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Do I Stay Christian?: A Guide for the Doubters, the Disappointed, and the Disillusioned Hardcover – May 24, 2022
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Dubbed "a heroic gate-crasher" by New York Times bestselling author Glennon Doyle, Brian D. McLaren explores reasons to leave or stay within the church and if so how...
"Brian's new book on remaining Christian knocks it out of the ballpark in terms of framing and naming the questions. I cannot stop reading it. Thank you, Brian!"
―Fr. Richard Rohr, OFM, founder of the Center for Action and Contemplation, author of The Universal Christ
"Any thoughtful Christian has been asking the questions McLaren tackles here, but many of us are afraid to voice them aloud. In Do I Stay Christian? we’re gifted a gentle guide who opens ideas and voices the questions we cannot, naming our frustration, fear, and hesitant hope."
―Rev. Dr. Amy Butler, former Senior Minister, The Riverside Church; Founder, Invested Faith
Do I Stay Christian? addresses in public the powerful question that surprising numbers of people―including pastors, priests, and other religious leaders―are asking in private. Picking up where Faith After Doubt leaves off, Do I Stay Christian? is not McLaren's attempt to persuade Christians to dig in their heels or run for the exit. Instead, he combines his own experience with that of thousands of people who have confided in him over the years to help readers make a responsible, honest, ethical decision about their religious identity.
There is a way to say both yes and no to the question of staying Christian, McLaren says, by shifting the focus from whether we stay Christian to how we stay human. If Do I Stay Christian? is the question you're asking―or if it's a question that someone you love is asking―this is the book you've been waiting for.
- Print length272 pages
- LanguageEnglish
- PublisherSt. Martin's Essentials
- Publication dateMay 24, 2022
- Dimensions6.5 x 0.95 x 9.5 inches
- ISBN-101250262798
- ISBN-13978-1250262790
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Publishers Weekly, Best Books of 2022, Religion
"[A] gloves-off critique...[McLaren's] fans will be grateful for his well-grounded, bracing examination of a complex question, while his critics will feel compelled to take his arguments seriously. This earnest inquiry solidifies McLaren’s place as one of the more thoughtful interrogators of modern Christianity."
―Publishers Weekly (Starred Review)
"What lies ahead is speculative, but it involves change both institutionally and personally. Any change, however, will rest on the foundation that proceeds from an honest assessment of what is. And that assessment is the most valuable contribution by McClaren..."
―National Catholic Reporter
"McLaren helps people who are rightly frustrated with the state of American Christianity understand that there are so many more possibilities... This book gives me a map for finding what lies beyond―a Christianity that's bigger, wiser, and more powerful than I dared to dream.”
―Jana Riess, author of Flunking Sainthood and The Next Mormons; senior columnist for Religion News Service
"McLaren is one of my favorite Spirit guides. He is a wonderful story-teller, a discerner of patterns and cultural trends, and a kind soul articulating urgent and critical questions for the Church in these hot-mess times. In his new book, Brian asks, “Do I Stay Christian?” in such a way that all of the Church needs to ponder. Are we in this, for real? If we answer this question thoughtfully, guided by this book, I’m convinced the true called-out-ones (ekklesia) could heal the world."
―Rev. Dr. Jacqui Lewis, author of Fierce Love: A Bold Path to Ferocious Courage and Rule Breaking Kindness That Can Heal the World
“A refreshing invitation to consider many reasons why Christianity may or may not be a path for each one of us. Woven with beautiful personal stories, this book will give you many things to consider as well as some clarity.”
―Jo Luehmann, Host of The Living Room with Jo Luehmann
"In his usual thoughtful provocative style McClaren provides a thoughtful examination of the Christian tradition, its faults and failures and its gifts and graces. He takes seriously the harm Christians and Christianity have done across the ages while considering its promise, realized and unrealized. He also casts a vision of a Christianity beyond its infancy which would be worth working and praying for. I recommend this book for individuals wrestling with their faith, pastors, book clubs and those seeking honest conversation about the very complex realities of Christianity."
―The Rev. Wil Gafney, Ph.D.+, The Right Rev. Sam B. Hulsey Professor of Hebrew Bible, Brite Divinity School, Ft. Worth, Texas
"In Do I Stay Christian?, McLaren wrestles the scandalous theological questions and conscientiousness objections that keep so many of us awake at night―and he does so with the courage and grace that have become his trademark. If you're wondering whether it's time to shake off your sandals and walk away from Christianity, I beg you to read this book before making up your mind."
―Jonathan Merritt, Contributing writer for The Atlantic and author of Learning to Speak God from Scratch
"Answers from one of our most eloquent Christian teachers for those asking: Why bother?"
―Jon M. Sweeney, author of The Pope Who Quit
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- Publisher : St. Martin's Essentials (May 24, 2022)
- Language : English
- Hardcover : 272 pages
- ISBN-10 : 1250262798
- ISBN-13 : 978-1250262790
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When I was a boy, I dreamed of growing up to be an "arthur" (I hadn't mastered spelling yet).
I never dreamed I'd be writing books about spirituality, theology, ethics, and global crises. Instead, I wanted to write comic books. When I realized that my ability to draw had stopped developing at about age 6, I gave up on being an "arthur."
Years later, I became a college English teacher, then a pastor (for 24 years), and during that time, somewhat unexpectedly, I started writing books. Now in my 60's, I write, travel, speak, and help people get equipped and organized to make a positive difference in our world.
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I’m a cradle liberal Christian (United Church of Christ). Church and faith have largely been a real solace and gift in my life. I didn’t think I had anything to deconstruct–not compared to some of my siblings in more fundamentalist and evangelical circles, or marginalized people in any Christian denomination who have been wounded by religion.
Then the tears surfaced and outed my deep grief with the Christian church as it is and has been. Not hurts done to me, but to so many others–so terrifyingly on display in the current ascendancy of violent, hateful Christian white nationalism. Well, and honestly: some hurts done to me, as a female pastor in a profession that is still rife with casual misogyny.
In reading this book I also experienced disappointment at the Church’s the sins of omission–that Good even gentler expressions of the Christian Church might have done that it has failed to do (and as a longtime mainline church pastor, I feel the sting of those failures to live up to our highest ideals, and wonder about my role in those failures).
But Brian is gifted at bringing the reader through the cathartic reckoning with pain and into a hope that feels…well-placed. He leads us gently, with humor, clarity, and real practical guidance for everyone from pastors, seminarians and lay leaders to people DIY’ing Christian faith or finding themselves in the spiritual wilderness. This would make a great all-church read.
I ended up finding myself back in the midst of this beautiful, compromised, organized, disorganized, still-working-its-own-salvation Christian movement, because, as Brian writes in part 2, “where else would I go?” and “because of our legendary founder” and most of all “because it would be a shame to leave a religion in its infancy.”
Readers who are interested in “no” will find a good deal of information about Christian Antisemitism (I think some of this should be called Anti-Judaism), violence in the name of Jesus and the Romanization of Christianity, Crusader Colonialism, the institution of “company men,” the unhealthy alliance between religion and money, white patriarchal control that has thwarted women and LGBTQ persons, and the assault on intellectualism.
Readers interested in “yes” will find important his desire not to abandon allies who are making changes within, because there are options other than simply complying and simply leaving, because it allows him to face his own shortcomings, because Christianity is only in its infancy state, because of his alliance with Jesus as extraordinary person, because staying within denies a person a state for claiming “innocence” from the problems, and because being human requires alliances. There is also a kind of fear that suggests things could be even worse without some voices within the organization that bring about its change.
The “how” section owes much to his previous book Faith after Doubt with respect to life cycles: simplicity, complexity, perplexity, and harmony. Readers may find some parallels in his ideas to those of Piaget, Kohlberg, and other stage theorists in psychology and moral development. He notes that some will not move in their religious lives beyond simplicity, and unlike what one might have suspected, he does not damn them. He does note, however, that for such a person his historical critique of Christianity will be problematic. Afterall, most fundamentalists do not tell their congregations about violence in the name of Jesus historically as they don’t see their having anything to do with the church before the Reformation. He suggests that those who speak against such voices need to “come out” against them, not to demonize, but to say “I have moved on.” For McLaren, the goal of Christianity and the goal of not following Christianity relate to accepting what it means to stay human, to relate to the world of nature, and to recover the rest for the body.
A kind of apologia runs like this: “Having read this book, you understand why I could not stay a Christian if my only option was the old way, the old way of white Christianity, the old way of patriarchal Christianity, the old way of Theo-Capitalistic Christianity, the old way of violent, exclusive, and authoritarian Christianity with its suppressed but real history of cruelty. I do not judge others who feel at home in that kind of Christianity. How can I, having lived there myself for so long of my life? I understand its many comforts” (p. 219).
The center of what it means to be human resides in Micah 6:8. He writes, “It all boils down to this, Micah says “O human being, this is what God desires for you. That you do justice. That you live kindness. That you walk humbly in the presence of your God” (p. 217). The book has been an intriguing exploration in theological anthropology, in so many ways exactly what Christianity has been most fearful of looking into!
I recommend his book to you, not as a kind of “sweet wine” writing of a prolific writer, but as a book that reflects a great deal of reading and creative imagining of what seems like a central question of the Christian religion. He has actually organized the book into really short chapters that would work well for hour-long discussion groups. In the appendix, he gives advice for reading and for clergy in how to present the material. He, afterall, was a pastor. He was also a college teacher of English, and he knows how to turn a phrase and to incorporate texts into his text that illustrate his point. In the end, he is probably going to answer yes, but…but he seems to understand as this reviewer does why an increasing number are answering “no.” I have read few books of this nature where the writer is “cool” with anyone’s decision and that’s not to suggest in any way that the book is relativistic. He is simply aware of the tremendous pain that historic Christianity has brought to many groups through its European white-male forms.
I’ve given this book a five-star rating not because McLaren has all the answers but because he has the courage and honesty to pose some provocative questions and to confront some troubling problems without suggesting that there are one-size-fits-all ironclad answers. He also introduces readers to some other good conversation partners, writers who’ve influenced his own thinking.
The title of this book is a question, “Do I Stay Christian?” Thirteen years ago, after twenty-eight years as a pastor, I answered that question with a decisive “No.” This book didn’t convince me to reconsider my answer. Yet I suspect that there are individuals out there among the doubters, the disappointed, and the disillusioned who might benefit from what McLaren has to say.
If you’re a pastor—regardless of your tradition or denomination—I suspect that you’ve got folks in your congregation right now who are struggling with the basic question this book asks. Read this book and incorporate aspects of its message into what you’re saying from the pulpit or in the classroom. Failing to do so would be a dereliction of duty.
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Part 1 Go
Part 2 Stay if
Is it worth staying???
Brian McLaren writes with such grace and humility even as he wades right into the deepest, muckiest questions of Christianity's past, present and future.
This book is well-written, well-researched and much-needed.
Read it and think you will be changed I think.












