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Desire and Deceit: The Real Cost of the New Sexual Tolerance Hardcover – September 16, 2008

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Dr. R. Albert Mohler Jr. is president of the Southern Baptist Theological Seminary, the flagship school of the Southern Baptist Convention. Recognized by such publications as Time and Christianity Today as one of the country’s most influential leaders, Dr. Mohler has appeared on Larry King Live, The Today Show, Dateline NBC, Good Morning, America, and The O’Reilly Factor and hosts a daily radio show that is broadcast on more than eighty stations nationwide. He and his family live in Louisville, Kentucky.

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Sexuality is now a major fact of public life in America and around much of the world. In one sense, this is hardly new. After all, sexuality is a major part of human existence–an unavoidably complex and potentially explosive dynamic of human life. But sexuality is now a public issue–front and center in some of the biggest and most contentious debates of our times.

Sex and sexuality now drive much of our advertising, entertainment, and the cultural scripts that citizens use in common conversation. The sexual revolution of the 1960s was, in retrospect, only a signal of what was to come. By the early years of the twenty-first century, issues of sexuality were seemingly unavoidable. Elementary school students are being introduced to “family diversity” curricula, and major newspapers report on the phenomena of sexual promiscuity in homes for the aged. There seems to be virtually no part of the culture that is not dealing with sexuality in one way or another–and often with significant controversy.

Christians have a special stake and stewardship in the midst of this confusion. In the first place, Christians know that sex is both more and less important than the culture of laissez-faire sexuality can understand. Unlike the naturalistic evolutionists, Christians believe that the realities of gender and sexuality are intentional gifts of the Creator, who gave these gifts to His human creatures as both a blessing and a responsibility. Unlike the postmodern relativists, Christians cannot accept the claim that all sexual standards are mere social constructs. We believe that the Creator alone has the right to reveal His intention and commands concerning our stewardship of these gifts. Unlike the marketing geniuses and advertising gurus, we do not believe that sexuality is intended as a ploy to get attention and to create consumer demand. Unlike the pandering producers of sexualized entertainment, we do not believe that sex is primarily about laugh lines and titillation. Unlike the sexual revolutionaries of recent decades, we do not believe that sexuality is the means of liberating the self from cultural oppression.

In other words, we believe that sex is less important than many would have us believe. Human existence is not, first and foremost, about sexual pleasure and the display of sexuality. There is much more to human life, fulfillment, and joy. Sex simply cannot deliver the promises made by our hypersexualized society.

On the other hand, sex is far more important than a secular society can envision. After all, the Christian worldview reveals that sex, gender, and sexuality are ultimately all about the creature’s purpose to glorify the Creator. This frame of reference transforms the entire question and leaves the creature asking this: how do I celebrate and live out my stewardship of my sexuality and my exercise of this gift so that the Creator is most glorified? Needless to say, this is not the question driving the confusion in our sex-saturated culture.

This book is an attempt to look at many of today’s most controversial and troubling issues concerning sexuality from the perspective of biblical Christianity. Every one of us has a stake in this, and Christians are responsible for a special witness to the meaning of sex and sexuality.

And all this, we know, is not only about how we are to think about these issues, but how we are to live.

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Product Details

  • Hardcover: 176 pages
  • Publisher: Multnomah Books (September 16, 2008)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1601420803
  • ISBN-13: 978-1601420800
  • Product Dimensions: 4.7 x 0.7 x 7.6 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 7.2 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 4.4 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (15 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,346,423 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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Christians everywhere are surrounded by an ever increasing level of sexual permissiveness in our post-modern society. With pluralism, moral relativism, and subjective truth as the philosophical crown jewels in the modern Western worldview, even mainstream churches are being swept away by the floods of sexual tolerance. With homosexual pastors preaching from the pulpit, same-sex marriages gaining ground, and pornography running rife throughout the church, R. Albert Mohler Jr. takes a solid stand on the word of God as the standard for all relationships and behaviour.

Presenting an overview of the infiltration of sexual tolerance throughout society, Mohler is a trustworthy guide through the treacherous landscape of false doctrine, cultural implications, effects on manhood and the family, etc. in Desire and Deceit. Mohler fills the pages of this brief, yet vitally relevant volume with lucid, thought-provoking prose that pulls no punches. In a world filled with compromise, Mohler is anything but, clinging to God's word as the only standard for human sexuality

Mohler contrasts the modern, secular viewpoints of lust and homosexuality with the orthodox Christian response to ungodly arguments. As a fairly new believer I was always confused by the growing acceptance of homosexuality within the church when the Bible seems so clear on the topic. Mohler's examination of the growth of the modern homosexual movement, and the flawed theology this movement is based upon are laid out in order that Christians may be equipped to deal with these questions as they walk in the world daily.

Though Mohler cuts to the chase and isn't afraid to step on toes, these rebuttals of today's free-for-all stance on sexuality are far from being condemning.
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Even before I bought this book, I didn't expect it to be a fun book to read. The topic is one that deals with the proliferation of evil in our world. There is almost no way to do anything except feel hopeless when we look at how people have been able to take sinful activity and make it look good and wholesome, but Mohler covers the subject truthfully and with a gentle spirit. This book is not enjoyable, but it is an important book for everyone to read because it shows the problems that accepting sex, in all of its forms, as the saving grace of our society is causing.
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Anyone with a heart has to be disturbed by the state of marriage in our country. Illegitimacy is closing in on 40% of all births, living together is standard, and marriages tend to last as long as the expiration dates on milk cartons.

This is a great tragedy for our nation, and for the 50% of all children in our country who will expereience living with only a single parent. These children are at hugely higher risk for abuse, neglect, emotional problems, drug and alcohol abuse, promiscuity, and, at hugely higher risk later on of criminal behavior. (For statistics, please read "The Abolition of Marriage".)

In fact, our culture has become toxic to children.

Mohler's small, thoughtful book tackles the problem from the perspective of a Christian pastor. He states sadly that "All manners of faith and morality are now considered by a majority of Americans to be issues of mere private preference" (p47). The bitter fact is that "the left wing of the Enlightenment has finally won the day...a majority of Americans now reject the very notion of absolute truth" (p 47).

He discusses pornography and the effects of Kinsey, and the shattering of the once strong Christian ethics in our nation.

A disturbing but necessary book.
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This book by Dr. Mohler is a critique of sex outside of marriage, homosexual actions, and generally the way our culture views human sex and sexuality. After the first few chapters, I thought that the book preached a bit too much to the choir in the sense that while I agreed with everything the author was saying, it didn't seem like he was offering any new insights and arguments. In fact, much of what he said seemed to be quite vague and general- simply talking about the "emotional, spiritual, physical, and psychological harm caused by meaningless sex." Again, while I do agree that all of these harms are there and present, I find it difficult to believe that someone reading this who already agrees with Dr. Mohler would have found much new to grasp onto in these first few chapters, and someone who does not agree with Dr. Mohler would not find it convincing because that is typically what they have heard before.

That is my critique of the first few chapters. However, the later chapters, especially on homosexual actions and gender, provided some more thought provoking ideas. For example, Dr. Mohler carefully scrutinizes the modern dogma that gender is a social construct and there is no such thing as gender by reflecting on thoughtful questions such as how does one precisely measure gender? Is it a biological trait? If not, how are we able to measure it aside from the personal whims and desires of the individual? It is clear that the idea that there is no such thing as gender is one of the foundations in the defense of those who support homosexual actions, so a good amount of space is given to look at the question of gender.

Another insight that I found fascinating was Dr.
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