Enter your mobile number or email address below and we'll send you a link to download the free Kindle App. Then you can start reading Kindle books on your smartphone, tablet, or computer - no Kindle device required.
To get the free app, enter your mobile phone number.
How to Date in a Post-Dating World Paperback – April 11, 2006
This Modern Love
The exciting new release from Will Darbyshire. Learn more
Customers Who Viewed This Item Also Viewed
Top Customer Reviews
"How To Date in a Post Dating World" is a mildly amusing 90 minute read on the awkward and amusing stages of dating. The overall style of the book is, each chapter discusses a dating topic by presenting quotes and dating war stories from the dating veterans and then expounds in essay format the main points under consideration. As such, the book is more of a discussion on dating rather than actually advice on dating. It's more about the current "state of the nation" on the dating world. Practical tips such as, "Complimenting a person's smile is a good ice breaker" are not present. Therefore, the book as a discussion on dating is a nominally good read that will hold your interest, but it will not increase your dating life.
Of what's not good, first, this book is constrained in that it's written for both men and women. If you really want to increase your dating life, then there are gender appropriate strategies you should be aware of and undertake. Second, when the book does get specific, it's on information that's basic and old advice. For instance, while it's important to wear good clothes on a first date, or for guys to make sure their fingernails are clean, this is the oldest of dating advice. The fact that many people still miss these fundamentals shows the advice is still applicable, but it's old as rocks to anyone who has spent any time on the dating scene. Besides, after learning what not to do, you're still not filled in on what you should be doing.
Of what's good, first, the book interprets the old dating dilemmas into the current day. Going beyond who should pay for the condoms, the book discusses best use of online profiles, etiquette of blogging about your most recent sexual encounter, and so on.Read more ›
I found this book to be encouraging - it really enforced my belief that both men and women are very lonely and that not very many people actually enjoy being single. That most of us are trying to find someone we think we deserve who we can be with long term, in order to feel loved and less lonely. And that dating is the only way you can do that, so you might as well go into it with a positive attitude that you will enjoy dating and try to make it as enjoyable for the people you date as well.
That's the main thing I took home from this book, but there is a lot more. It was also a fast, enjoyable read because it was written with a great sense of humor.
In How to Date, there is absolutely none of that 'men are all sex-seeking slobs and women are all manipulative gold-diggers' paradigm. Mapes prose is light and funny but also sharp, clinical, even analytical at times. Her reporter's voice keeps its distance and is free of simplistic judgments. This is a book with real, from the trenches, dating stories. Gay, straight, old, young, no matter. Only people looking for love.
This author has clearly done her homework. How To Date has a timeless quality to it. There are loads of references to books on the topic from earlier times. The book feels like a classic, 20th Century study of social manners. The artwork and layout are what you would imagine Miss Lonelyhearts' column to have looked like.
But dating in our post-dating world is clearly a contemporary subject and Mapes fills the book with simple but fundamental advice. She lays out the basics of dating, the use of dating services and helps one navigate the frightful waters of Internet romance. But never taking it too seriously. This book has lots of jokes, the funniest ones in the How-To's, and the prose makes light of the subject to no end. This is a light read but only in the best sense of those words.
Now, why refer to How To Date as "presumably" a dating book? Because what we also have here is a fascinating anthropological resource that I'm sure future generations will use to hold us in the contempt and pity we deserve. The book includes dozens of first person dating stories by Mapes' many sources.Read more ›
An enjoyable read, with advice that really could make a difference in a person's dating life, if read carefully and taken to heart!
Diane C. Donovan
Most Recent Customer Reviews
This book has a lot of information that has been helpful about dating and getting out there. It is also good for a laugh, well I thought was funny I can't say it will make everyone... Read morePublished on October 15, 2013 by Mab
The out of place, unnecessary, bad humor choice of vocabulary. The author has a need to perform in The Comedy Stop" nightclub where the constant barrage of vulgarity will be... Read morePublished on September 4, 2013 by Louise G. Pearl
I agree with the reviewer who stated that this book seems to focus on old fashioned basics like, "Try to have nice teeth." That stood out for me, too. Read morePublished on April 16, 2007 by 33 year old lawyer
This is a nice read; funny, sarcastic and almost unbelievable at times.Published on January 9, 2007 by Amazon Customer
I read "How to Date" cover to cover, often wishing that it would just go on forever. Diane Mapes is a great humorist and wordsmith. Wisdom and incite flow from every page. Read morePublished on October 29, 2006 by Sierra Lascaux
This a wonderful, realistic book about dating. The quotes and dating stories from real people can make you feel discouraged but more than that, they make you realize that all... Read morePublished on June 11, 2006 by Frankie Queen