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Don't Roll Your Eyes: Making In-Laws into Family Paperback – September 4, 2012
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“Offering plentiful composite case studies, the fair-minded, inclusive, and congenial Nemzoff doesn't promise quick solutions and realizes some problems are unsolvable, but she focuses on helpful ways to improve relationships that with time and effort can be fixed.” ―Publishers Weekly
“Family therapists know that the main difference between humans and animals is that humans maintain relationships with their in-laws. Ruth Nemzoff's Don't Roll Your Eyes is a trenchant and insightful exploration of that species-specific behavior.” ―Brad Sachs, PhD, author of Emptying the Nest
“Indispensable advice! Ruth Nemzoff's recipe for healthy in-law relationships rests on impeccable research and a wealth of real-life experience, but it is also well-seasoned with a depth of wisdom and common sense that is truly exceptional. Her straightforward strategies make this book the perfect wedding gift--not just for the bride and groom but for their parents and siblings too.” ―Gina Stepp, Family and Relationships Editor, Vision Media
“Ruth Nemzoff thinks wisely and deeply about family connections. She presents a carefully nuanced consideration of this oldest of topics. Don't Roll Your Eyes has something to teach everyone. It would make a wonderful gift to any family member and is an essential addition to the bookshelf of any professional working with families.” ―Judy Osborne, author of Wisdom for Separated Parents
“With her characteristic wisdom and wit, Ruth Nemzoff treads into the minefield of in-law relationships, from extended families to grandchildren, money, religion, and myriad other issues. She offers examples and expert advice to help us keep in-laws from turning into out-laws. An indispensible field guide for generations on both sides of the in-law divide.” ―Mary W. Quigley, www.mothering.21.com, NYU professor and author
“Dr. Nemzoff's clarity and candor, wit and wisdom really shine through. She is not afraid to tackle any issue, any modern permutation of the extended family in the 21st century.” ―Joan Wise, former general counsel AARP
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This excellent (and quick) read acknowledges the complexities of in-law relationships while still providing clear, concise recommendations for both generations. But here's the kicker: you must be prepared to do your part in making things better. Don't read this YET if you're still at the point where you just want to complain about your in-laws. The author challenges you to be a bigger person, so read this if you're ready to do some work and be happier!
The author is a wise, wise woman. This book could very well improve many lives!
Nemzoff is an expert at navigating family dynamics and grasps all the different perspectives of intergenerational relationships. She examines the forces that make in-law relationships troublesome as well as how multiple generations can benefit from them.
She writes from experience and says that of all her careers--teacher, administrator, state legislator, and professor--mothering has been the most rewarding. She has four adult children, four in-law children, and seven grandchildren, with whom she has very satisfying relationships. It's easy to understand why, given her insight and communication skills.
Here's an example of how she nails a basic problem: The generations often blame each other when expectations they don't even know they have are not met. We find ourselves angry, for example, when no gift arrives and we realize we expected one. We feel our emotions before we realize what we actually want. We often hang onto nostalgic expectations of family roles when roles are changing.
The ease or difficulty of these relationships depends a lot on the willingness of all parties to make things work, says Nemzoff. Both generations want to be appreciated and acknowledged for their efforts and not taken for granted or judged.
Don't Roll Your Eyes focuses on specific issues that can cause tension among the generations. Nemzoff explains that because of popular in-law jokes we can be wary of one another before we even meet. Or we can have different ideas about how much closeness we want. Another problem can be competition between sets of parental in-laws who may vie for priority.Read more ›
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Still in the process of reading this book. I purchased it because I don't want to be "that in-law" that everyone hates to be with! Read morePublished 20 months ago by Cindy
While addressing universal concerns, Dr. Nemzoff also ask us to see on a very personal level how family relationships can be repaired, resulting in feeling better ourselves and at... Read morePublished on January 2, 2014 by Ann Abram, PhD, LCSW
My daughter just got engaged - perfect time to read, Ruth Nemzoff's book, Don't Roll Your Eyes - Making In-Laws into Family. Read morePublished on February 13, 2013 by David Dolgen
With sensitive insight and a wealth of experience, Nemzoff offers common sense solutions and strategies for dealing with difficult family situations. Read morePublished on October 5, 2012 by Rick Johnson