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Charisma On Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energize Everyone You Meet Paperback – Large Print, October 8, 2014
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1. More actionable.
There is a 30-day action guide at the end, like a workout plan for your charisma skills.
2. More realistic and nuanced in its advice.
Not the typical "Make more eye contact!" quips, nor the vague Dale Carnegie advice on "Show interest in the other person by asking them questions"--the authors actually go into detail on crucial things you need to do before asking people about themselves, in order to have them actually care about giving good answers..
3. Easier and faster to read.
The book makes an important distinction between mindset (inside) vs. behavior (outside). If you have all the "right" behavior but you don't have the inner mindset to match it, people will notice the incongruence, and feel that it lacks in authenticity. For example, the first part detailed 12 Charismatic Convictions, all of which were related to mindset rather than behavior:
- I'm okay. I will be okay.
- I care more about my character than the opinions of others.
- I have impeccable integrity.
- Don't convince.
- Communicate your purpose.
- Break solemnity and be fun.
- Broach taboo topics.
- Demonstrate clear boundaries.
- Break down physical barriers.
- Be liberal with your praise.
- Let others know when you're nervous, pissed, or hurt.
- Reveal your flaws.
Only then is there discussion of outer behaviors to practice (body language, style of dress, conversational techniques). Things I started using immediately were:
- Eye contact, beyond the basics: How to make eye contact while coming across as "competent" and "confident", instead of "creepy" (the Bill Clinton "squint" vs. wide-eyed deer-in-headlights look).
- The 3 types of conversations (news, fun, values), and when it is appropriate to use each (except news--never fall into the "news" type of conversation)
- Answer the 3 most common questions in a way that hooks others' interest immediately ("How are you?", "Where are you from?", and "What do you do?")
The only thing that I wish was in the book is a walkthrough of how to lead and command in a group environment.
Charlie has created a spot-on guide to charisma development which, along with Olivia Fox Cabane's recent book, tears down the notion that charisma is an natural gift reserved for the select few. He establishes that charisma is fact a skill based on learned behavior; a skill that can be developed by anyone with the requisite patience and tenacity.
Charlie starts with the premise that charisma must begin by cultivating charismatic convictions; those beliefs that will support you in pursuing your path towards personal magnetism. Given that many charismatic behaviors are non-verbal and ruled by our subconscious thoughts, this is the perfect starting point. Providing more than just theory, Charlie clearly explains HOW to establish the correct mindsets for charismatic behaviors.
For the remainder of the book, Charlie outlines the major elements of charisma- eye contact, gesture, vocal inflection, storytelling, and more. At the end, he provides a 30 day action plan for developing greater charisma. The plan is very detailed and outlines specific steps to take on each day. Charlie has created the P90X of charisma development!
All in all, an exemplary book. Charlie takes great pains to write in practical, accessible language. Throughout, he focuses his efforts on going beyond the theoretical to provide a How-To guide to developing your own charisma. Well done, Charlie!
As probably everyone who read this book, I got to it after being a fan of the Charisma on Command YouTube channel. The YouTube channel is great and super inspiring. My thoughts before buying the book were that for sure it will be a book full with wisdom, but even if it will not be a good book, it will be a simple and very low cost gesture of gratitude to Charlie, for the wonderful work he is doing and the amazing value he adds to his followers.
The book is pretty much a summary of the important videos on the YouTube channel. However, it is of a great value to have it in the form of a book, to come back to it often, to mark and add notes, etc.
I hope this book will be picked by a major publisher one day so we can have a second edition of the book. It will be great to have it with page numbers and a bit different layout. Nevertheless, the content of the book and what you can gain from it is of a great value with or without page numbers!
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