Enter your mobile number or email address below and we'll send you a link to download the free Kindle App. Then you can start reading Kindle books on your smartphone, tablet, or computer - no Kindle device required.
To get the free app, enter your mobile phone number.
Other Sellers on Amazon
+ Free Shipping
+ $5.10 shipping
+ $3.99 shipping
Creative Correction Paperback – April 1, 2005
Frequently bought together
Customers who bought this item also bought
Customers who viewed this item also viewed
From the Publisher
Drawing from her own family's experience and through her interaction with other parents, Lisa Whelchel offers creative solutions for parents who are desperate for new, proven approaches to discipline. In addition to advice on topics such as sibling conflict and lying, Whelchel offers a biblical perspective and down-to-earth encouragement to parents who are feeling overwhelmed. A handy reference guide with ideas for specific situations rounds out this resource that will be a blessing to parents and their children. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
From the Author
I'm so happy that you are interested in my new book, "Creative Correction". My desire is to help moms and dads find practical help and fresh hope for the arduous, yet rewarding, task of raising healthy, happy children.
I have three children, ages 8,9 & 10, including a son diagnosed with ADHD. It was out of sheer desperation that I came up with many of the discipline ideas in this book. Traditional child-rearing methods are a good place to start but I found, as I'm sure you have as well, that my three children just aren't cookie cutter kids. They each required, and deserved, discipline that took into account their own inherent strengths and weaknesses.
My friends have urged me for years to write down some of my ideas, stories and insights for disciplining my children. I can only hope the ideas in "Creative Correction" will help you as much as they have helped me to enjoy the process of parenting. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
Top customer reviews
There was a problem filtering reviews right now. Please try again later.
There are times that I do come up with "creative" ideas for my kids. Right now I have a rewards poster on the wall, wherein they color more squares and get closer to little goals, if they complete their morning chores on time, and well. Last week, My daughter received a skittle for each piano song she practiced because it was so very difficult for her, having taken the summer off. So I'm not against **occasionally** dangling a carrot for the kids. Additionally, there have been times where my kids did get natural consequences. Taking one hour in the shower, and then being late to dinner, means my daughter gets no dessert because there simply isn't time for it. She is so long finishing her dinner, that we are through with dinner and dessert before she barely gets a mouthful.
BUT...BUT... I just feel like this book is a never ending series of either dangling carrots or humiliations. There are constant presents, awards, prizes, and gimmicks for every little thing she wants the kids to do. Conversely, the book has innumerable ideas for shaming, humiliating, annoying and embarrassing kids with "creative" ideas to correct their behavior. Again, these are not "natural consequences." They are a constant merry go round of weird and unusual ways to frustrate the child. It seems rather controlling to me.
There are better Christian parenting books out there...Don't Make Me Count to Three, Hints on Child Training, and "Get Rid of whining, complaining, and Bad Attitudes in You and Your Kids" are all good options to consider.
If you have reached the point where you feel that these "punishments" are the only things that will work, I suggest you try family counseling before causing irrevocable damage to your child.
"6)I am absolutely completely and utterly terrified that I won't ever be able to get over my all-consuming fear of abandonment. It is such an overwhelmingly huge and deeply rooted fear that shows up in almost every aspect of my life, I don't think I will ever be healed from it in order to become whole. "
"3) I feel like I'll never be able to be completely confident in myself, in who God made me to be. Because I look to others so often that my idea of myself will always be based on what other people think. "
"1)I feel like I'll never be whole. I feel like I will always be needy, I feel like I will always be dependent on another human, I feel like I will always be let down and hurt and disappointed by the person I most love because of the amount of pressure I put on them.
In addition to what seems to be emotional dependance and abandonism syndrom, she also doesn't trust her ability in taking decisions for herself (as had predicted many reviewers):
"2)I feel like I won't choose correctly for my life. I'm scared that I am going to choose based on my emotions and my feelings and end up really messing up my life and being miserable."
Neither is she confident enough to trust her own judgement and have personal opinions:
"4) I'm scared that I'll never be able to have and/or stick to my own opinion. I feel like all of my thoughts are based on what other people say and believe and it often changes with the wind. "
You can read this here [...].
I do think it's really courageous from Clancy to be so open about herself. I felt great sympathy for her by reading her blog and I really hope I'm not hurting her in any way by using it for this review.
As she's still worhsipping (I think that's the word I'm not using it in a pejorative way) her parents, I'm afraid she will never question the way she's been treated by them and might even be considered by some people as a proof that Lisa's ways worked: she does look like a very beautiful, happy and confident young woman on the outside.
Once you've read her blog, you see that she often feels pretty low. But on the pictures taken at the same time, she does looks happy: I guess this is an example of how deceptive appearances can be. I hope noone will ever be so naive as to take what Lisa's children look like on the outside for a proof that the way she treated them wasn't harmful...
I'd also like to add that from what I've read on Lisa's former blog, she's very used to say one thing and do another: while there is no doubt she's treated her children in an awful way, she hasn't used all of the "ideas" of her book. Please don't stick to this book to raise your child. Not even Lisa has. And she has already deeply damaged her children's emotional and psychological health.
(I'm french sorry for my poor english)
(I don't question the fact that Lisa may love her children and that her relationship with them might also have some positive aspects. Lisa (who has been raised in the kind of way she advocates for in this book (she even quotes her mother as an example) seems to struggle with many emotional insecurities herself (for instance she has confided that she had never had any close friends until her 40's because she felt she had to be perfect in order to be liked. She has also explained how eager she is to please others even at the cost of forgetting her own feelings or opinions. She's been unhappy for years because she had married a man she had never loved: because of a misunderstanding a pastor had announced her upcoming marriage with a guy she felt no attraction for. She didn't dare asserting her will even in a decision that will affect her entire life, she was very worried of what people would think "I realized that I couldn't continue to attend, knowing that every little old lady I passed in the sanctuary would be whispering, "There goes the Jezebel who broke sweet Steve Cauble's heart.": she eventually convinced herself that this marriage was God's will and got wed. She recently divorced and has confessed she had been unhappy for years contrary to what she pretended. She no longer believes it was God's will for her to marry this man and regrets she didn't listen to her heart.)
I feel sympathy for her but while I'm not sure how aware she is of what she's doing, I have no doubt her book is a really dangerous one.)