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What Children Learn from Their Parents' Marriage: It May Be Your Marriage, but It's Your Child's Blueprint for Intimacy Paperback – May 8, 2001

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"As we all come to realize, sooner or later, our childrens' lives speak our truth. In What Children Learn from Their Parents' Marriage, Dr. Judith Siegel throws a wonderfully clarifying light upon the specific ways in which the ordinary interchanges of the couple create their youngsters' basic blueprint for later loving and relating." -- Maggie Scarf, author of Intimate Worlds

"Dr. Judith Siegel has written a compact, elegantly simple, thoroughly useful book that all parents'and many others'will find helpful and illuminating. One of the most valuable roles a clinician can fill is that of informed messenger, taking the hard-won lessons learned from people in distress and offering them up to others, so that they might avoid the same distress. Dr. Siegel is an honest, careful and intelligent messenger." -- Edward Hallowell, M.D., co-author of Driven to Distraction

"Fear not: The numerous clinical cases illustrated here demonstrate how you can improve your children's perspective of mariltal relationships. It's never too late. All parents can benefit from this solid read." -- Nashville Parent

"Looking at marriage from the child's point of view is a valuable and essential perspective. Dr. Siegel's book is interesting and easy to read, and will be of great value to many parents." -- Donald R. Bardill, Ph.D., Editor, The Journal of Family Social Work

"This startling and significant book is truly a wake-up call for all parents today. Our children are watching!" -- -- Stephen R. Covey, author of The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Families

"This startling and significant book is truly a wake-up call for all parents today. Our children are watching!" -- Stephen R. Covey, author of The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Families --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

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Judith P. Siegel, Ph.D., C.S.W., is an associate professor at the New York University Ehrenkranz School of Social Work and a marriage and family therapist in private practice. A recognized expert in her field, she is the author of two academic books and numerous articles on marital dynamics and marriage therapy.
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Product Details

  • Paperback: 256 pages
  • Publisher: Harper Perennial; English Language edition (May 8, 2001)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0060929308
  • ISBN-13: 978-0060929305
  • Product Dimensions: 5.3 x 0.6 x 8 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 6.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.9 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (10 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,070,460 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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By A Customer on March 23, 2000
Format: Hardcover
This book is excellent and really focuses on average families. What kids grown up living in their households is really a reflection on what their future goals will be as molded by their parents. It is a wonderful book to read if you are looking for a practical, easy to understand book on what you can do to make your marriage more wholesome and the reflection of that will set the pace for your children in the future and what choices they make for themselves. I highly recommend it.
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It may not come as a shock to most parents that the lessons our children learn in childhood are carried with them throughout their lives, but what this book makes clear is how our own marriages form a blueprint from which all our children's future relationships will be built. Siegel creates a compelling narrative using lots of case histories and anecdotes, which makes this an easy read. She helps us identify not only what we are doing wrong in our marriage, but what we're doing right, which makes our foibles a lot easier to acknowledge. She also helps us to explore how deeply our own parents' marriage affected us. A very important book with a very important goal--"the opportunity to create a positive legacy of love for our children."
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I think that basically every adult should read this book. While the title might suggest a focus on children, the subject matter is really the characteristics of a healthy partnership that, if present and observed by children will give them a positive example that will help them when it is time for them to form their own adult relationships. Or undermine them if they learned unhelpful lessons. Regardless of if a partnership has or will have children, the book is very clear about the characteristics of a healthy and fulfilling marriage. Of course, it also address It is also very concrete about what "for the children" really means in a marriage. Beyond the subject matter, the book is clearly written, is supported by and refers to current research, and uses understandable examples/anecdotes to reinforce the points in the book.

I expect most people will find one section or another uncomfortable because it does make clear ways that we can develop patterns from our own childhood that lead us to do unhelpful things but that seem very rational/reasonable to us.

A month after having bought and read the book, I've purchased three other copies for other friends and family and have recommended it to many other friends.
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About how your parent's marriage effects your own
Marriage. Helps u understand your actions within
Your marriage. Helps you
to see the patterns of harmful behavior and
Gives suggestions how to undo these to decrease burden on your kids.
Excellent book!
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I'm a psychotherapist and the information in this book has been helpful as I have worked with my clients to help them see how their behavior impacts their children. I really like this book.
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