- Paperback: 102 pages
- Publisher: Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters; Reissue edition (December 12, 1986)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 0910034184
- ISBN-13: 978-0910034180
- Product Dimensions: 8.3 x 5.4 x 0.3 inches
- Shipping Weight: 12.6 ounces
- Average Customer Review: 4.3 out of 5 stars See all reviews (40 customer reviews)
- Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #50,177 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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The Dilemma of the Alcoholic Marriage Reissue Edition
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This book is excellent for marriages when one of the partners is an alcoholic; it is also good for codependent marriages in general. Much of the book would apply to marriages where a partner is abusive, even if not alcoholic. The advice and illustrations are hands-on and useful. The book is about a hundred pages and very dated; however, the information is still valuable and well worth the price.
I have my copy highlighted throughout. Here is a sample quote:
"To see this situation realistically, she would have to understand how desperately the guilt-tormented alcoholic needs such weapons to bolster his own ego. When he uses these weapons to attack, it is not because he hates his wife but because he hates himself and needs to reassure himself that he is not all bad. He finds fault with the person nearest to him because it makes it a little easier for him to tolerate himself."
This book is a useful support to the spouse of an alcoholic, reflecting the Al-Anon philosophy and general good common sense, which is sometimes overlooked by the partner in the throes of chaos generated by living with an alcoholic/abusive partner. Highly recommended.
If you can keep in mind that the social roles were different when the book was written--but that overwhelming message of not being co-dependent and/or creating an atmosphere where the alcoholism can continue still rings true--then it's an excellent book.