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Don't Bring Home a White Boy: And Other Notions that Keep Black Women From Dating Out Hardcover – February 2, 2010
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That is exactly what I felt from the very first chapter of reading "Don't Bring Home A White Boy" - that same moment where the author has the power to reach across the pages, grasp my hand, and understand exactly how I feel as a black woman.
Let me say that this book was not what I expected from its title. Whenever I sit down to digest a "let's explore this problem" type of book, I have to be in a scholarly, analytical frame of mind. Folan's voice is not that of a scholar, but of an acquaintance or friend who understands our frustrations, desires and experiences as educated black women and decides to dismantle 10 notions that mentally hold black women back from interracial dating. So I found this book to be an engaging, entertaining and thought-provoking read.Read more ›
In a book that is beautifully written and meticulously researched, Karyn Folan refutes each self-defeating taboo about interracial dating and marriage that serves to keep many African-American women unhappily single. Along the way, Ms. Folan paints unforgettable portraits of little-known persons and incidents from African-American history, including:
(1) The dark-skinned, 15-year old Black girl who refused to give up her seat to a White passenger on a Montgomery, Alabama city bus nine months before Rosa Parks did the same thing. This brave teenager was deemed "too dark," "too feisty," and too poor to be the representative plaintiff for the civil rights movement.
(2) The 1959 Tallahassee, Florida case where an all-White jury convicted four White men of gang-raping a young Black woman named Betty Jean Owens. This is especially significant when viewed in comparison to the current "stop snitching" culture among many African-Americans that allows sexual violence against Black women and girls to go unpunished.
(3) The esteemed 19th century White geologist who pretended to be a light-skinned Black man in order to marry a Black woman.Read more ›
Folan starts out well with using statistics and debunking myths about Black men who allegedly had Black women's interests in mind (for instance, she mentions how some Black male activists were raping Black women as "practice" for raping White women), but I think the book loses some of its steam from the middle to the end when she relies too heavily on excerpts from bloggers' blogs (such as Evia who runs "Black Female Interracial Marriage," a blog I've read in the past and think tends to border on the extremist side, for lack of a better term) and anecdotes from the same interracial couples (the issue of Greg's Cypriot parents disowning him for marrying Jacquetta, a Black woman, was repeated quite a few times) which started to come off as filler more than substance. Folan did interview experts for this book and in the Notes section at the end legitimate sources were cited, but I was disappointed to see that some of the sources were Wikipedia pages.
I did like reading the anecdotes of the couples used, though I think more people should've been interviewed to avoid the repetition noted above. Singles interested in dating interracially should've been interviewed to add to the diversity of the stories.
The reason why this book focused on the coupling of Black women and White men, as opposed to Black women and men of other races, is because there seems to be an animosity from Black women towards White men when asked to consider dating interracially.Read more ›
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I am a 26 year old white man. I want to say, First and foremost, I am not a racist and I never will be. With that out of the way now, I decided to read this book from another site. Read morePublished 10 months ago by Kosuki07
This book is wonderful! I like how it digs deeper into the realities of black women dating interracially. Read morePublished 13 months ago by Phyllicia
Expertly researched. Miss Folan backs up everything she writes with a source. I bought this book when I was doing research on interracial relationships and it is, by far, the best... Read morePublished 14 months ago by Peter Bradford
This is one of the more mature and more enjoyable reads about bw/wm relationships. I've read some books on the subject that are a bit silly and give irrelevant advice for those... Read morePublished 17 months ago by Deshondela T. Flowers
I learned a lot and I would recommend it to others contemplating interacial relationships. It is good to talk about these things and meet reality for the good of black women and... Read morePublished on February 26, 2014 by Paula
I'm so grateful that I was called to purchase and read this book. It echoed a lot of the false notions that people have about dating outside of their cultural backgrounds. Read morePublished on September 29, 2013 by Leeanne N. Pantin
Debunking the myths of black women, especially black american women, was more than necessary. Debunking the myths of interracial relationships was extremely necessary as well. Read morePublished on September 3, 2013 by Navy Blue