- Age Range: 4 - 8 years
- Grade Level: Preschool - 3
- Series: Ordinary Terrible Things
- Hardcover: 64 pages
- Publisher: The Feminist Press at CUNY; 1 edition (April 12, 2016)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 1558619259
- ISBN-13: 978-1558619258
- Product Dimensions: 8.8 x 0.5 x 9 inches
- Shipping Weight: 14.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
- Average Customer Review: 13 customer reviews
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PreS-Gr 3—This exploration of death and grieving begins with a boy mourning the loss of his grandma and his bold observation that "When a loved one dies/people can say some/…stupid things"—referring to the platitudes offered to him (e.g., "Just be grateful for the time you had with her."). Through mixed-media collage, speech bubbles, and simple text, Higginbotham explores a child's experience of loss: "Dying is not a punishment. But it mostly doesn't feel fair." The bold collages, set against a plain brown background, visually reinforce the child's disoriented swirl of emotion. A few of the images are unclear or ambiguous, but the boy's grief and responses are kidlike and recognizable. Readers follow along as he contemplates the reactions of his family members, imagines having a conversation with Gramma, and continues to feel her absence in his life. Eventually, he shares cherished memories with his father, and they work together in Gramma's garden. The author recommends activities that may help ("keep someone and, at the same time, let them go"), such as reading the same books that they enjoyed. She also offers suggestions for dealing with the death of a pet. VERDICT Clearly written to validate and respect a child's feelings, this book is a useful resource for parenting collections or patrons looking for a relatable exploration of death.—Marilyn Taniguchi, Beverly Hills Public Library, CA
"Wow, and thank God for this book. What an incredible gift this book will be for countless children. Having it fifty-plus years ago would have been a kind of salvation for me and would have helped me grow into a healthier and infinitely less frightened person." Anne Lamott, author of Grace (Eventually)
"It's [an] exact mix of true-to-life humor and unflinching honesty that makes Higginbotham’s book work so well, and many of the plainspoken sentiments she includes, as well as several included ideas for how to remember and honor those who have departed, may be eye-opening for readers facing grief themselves." Publishers Weekly (starred review)
"We can't stop death, but we can stop the ridiculous sheltering we impose on our naturally curious children." Caitlin Doughty, mortician and author of Smoke Gets in Your Eyes
"The author’s comments are spot-on in validating the child's response, in leaving room for individual beliefs about an afterlife, and in suggesting ways to ease the immediate sense of loss."Kirkus
"Finally! A book I can give to families!" Danielle Andy Belusko, funeral home owner and director
"A beautiful, unique resource for discussing death and loss with children." Korie Leigh, MA, CCLS, CT, child life specialist and bereavement counselor
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"Death is Stupid" deals with the feelings, the guilt and the words that have become cliches.
And even though the things people say are meant to comfort, they usually end up only adding to the confusion and the grief.
Children basically consider anything they don't like or don't understand as stupid. That is one reason Anastasia's title is so perfect. The book deals with a little boy who just lost his grandmother. Adults in the book voice responses like how "they know how he feels", and "she is in a better place." Sadly these statements while intended to help usually just anger and confuse the child.
Actually the same thing can be said about adults who have lost someone. No one really knows how you feel and you really do not want to hear the person is in a better place.
In "Death is Stupid" you follow the little boy from all the things people say trying to help him understand, to his tearful goodbye to his grandmother. In the end it is though his memories of his grandmother that he finds a way to deal.
Anastasia's book allows the child to know he is not alone in his confusion. And like Anastasia's first book "Divorce is The Worst", her art work invites the reader with open arms to join in with the character and learn along with him.
Children have so much to deal with in today's society. The series "Ordinary Terrible Things" by Anastasia Higginbotham makes it all seem smaller and a little less scary.
Wonderfully creative art work that honestly every time you look at it you will see something different.
Heartfelt words that makes the child feel that the character is just like him.
And in the end there are even activities that the child can do to remember their loved one and a way to let go.
I loved everything about this book.
Given the topic of the book, I was not sure if I should read it together with my almost 9-year old or let him read it alone, but I did not get a chance to decide because moments after the book arrived he saw it, read it cover-to-cover twice, and announced “Wow, what a cool book! And I love the pictures.”