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And I Don't Want to Live This Life: A Mother's Story of Her Daughter's Murder Paperback – September 29, 1996
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The public only saw one side of Nancy Spungen, the fabricated image of her that was created by sleazy tabloid reporters who traumatized and exploited the Spungen family in their time of grief and loss. It's no secret that Nancy was disturbed and a heroin addict, but what most people fail to see is that underneath it all she was a sensitive human being who unfortunately could not find peace and happiness in life. Whatever fragments of these things she found in her relationship with Sid Vicious were also short-lived, as well as for Sid himself. He, too was searching for something that was missing in his life; he found it in Nancy Spungen and they were drawn together.
In nearly all of the negative reviews posted here (which all are completely undeserved), the reviewers foolishly point to Mrs. Spungen as a "whiny loser" and a "terrible parent"...did you people even READ the book before making such ridiculous comments? What would YOU have done if YOU were in her shoes? Unless you've gone through what she has, you have absolutely NO CLUE and don't know what you're talking about!
Every facet of Nancy's life from begninning to end is laid painfully bare and nothing is held back; with every word, you feel Mrs. Spungen's emotions as if they were your own. Following Nancy's death, Mrs. Spungen created the Philadelphia chapter of Parents Of Murdered Children (POMC) in an effort to reach out to other parents and families whose lives were shattered by the murder of their child. Would a "whiny loser" or "terrible parent" or someone in search of personal notoriety do this? I think not. It's a labor of love from a mother whose daughter's murder remains unsolved nearly 26 years later. If Deborah Spungen is in search of anything, it's closure.
I recommend this book very highly and praise Deborah Spungen equally so for her remarkable strength, courage and love.
How do you help those who refuse to be helped? How do you keep loving someone who attacks you, steals from you, abuses the family, keeps the family under a virtual living Hell-at least until they are of age and you can finally, devastatingly kick them out? And even then they still keep the family under siege-until death parts them. That was Nancy judging from her loving mother's book. That was my long dead cousins too.
The title of the book comes from a poem titled "Nancy" written by none other than Sid Vicious.
This long-lost young man is now in the Rock N' Roll Hall Of Fame along with the rest of the still living, and reluctant Sex Pistols all of whom refused to attend the RNRHOF Induction Ceremonies.
If Nancy wanted to be remembered forever in the sphere of Rock N' Roll-for good or bad she will be. I believe The Sex Pistols will be remembered for all posterity-and Nancy will be too because of her affair with Sid. Those who continue to spit on Nancy's grave (and some even spit on Sid's memory-he was cremated) by making horrible comments about this young woman who has been dead for over 28 years and therefore not here to defend herself-those who show no regard for her family's feelings have all checked their humanity at the door. :(
I highly recommend this book. This is as close to Nancy's side of the story as you are ever likely to get.
The book has some surprizing insight on Sid who some believed to be mildly retarded. He was not. Judging from his letters, and poems to Nancy's mother after Nancy's death they clearly show an eloquent, intelligent and even sensitive young man who was as deeply troubled as Nancy-perhaps more so since his own mother was a heroin addict.
In John Lydon's book "Rotten: No Irish, No Blacks, No Dogs" Sid's own school mates mention watching him shoot up speed and God knows what else-with his own mother's syringe which he sterilized himself. With a mother like he had Sid was on a difficult road in life-meeting Nancy I believe only hurried him along to his own self-destruction. And in the end he died from heroin supplied by his own mother Anne.
Nancy didn't kill Sid. His mother did-or at least she helped. :(