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Ecstasy is Necessary: A Practical Guide Paperback – March 15, 2012
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“One of THE most brilliant books written on sex and relationships.”
“Barbara Carrellas is the world’s best ecstasy coach, and this book may be the best investment you’ll ever make.”
— Annie Sprinkle, