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Divorce Poison New and Updated Edition: How to Protect Your Family from Bad-mouthing and Brainwashing Paperback – January 19, 2010
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“A godsend to the many divorcées who are bashed by their ex-spouses.” (Publishers Weekly)
“Divorce Poison is a must read for every parent involved in a hostile divorce.” (Dr. John W. Santrock, professor of psychology, University of Texas at Dallas)
“With the wisdom and insight of years of professional experience, Dr. Richard A. Warshak shows parents how to avoid the painful repercussions that result when a child becomes the pawn of parental conflicts. If you’re divorced and you love your child, read this book!” (Constance R. Ahrons, Ph.D., senior scholar Council on Contemporary Families, and author of The Good Divorce)
“An absolute must-read for any parent going through a divorce. Warshak lays bare the evils of parental alienation and gives readers the knowledge they need to defend themselves—and their children—against it.” (Armin Brott, author of The Expentant Father and The Single Father)
“A breakthrough book. . . . Original, well-written, balanced, and filled with insights, it is perfect for any parent who has been the victim of bad-mouthing.” (Warren Farrell, Ph.D., author of Father and Child Reunion and Why Men Are the Way They Are)
“Divorce Poison is destined to become a classic. Dr. Warshak’s sympathy for mothers, fathers, and relatives struggling to maintain their children’s affection is outweighed only by his compassion for the children themselves.” (Michael Gurian, author of The Wonder of Boys)
“This book is a testament to Dr. Warshak’s vast experience, erudition, and deep commitment to the prevention, diagnosis, and treatment of the various categories of alienated children.” (Richard A. Gardner, M. D., clinical professor of child psychiatry, Columbia University College of Physicians and Surgeons, author of The Parental Alienation Syndrome)
“Offers valuable advice, especially for those times when the going gets tough with your ex. It also helps you understand and heal your own hurts without hurting the children you love.” (Susan Jeffers, Ph.D., author of Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway and I'm Okay . . . You're a Brat!)
“Always painful, divorce can turn lethal when one parent attempts to poison the children against an ex-spouse. In this balanced, compassionate book, Richard Warshak offers vital advice to those caught in the emotional maelstrom of a bitter divorce.” (Mark Pendergrast, author of Victims of Memory)
From the Back Cover
Your ex-spouse is bad mouthing you to your children, constantly portraying you in a negative light, perhaps even trying to turn them against you. If you handle the situation ineffectively, your relationship with your children could suffer. You could lose their respect, lose their affections-even, in extreme cases, lose all contact with them. The conventional advice is to do nothing, that fighting fire with fire will only result in greater injury to the children. But after years of consulting parents who heeded such advice with no success, Dr. Richard Warshak is convinced that this approach is wrong. It doesn't work, and parents are left feeling helpless and hopeless. DIVORCE POISON instead offers a blueprint for effective response. In it, you will learn how to distinguish different types of criticism, how and why parents manipulate their children, how to detect these maneuvers, and how these practices damage children. Most importantly, you'll discover powerful strategies to preserve and rebuild loving relationships with your children.
DIVORCE POISON is a time-tested work that gives parents powerful strategies to preserve and rebuild loving relationships with their children-and provides practical advice from legal and mental-health professionals to help their clients and safeguard the welfare of children. Whether they are perpetrators of divorce poison, victims of it, or both, parents who heed Dr. Warshak's advice will enable their children to maintain love and respect for their parents-even if their parents no longer love and respect each other.
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I am a loving father of five children. Immediately after my divorce my children began distancing themselves from me. I thought at first it was just the trauma of the divorce, but throughout time I began to be forwarded Facebook posts telling the public I had abused my children and do not pay child support. My daughter would post similar things alleging that I did not care about my them (my children) and did not care if they had food to eat or clothes to wear. I was even contacted by a former employee I had to fire a few years back, claiming my children's mother was trying to lay guilt trips on him about my treatment of the children. My children began blocking me from their phones, refusing to come for holidays, or scheduled residential time. I have gone months without contact, of any kind, from my older children. When I show up for visits and my children do no come, law enforcement will not respond even with my court order in hand. My children have gone as far as to block me and all my relatives from social media and have refused contact with them. I am a father that kissed my children good night each night, and was fully immersed in their everyday lives. I have never missed a child support payment. I was completely confused and tried many good faith efforts to stay patient and wait for things to blow over. It was not until I read Divorce Poison did I open my eyes to this problem and realize that even a loving father like me could have my children turned against me given the right circumstances.
I have had to thicken my skin and suffer tremendous emotional insults by my children and my ex-wife, but without Dr. Warshak providing this practical advice, I may have just given up. The pain at times has kept me up at night, questioning the motives behind such cruelty from my once loving children that used to follow me around the house everyday. Now however I know this is what I can say...READ THIS BOOK... Don't ignore the signs, this problem is very real. As I read the book, I felt like it was written for me. I would also highly recommend that you buy the DVD too, Welcome Back Pluto to watch with your children also by Dr. Warshak. Divorce Poison is very real. I would never have believed my children could be lead astray by false information, bad attitude, or embellishment of pieces of information taken out of context or aggregated to purposely mislead.
Children should not have to endure the emotional trauma that surrounds this poison inflicted upon them. While it may be impossible to avoid, arming yourself with knowledge will help both you and your children to survive and continue to rebuild the loving relationship you once had. Now that I know what I know, I am going back to court and hoping this problem is recognized by the judges in the county where I live. There is no easy answer, but reading this book truly helps a person understand the process of alienation and the strength it will take to overcome it. God Bless each good mother or father that is having to go through this emotional assassination, stay strong.
I cannot say enough not to give up on your children. I was able to go to court and outline my journey through parental alienation. The judge believed me. For the first time in two and a half years my daughters came willingly to my home for eleven days. Before the judge sent my ex-wife a very strong message and found her in contempt of court in multiple areas, my daughters would not come willingly with me for any length of time or with any consistency. My daughters would send me very strong messages of disdain and often rude messages that lacked any emotion at all. The first few days of their time with me were awkward and somewhat tense, however eventually they began to relax. Our relationships are far from healed but we were finally able to open a new chapter of our lives. I look forward to watching them grow up and to be an active part of their lives. I am sure there will be many more obstacles to jump, but in my case, the legal system was on my side. Like Dr. Warshak says, be ready to toughen your skin and try to be as non-reactive as possible. Keep good data. Take the high road and don't get caught up in the emotional destruction going on, be strong. Good luck and read this book. It worked for me.
I am also a parent who witnessed and experienced parental alienation or as Dr. Warshak defines it in this book "pathological alienation". The damage that is has done to my step-child is irreversible but there is hope. In this book Dr. Wrashak presents many ways on how to counteract Parental Alienation. He articulates "actions" such as self -restrain: self control against wanting to "lash-out" in the face of kids' rude and hateful behavior; maintaining contact: even when the kids complain and refuse Dr. Warshak doesn't recommend for parents to cease contact voluntarily - continue to exercise your rights and see your children regardless; developing a thick skin is another good action to consider to survive a campaign of hatred: Dr. Warshak articulates that one "must learn to withstand high levels of verbal aggression and provocative behaviors". This book is full of real life case examples that gives you chills when you read it because you can relate on so many levels.
I highly recommend the book to all helping professionals and parents who are living the nightmare of parental alienation. This is the best book out there on the parental alienation topic and will be an eye-opener for anyone who is going through divorce, or went though divorce or treating families of divorce.