- Paperback: 240 pages
- Publisher: 5280 Press (March 17, 2012)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 0984826211
- ISBN-13: 978-0984826216
- Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 0.6 x 8.5 inches
- Shipping Weight: 13.1 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
- Average Customer Review: 49 customer reviews
- Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,149,874 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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Dr. Christie Hartman is a dating expert, scientist, and author of five dating advice books.
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EDIT: I lowered the star ratings of the book to 3-stars because I completely forgot about how the author suggests that if you're an average looking person, to go for average looking girls (or vice-versa). I just couldn't believe it when I read this. This is a Woman who is writing to Men and telling us that if you're average or not that great looking to stick to average or similar looks. Just imagine if you lived by these principles, how many beautiful Woman you would pass up just because you thought you were JUST average looking and no hot girl was going to look at you? Also just imagine that you grew up in a poor family and applied this same principle and said "Both my parent's and all of my family are dirt poor so now I will just be poor like them.. why try?" -- The book is awesome but just that suggestion alone brought it down from a 5-star book to a 3-star book. The author should know better.
PS: If you're a man and reading this, go after any Woman you want. A man that works on himself (life, career, goals, etc) can get any Woman he wants provided he makes her feel great around him. Period.
A FAR better book is The Manual: What Women Want and How to Give it to Them. The Manual will give you a better understanding of attraction and how it applies in real world dating. It points out that your needs and wants are your primary concern and tells you how to find, and date, women that you could be happy with. It also warns against taking dating advice from women (such as the author of Changing Your Game), and, I believe, rightly so. Do yourself a favor and get a copy of The Manual. Read it twice. It has thought provoking content that is better understood the second time around. The Manual DOES NOT include any PUA BS.
Threatened to call the cops on me because I persistently tried to get in touch with them, despite their clear signs of disinterest in me. Furthermore, many many times I have tried to correspond with women, who have done nothing other than ignoring my emails when I tried to reach out to them.I actually have many stories I can share with you, but if you read this book, it will make the whole picture make sense as to why this has happened to me, and to make sure the future is brighter.
I met girls in college, in church, in my neighborhood, and everywhere else I would go. But, unlike other guys who can find a female to comfortable with, I could never seem to come to the point where I had a bond with anyone. The reason? Well, according to the book, it was all because my my ATTITUDE.
I heard the term, "I don't like your attitude" before, or "catching an attitude," but I never know the deepness of the definition. My father recently told me that he didn't like my attitude, in reference to a complicated family disagreement.
But, despite all the occurrences of the vocabulary of attitude, I never really knew what an attitude is all about. Well, if you read the first chapter of this book, and if you have my hopeless attitude (there goes the word again!), you will feel like a new world is being exposed to you. You will see your life in a whole new light.
This book teaches you to stop living in the past. Stop letting a boo-hoo moment in the past, a time when you wanted to give up, effect you in the current time. Yes, my former classmate told me in an email, that if i don't leave her alone, she will call the cops. And I've been yelled at on Facebook by other women too. I even went so far as to question myself as to whether or not I was inadvertently living the life of stalker. I thought my "problem-solving approach" (continually trying to change other people's minds by insisting that they should not give up on me lol) was THEIR fault, because why can't we just "talk it out?"
Well, in addition to explaining that your attitude is a gigantic reason for your failure, this books also magically teaches you the art of accepting rejection by having pure serenity. The way the book explains, "just say no problem, and move on" was a real eye opener as to how I can be a stronger person. Instead of crying to mommy about the ice cream cone I wanted so terribly bad, just realize the mommy is NOT GOING TO BUY ME ONE, and LET IT BE.
Letting things be is like the major change that this book taught me, in addition to the whole changing your nasty attitude. When you come to realize that some things in life are NOT IN YOUR CONTROL, no matter how much you would like it to be, you truly start to believe that, even though hearing "no" may hurt, you just gotta accept it, and there's really no other way around it. Just like when you go to a funeral and see a dead body in front of you, there is absolutely no technology available to us that can change it and bring the dead to life. In just the same way, rejection is something that you need to accept, even if you are strongly interested in the other person; if they are not interested in return, just leave it alone.
So, this book is mostly about moving on from the past, and accepting rejection with a polite grain or two of salt. It teaches you to clear your mind of all the lies you've been carrying around with you. By understanding the cause of your past failures, only then can you start fresh and try again and hopefully not make the same mistakes you've made in the past.