Enter your mobile number or email address below and we'll send you a link to download the free Kindle App. Then you can start reading Kindle books on your smartphone, tablet, or computer - no Kindle device required.
To get the free app, enter your mobile phone number.
Other Sellers on Amazon
+ $3.99 shipping
+ $3.99 shipping
+ $3.99 shipping
Curly Like Me: How to Grow Your Hair Healthy, Long, and Strong Paperback – May 1, 2010
The Amazon Book Review
Author interviews, book reviews, editors picks, and more. Read it now
Frequently bought together
Customers who bought this item also bought
From the Back Cover
"Curly Like Me made me laugh, with and at my hair. It allowed me to secretly cry over a childhood spent wondering, 'why won't my curls behave, or my hair wave in the wind.' Today I embrace my texture, the unique perk of being biracial, and live for 'natural is the only way to go.' Thank you, Teri, for your book, which every girl of color with curly hair who has spent years with hot combs, chemicals, and frizz, should read."
—Rain Pryor, author of Jokes My Father Never Taught Me: Life, Love, and Loss with Richard Pryor and winner of the NAACP Theatre Award
"Curly Like Me is down-to-earth, fun to read, and chock-full of useful information for curly girls everywhere. Kudos to Teri LaFlesh for showing the world that curly hair can be a blessing, not a burden."
—Lori Tharps, author of Kinky Gazpacho and coauthor of Hair Story
"A great hair guide for coily heads that is easy to read, fun, relatable, understandable, and full of tips and advice that will make living with humid-sensitive hair enjoyable."
—Mireille Liong-A-Kong, founder of Going-Natural.com and author of Going Natural: How to Fall in Love with Nappy Hair
"You'll read this excellent how-to guide to get Teri's envious beautiful curls, but you'll love this book because you'll have Teri's gentle and endearing voice in your ear for a journey to acceptance of your curly-haired self!"
—Heidi W. Durrow, author of The Girl Who Fell from the Sky and co-host of Mixed Chicks Chat
Very curly hair isn't like any other type of hair—and it requires totally different care.
Curly Like Me is the off-the-grid, do-it-yourself owner's manual for tightly curly hair. Discover the techniques you need to celebrate your curly hair—not fight against it. In this book, you will learn not only how to care for your curls but to cherish them, while saving you time, effort, and money.
- How to wear your curls in your own natural curl pattern
- The best products, tools, and ingredients for curly hair
- How to understand your hair—a guide to curly hair structure and behavior
- More than 250 photos and illustrations
- A special chapter on pain-free curly hair care for kids
Let Curly Like Me empower you to take charge of your hair so you can embrace your beautiful curls and set them free.
Top customer reviews
- spending several hours trying to comb out knots while crying
- having hair that will take 30 minutes to comb out again, even if you start immediately after you just did it
- having hair so dry that little pieces of it break off every time you comb or brush it
- finding that even wide-tooth combs put way too much stress on your hair (a brush with rubber is a must)
- wishing and longing (pun intended) for beautiful long hair, only to have well-meaning but ignorant parents and hair salons keep chopping off your hair unnecessarily because they don't know how, or have the patience, to get a comb through it
- growing up in a world where your natural texture of hair is considered bad, ugly, unprofessional, etc
What I love about this book is that the author has gone beyond the usual, accepted techniques in order to find what works for her own hair, and in the process, has achieved her heart's desire, which some part of her KNEW was possible. I don't believe God gives us desires that can't be fulfilled, and learning how Teri refused to accept the BS everyone have her has given me inspiration to do the same. I'm really interested to see how the methods work on my hair and will report once I've tested them.
So when my hair started getting shorter, I gave up relaxers and just decided to cover up my hair with sew-in extensions. They gave me the (synthetic) straight, long hair that I desired...with many caveats that I did not desire. Sew-ins were expensive, hot, itchy and high-maintenance, and when I styled my hair with it I had to use A LOT of heat- flat irons, curling irons, hot rollers, oh my! - to keep my kinky curly hair matching the bone-straight false hair. The only good effect of this hair style was that I suddenly noticed that the hair hidden beneath my extensions, my real hair, was growing like wild weeds. The girls at the salon actually starting giving me compliments on my hair's thickness and blown-out length, asking me why I was covering it up with weave! Curious about my own hair for the first time in my life, I wanted to try this "going natural" thing. I was terrified and had no idea where to begin, so I started by buying several books about African-textured hair care on Amazon and watching other Naturals talk about their regimens on YouTube.
