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Defending Our Lives: Getting Away From Domestic Violence & Staying Safe Paperback – September 1, 1996
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After decades of violence and months of stalking, Roberta Murphy finally left her husband. A few months later, he shot her. "To whom this may concern," he wrote in his suicide note, "I did what I had to do. No one leaves me and gets away with it, so I'm taking care of business." Since then their daughter has founded Project: Protect, a nonprofit agency aimed at helping targets of stalking and domestic violence; pushed passage of an Illinois stalking law; and talked ceaselessly about domestic abuse. Now, to coincide with National Domestic Violence Awareness Month, she has written this guide aimed at helping abused women. She offers details about pressing charges and describes a "no contact" order, an "order of protection" and stalking laws. She also explains how to protect children and, if necessary, how to leave, with details on what records to bring and how to disappear. Perhaps because her own father was a police officer, the author dwells excessively on the special problems of a police wife and how the force in blue tends to stick together. Also, her section on choosing a safe relationship, while a smart idea, is improbably bureaucratic ("Get a copy of his driver's license... run a check on his license plate number.") The writing is straightforward, and Milano makes ample use of lists?helpful for abused women who have had their self-esteem and decision-making abilities pounded into the ground. Some of the sections could use more in-depth analysis and more examples, but overall Milano has done a fine job of presenting material that will help abused women on the path to freedom. 8-city author tour.
Copyright 1996 Reed Business Information, Inc.
A witness to the destructive forces of domestic violence, Murphy-Milano is on a mission to get women out of abusive situations. To this end, she details the signs of physical and emotional abuse, the patterns that signal problems, and the reasons women sometimes stay in such relationships. A pro-active work, the book doesn't simply provide women with the knowledge to recognize these harmful situations, it tries to give them the ability to separate themselves from their abusers. Pragmatic advice is given on leaving an abusive partner, from the mental preparations required to what financial records one should take to toll-free numbers for rental cars and hotel rooms. Murphy-Milano also tackles the legal system, including what rights a woman has once the police are called, plus ways to later use the courts for protection. With 8 to 10 women dying every day from domestic violence, this information is extremely necessary. Brian McCombie
Top customer reviews
There are women wrongly incarcerated across America'
for defending their own lives and the lives of their
children against a domestic abuser.
Defending Our Lives brings light to the issue of "Stalking"
and the Battered Women's Syndrome. Why women do not run,
and what happens if they do.
This book is now a part of a college course within the
women's prison in CA. An to educate the Parole Board
on what happens to battered women. How to get away from an abuser
and not loosing your own life....is important.
Susan Murphy-Milano has done a great job.
This book has been a tremendous guide in understanding what my rights are as an abuse victim and how to best use the court system. I found the "Escape Chapter" very helpful in preparing to start my new life without my abuser being able to locate me.
There is great comfort as I read this book knowing that someone out there has put together information that will make me and my children and other family members safe!