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Empowering Your Success by Starting with Useful Questions
on January 21, 2014
Change Your Questions Change Your Life is a simply interesting and powerfully useful perspective for approaching Life's many complex challenges.
We live in an era of feeling victimized by too many forces greater than ourselves. All too often we exasperate our experiences by rationalizing away our own guilt for not having more constructively responded to the difficult situations that we encounter.
While Judgers waste their time and energy looking back at what is already passed, Learners ask questions to find ways they can improve their current (and future) difficult situations. Would you rather your plane pilot was looking back at the turbulence you just flew through or looking ahead to circumvent future turbulence?
Yes, Ben may seem overly simplistic. On the other hand, in my coaching and consulting practice I've encountered many accomplished executives who are much more like simple Ben's than like wise Joseph's! The storyline is simply cogent!
Over the past twenty plus years, business literature has been replete with valid examples of the power of Emotional Intelligence. Proactively asking ourselves the right Learner questions is much more emotionally intelligent than reactively getting ourselves stuck in Judger questions.
If we genuinely want or need to change our situation, what are the tough questions that will most help us understand and feel urgency about what we need to change in ourselves? Even if we experience the frustration of not actually doing what we know we could be doing, through asking the Learner questions we do feel more in-control of our own lives.
Would you rather be frustrated Judger or an accomplished Learner? The Path is yours to choose.