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How to Date in a Post-Dating World Paperback – April 11, 2006

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Unlike almost every other dating book out there, this one includes men and women, gay and straight.… -- Bust magazine, June/July 2006

About the Author

Diane Mapes’s humorous essays on pop culture, the single life, television, travel, naked sushi, and more have appeared in many publications, including Bust, Mental Floss, the Los Angeles Times, and The Washington Post. She lives in Seattle.
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Product Details

  • Paperback: 224 pages
  • Publisher: Sasquatch Books (April 11, 2006)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1570614709
  • ISBN-13: 978-1570614705
  • Product Dimensions: 5.4 x 0.7 x 7.5 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 8.8 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 4.1 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (12 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #795,759 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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By T. Schmitt on July 7, 2006
Format: Paperback
Despite the title, this is not a "How-To" book.

"How To Date in a Post Dating World" is a mildly amusing 90 minute read on the awkward and amusing stages of dating. The overall style of the book is, each chapter discusses a dating topic by presenting quotes and dating war stories from the dating veterans and then expounds in essay format the main points under consideration. As such, the book is more of a discussion on dating rather than actually advice on dating. It's more about the current "state of the nation" on the dating world. Practical tips such as, "Complimenting a person's smile is a good ice breaker" are not present. Therefore, the book as a discussion on dating is a nominally good read that will hold your interest, but it will not increase your dating life.

Of what's not good, first, this book is constrained in that it's written for both men and women. If you really want to increase your dating life, then there are gender appropriate strategies you should be aware of and undertake. Second, when the book does get specific, it's on information that's basic and old advice. For instance, while it's important to wear good clothes on a first date, or for guys to make sure their fingernails are clean, this is the oldest of dating advice. The fact that many people still miss these fundamentals shows the advice is still applicable, but it's old as rocks to anyone who has spent any time on the dating scene. Besides, after learning what not to do, you're still not filled in on what you should be doing.

Of what's good, first, the book interprets the old dating dilemmas into the current day. Going beyond who should pay for the condoms, the book discusses best use of online profiles, etiquette of blogging about your most recent sexual encounter, and so on.
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This is definitely one of the better dating books I've read.

I found this book to be encouraging - it really enforced my belief that both men and women are very lonely and that not very many people actually enjoy being single. That most of us are trying to find someone we think we deserve who we can be with long term, in order to feel loved and less lonely. And that dating is the only way you can do that, so you might as well go into it with a positive attitude that you will enjoy dating and try to make it as enjoyable for the people you date as well.

That's the main thing I took home from this book, but there is a lot more. It was also a fast, enjoyable read because it was written with a great sense of humor.
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It is immaculately refreshing to find what is presumably a 'dating' book to be both thoroughly researched and entirely free of the cliches and stereotypes that many contemporary writers would have engaged on the topic of the battle of the sexes.

In How to Date, there is absolutely none of that 'men are all sex-seeking slobs and women are all manipulative gold-diggers' paradigm. Mapes prose is light and funny but also sharp, clinical, even analytical at times. Her reporter's voice keeps its distance and is free of simplistic judgments. This is a book with real, from the trenches, dating stories. Gay, straight, old, young, no matter. Only people looking for love.

This author has clearly done her homework. How To Date has a timeless quality to it. There are loads of references to books on the topic from earlier times. The book feels like a classic, 20th Century study of social manners. The artwork and layout are what you would imagine Miss Lonelyhearts' column to have looked like.

But dating in our post-dating world is clearly a contemporary subject and Mapes fills the book with simple but fundamental advice. She lays out the basics of dating, the use of dating services and helps one navigate the frightful waters of Internet romance. But never taking it too seriously. This book has lots of jokes, the funniest ones in the How-To's, and the prose makes light of the subject to no end. This is a light read but only in the best sense of those words.

Now, why refer to How To Date as "presumably" a dating book? Because what we also have here is a fascinating anthropological resource that I'm sure future generations will use to hold us in the contempt and pity we deserve. The book includes dozens of first person dating stories by Mapes' many sources.
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This book was fun and full of good common sense--wise suggestions with a deft, intelligent, humorous touch. Lots of information, too, that I found very interesting, about the history of dating--and the latest trends (silent dating, speed dating, etc.). I like the fact that the advice in the book can be utilized by anyone who wants to date--that it's not gender specific, or specific to sexual preference.

An enjoyable read, with advice that really could make a difference in a person's dating life, if read carefully and taken to heart!
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How can singles date? Diane Mapes maintains most people don't know how to date anymore - and while there are plenty of books telling how to snare a wonderful man or woman, few teach now to be fair and attractive to others. Single readers will here find a romantic etiquette guide for modern times, designed as a portable tote and field guide and providing advice gleaned from the author's interviews with singles across the country: singles who hate dating!

Diane C. Donovan

California Bookwatch
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