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Coming Out of Shame: Transforming Gay and Lesbian Lives Paperback – December 1, 1996
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What I didn't expect is that the book spoke to me as a heterosexual woman. It turns out that American culture doesn't limit its shame to gay men and lesbians. Women in general are trained to feel ashamed of normal, healthy, human sexuality.
The authors show how shame becomes internalized, so that you don't need anyone else wagging their finger at you--you shame yourself for healthy, human feelings (about a lot more than sex!). This book will be helpful to people coming out of the closet and to most women. Also the authors' personal anecdotes are constructive, funny and helpful. A copy of this book belongs in every coming out gift basket.
Once I managed to push past my own internal resistance to the material, I realized why it was that I initially found it difficult.
This book profoundly changed my life an altered my perceptions of my own emotions, as well as the emotions of people around me.
So many little confounding things that I never quite "got" that happened to me in the past I finally understood. The authors do a remarkable job at showing how functional Tomkins Affect and Script Theory is, how to apply it to your everyday life, and how to learn and grow from your new awareness. Amazing job, I can not thank them enough.
I was so impacted by this work that I actually started reading Tomkins very complex Affect Imagery and Consciousness.
Though this book focuses on gay and lesbian people, it's far from restricted to them; literally anyone can get a great deal of insight from this book. Pick it up and give it a shot, you will not be sorry. It can change your life.
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too technical and complicated; describes the problem very well but very little practical advice on how to resolve or remove this very painful emotion. Read morePublished 11 months ago by K-Dawg
Recommended by my therapist, this book is a little on the wordy side, but definitely good material (and not only for the GLBT community)Published 16 months ago by Walter P. Sherman
one of the BEST books I have read in my entire life since reading this book my self esteem has RISEN wowPublished on September 26, 2013 by JOSE
This book might be harder to read if you don't have any college experience. It is written and reads just like a college text book but with some anecdotal stories. Read morePublished on July 14, 2009 by Michael W. Trivette