I gravitated towards "Curly Like Me" for three reasons: Teri's beautiful, spectacular, lengthy curls; the simplicity of the method; and her friendly and extremely informative writing style and personality. I loved the fact that her Tightly Curly Method eliminated 99% of the hair products that I was wondering if I should buy. I loved that it involved a couple hours of work just once a week, and then mere minutes of attention in the morning and at night for the rest of the week. I also loved the idea of no dry brushing (YES! Few things were as painful and scary to me as having a brush or comb rip through my hair to get out knots), but at the same time I found that a bit foreign and frightening (I only brush my hair once a week?? How's that going to work??).
I have been utilizing this method for almost a year now, and I absolutely love it. I love the emphais on curl definition. Going natural with your Type 4 hair does not mean you have to rock an Afro. You certainly can if you want to, and they are majestic and beautiful, but if you are fan of curls like I am, you can choose to embrace your curl pattern (yes, Type 4 hair has a curl pattern!). I get so many compliments, stares and questions about my hair texture now, it really amazes me. You would think my hair type was rare or something! :-)
My hair also LOVES this regimen and is thriving. Because my hair is always worn in it's tightly curled, "shrunk" pattern and rarely stretched too much, my hair length and growth is often hidden and not apparent. When I comb it out every week with my Denman brush, that's when I really see the quickly accumulating length. If you would straighten my hair, it would be the longest it's ever been in my life, well past the "border" of my collarbone and down to my breasts...and it ain't done yet! :-) In it's "shrunken" curly state, my hair is now beginning to graze my shoulders, and I'm starting to experience Teri's mentioned "hazards" of long tightly curly hair. I now have to be careful that my hair doesn't get caught in back zippers, under my bra strap/purse strap or even on low-hanging objects. I am happy to say that never has a new problem made me so excited! :-)
So while "Curly Like Me" is my undisputed hair Bible (tweaked in a few small places to fit my preferences), I understand that this will not be for everyone. For example, the combing conditioner is the key ingredient in this method. It can be one of the main factors in determining if this method is successful for you or not, so it is important to follow her instructions to the T for choosing a great combing conditioner. (Herbal Essences Hello Hydration Conditioner has and will always be my Number One favorite.) If you try to use one that doesn't contain enough of the key ingredients that she lists,it will most likely give you less than satisfactory results. If you choose to go silicone-free, as another example, this method will probably not work for you. Teri recommends silicone as a key ingredient in your combing conditioner as it provides a lot of slip to get the brush through your wet hair easily AND weight to weigh down and lock in your curl pattern.
One thing that I sometimes wish I can change is the way the curls are "re-vived" every day: by applying water and more of the combing conditioner. The look is wonderful, but my hair is now damp until it dries, and in winter this can take a looong time, so I have to do it early. But again, it retains my curls and it provides long-lasting moisture, which my hair really needs, so I just put up with it. Furthermore, the combing conditioner keeps my curls beautifully against high moderate rain, wind and humidity. It's soo freeing and refreshing to not be afraid of nature anymore! :-) Another (small) complaint: the actual combing process is a bit messy. As instructed, I use A LOT of conditioner on wet hair, and I LOVE the end result, but conditioner goes flying everywhere! It's on the mirror, the floor, all over me in splatters, on the wall. So clean-up is a pain in the rear. It also, as the name implies, is designed to keep your hair in it's tightly curly state. Teri is a curly hair purist and designed her method around embracing hair "shrinkage." She does mention, instruct and model the two-strand twist-out look that stretches hair and sets it in waves, but she even admits that she prefers her tight curls and personally frowns upon any curl stretching. When you wear your hair in its natural tightest curl, your hair may appear to be about half it's actual length, like mine. If you like frequently straightening or at least stretching out your curls to a frizzier, dramatic fashion that maximizes your length (a gorgeous look, BTW), this regimen may not work for you. You will be applying water and conditioner every day, so again, the whole method will keep your hair "shrunk" in a tight curl every day. I also do not braid my hair at night like she suggests. I divide my hair into 4 sections, apply extra virgin coconut oil and set into 4 buns. She recommends just a satin pillow, but I choose to cover my hair completely when I sleep by wearing a satin bonnet or scarf. The 4 buns work really well for me and retain my curls, even through sweaty morning workout sessions.
So all in all, I absolutely love this method. I am not "bi-racial," but this method really works for me. I love it's simplicity and the gorgeous results it gives me: a thick head-full of "mini-slinkies", tiny defined curls all over that remain pretty defined for 3-4 days and then get increasingly frizzier after that ( I just style my hair partially or fully up after that...still looks cute!).
