Desire or even The Moral Animal.
Regardless, if you're a young person, you should read this before you go the way of your parents generation. And if you're older, maybe it's not too late to turn it around.
A lot of men feel like failures because they don't have a new girlfriend, car, boat, house, etc. every so often. Men like me who are committed to their family aren't living the "cool" life as seen in the movies and on TV (though the celebrities aren't either, and that's why so many of them are addicted to drugs and/or alcohol). And so sometimes a man asks himself, why do I make this sacrifice? I'm getting old, my hair is falling out, my belly is getting bigger (not that we can't help that), and I'm barely caught up on my bills! It takes a book like this to make a man realize he's acting like a wimp.
I personally understand the pressure in our society. TVs are everywhere! They tell you that you don't have enough and are not good enough. Bimbo male celebrities have become the role models! Our nation's leaders aren't doing a very good job of being role models and neither are many religious leaders. Many of them are getting in trouble for having affairs and stealing money. We have TVs now in the break room at my work, in the gym, and I get to see tons of advertisements on billboards on my drive to and from work. It's hard to just shut the media off and start living once again. But if you want to be a good father, husband, and not spend the rest of your life in vain pursuits and depression, it's something you'll have to do. Read this book and pass on the advice to your children.Read more ›
Most Recent Customer Reviews
One of the best books that I have read in years. Rabbi Boteach has put some very heartfelt and I believe God lead thought in this book. Read morePublished 3 months ago by Tarik Joyner
Must read!!!! Life changing book everyone should read.Published 4 months ago by Radames Rodriguez, Jr.
Only halfway through it but it is great so far. Quite informative.Published 13 months ago by L. Holmes
Great way of explaining his thoughts and the cultural dilemma that men face, no matter the bank account.Published 19 months ago by N. Bee
just one author's opinion, I suspose. Not a bad read but not over enlightening either.Published 20 months ago by Victoria
Love all Boteach's books. Love his style. He is funny too.Published 20 months ago by Janine De Ruyver