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CONSENSUAL SADOMASOCHISM Paperback – February 25, 2015
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Consensual Sadomasochism is one of my regular resources for sparks of inspiration and insight. -- Fetish Diva Midori, author of The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage
Their useful book is precise and clearheaded in all things SM. -- Mark Thompson, editor of Leatherfolk
Without doubt, one of the finest and most useful books on SM ever written. -- Guy Baldwin, M.S., author of Ties That Bind and Slavecraft
From the Author
Changes: An Introduction to the Second (Revised) Edition
In 1996, when Consensual Sadomasochism first appeared, participant literature about BDSM was still fairly rare. Yet the field was clearly growing, and partly for that reason we did not conceive of our contribution as an introductory text, but rather as something that could accompany or follow the various fine SM primers that had recently come on the market, including Race Bannons Learning the Ropes, Patrick Califias Sensuous Magic, and Jay Wisemans SM 101.
Revising our book at the sunrise of a new century, our purpose has not changed. But the SM community has changed remarkably since 1996, and so has its literature. It would take a volume beyond the scope of ours to document all those changes, but a few brief observations pertain to this book.
In 1996 San Francisco was still pretty much the red hot center of American SM, at least on the west coast, though not nearly to the extent it had been a decade and two decades earlier. But still there were just a handful of SM activities each month here a few meetings, a few parties, classes that were beginning to burgeon. As we write now, on the cusp of 2003/4, you could attend a different SM event pretty much every night of the year in the San Francisco Bay Area and still not take in everything.
To keep our observations current, as well as our information, weve updated our glossary, tweaked many pages, revised our Resources section, and completely redone our information on Cyber SM. Weve also added a few new sections for this edition, including some pages on "How to Find an SM-Positive (or Neutral) Therapist," "Monogamous SM Relationships," and "Aftercare."
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There are a number of "introductory SM books" on the market now and what I like about the well-written ones is they way they handle basic SM topics. This book is no exception to this rule.
It not only covers common SM topics, such as "playing safely" (with detailed descriptions of playing with various SM "toys), but also contains sections on who you should or shouldn't play with, and also contains a book, magazine and online resource section.
I loved the glossary of SM terms contained in the book and their chapter on "Defining and Demystifying the Language." They also call make a point to define the difference between consensual play and abuse.
I also liked their section called "On Doing Psychotherapy in the Dungeon." They point out SM can be therapeutic, but not to do actual "therapy" in play. Good point!
A well-written book with lots of good information.
What it is is an overview of BDSM and does not really deal with S/m as the title suggests, so it is a little misleading. It is well written for what it is, information combined with humor, and it deals with the topic in a very readable and relatable way. Again, if you're new, then by all means buy a used copy and read it, otherwise forget it.
It covers the basic SM safety practices of limits, consent, negotiation and safewords. It also covers how to do basic SM practices such as whipping, spanking, bondage and hot wax.
It includes good material on finding partners and on the SM scene, although since it was written the newsgroup alt.sex.bondage has changed to soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm
It has exceptionally good material on spiritual SM and on tantric SM.
There are shorter books on the subject and longer books but this is a good medium sized book.
Other good books in this area include "Screw the roses send me the thorns", "SM 101", "The Sexually Dominant Woman", "Learning the Ropes", "Safe Sane Consensual and Fun", "Ties That Bind", and "SM Classics".