Teri LaFlesh, in my eyes, is a saviour. :-) I may still be Natural today without her, but I definitely would not have transitioned with such calm and stability without her book guiding me and laying down some much-needed guidelines. I love that she presented me with a narrow, simple road free of confusing product and styling distractions that overwhelmed me at the beginning, and I love her for sharing her story and empowerment. I am forever indebted to her. In fact, I wish I could burn my flat iron, the most recent instrument of my hair's oppression...except for the fact that I'm pretty sure that that's environmentally frowned upon...and just plain weird. :-)
If you are someone who has not yet formed your perfect regimen, I highly recommend that you at least give this book a try. Even if you don't adopt it in its entirety, you may come away with a few things or, at the very least, feel really good about being blessed with a head full of unique curls. :-)
02/19/14 Product UPDATE: Still loving the regimen, but as of today, I sadly can no longer recommend Hello Hydration's conditioners due to the inclusion of Sodium Hydroxide (thanks to Teri La Flesh's own website for pointing this change out!!), a lye ingredient that is used in things like relaxers (eek!). However, it is explained that the SH is used in a small amount (it is very low on the ingredient list) mainly as a PH balancer to smooth out the chemical composition of the conditioner, and, my hair HAS thrived using this for almost a year (not sure when they started adding this ingredient...I know that my first few bottles, at least, did not contain it). But then again, it very well may damage it over years of use, and the combing conditioner is something that you will use a LOT of, so...I'm switching to Aussie Moist Conditioner as of today! But, look it up for yourself and use your own judgement! And like Teri says in her book, always check those ingredients, because beauty companies change them without announcement.
11/11/14 UPDATE: I've finally realized a few months ago that I don't need to use so much water on my hair to refresh it in the mornings. I used to go a bit crazy, and now add just a tad, literally just enough to dampen it, with a dime-sized drop of combing conditioner section by section (I do this in 4 sections). This has given me much better results, allowing my hair to dry much faster. :-) Also, my hair is now moving PAST my shoulders and reaching down towards my collarbone in its tightly curled state. (I think it would be further down if I didn't have such a long neck! :-) Straightened, it would now be past my breasts. Holy Hair!! :-) Thank you Teri!
8/12/17 UPDATE: I am STILL using this method, I STILL love it and I now have waist-length hair if you would straighten it! I absolutely love my natural curls! My new fave combing conditioner is Pantene Pro-V Smooth & Sleek Dream Care conditioner. I have also taken up (and highly recommend) finger detangling first washed hair, using water, the combing conditioner AND extra virgin coconut oil. I still use the Denman brush, but I primarily use it as a curl definer and secondary detangler, if I can't get a tiny not out with my fingers, for example. It's hilarious, because even though my hair would now be to my waist if straightened, it still is so tightly curly that it barely clears my shoulders when it its natural curls. Because of this, I do stretch my hair in the mornings using hair clips. and that stretches my hair down past my shoulders WHILE keeping my curl pattern in tact (YouTube has many videos on hair stretching). So the point of this posting is that years later, I am still in love with this method, so it passes the test of time, certainly. Another point is that you may have to tweak it to find parts of this method that work for you. But as far as the basic, foundation method, this has been a wonderful source of knowledge for me, and I am a fan for life!!
I also grew up as a multiracial child in a white family, in a white small town, where no one knew how to care for my hair and every message I got from the media and my peers was that my hair was unmanageable, ugly, frumpy, trashy, and "wrong".
I remember desperately ironing my hair with my mother's clothes iron, trying to make my hair pretty and straight and swingy like everyone else's. I remember using school glue to try and hold down the frizz on my crown into a "normal", neat pony tail and buying relaxer from the dirty, hidden back corner of the drugstore, behind the cleaning supplies, where all the black haircare products were hidden.
My curls weren't just "ugly and messy", to me, the were representative of the "socially unacceptable" half of my racial heritage, something that every influence in my life implicitly or explicitly taught me I should deny and despise. In those days I'd search desperately for mentions of dark-skinned characters in the books I'd read and the shows I'd watch. I was too young for Oprah: I had Beyonce and Will Smith/the cast of Fresh Prince- most other black performers were considered "trashy" and unacceptable.
I remember, too, the giant clumps of hair that fell out when I tried to use a relaxer and walking around with a bald patch because of it. This was before the internet was ubiquitous the way it is now, and for more than the first half of my life I didn't even really understand that there *were* other girls like me.
The few popular culture figures that came into my world which were black or mixed all had their hair straightened (Beyonce's hair was smooth and sleek), or else in braids or dreads- styles I'd been taught were trashy or dirty or ghetto (unless they were on white girls), and unacceptable for me.
Teri's honesty and candor spoke to me- for the first time someone seemed to understand what I was going through. I found her before I found mixed race beauty gurus on YouTube, before curly headed, mixed race models were as common on billboards and in advertisements. And again, i lived in a small, predominantly white town - even if those billboards were in big cities, I never saw them.
My journey of learning to love and care for and accept my natural hair as beautiful and worthy has been part of learning to accept myself as beautiful and worthy, and understood.
I don't just feel like I learned how to take care of my hair from Teri's book and website. I learned that I'm okay, and that I'm not alone. I'll always be grateful to her for that.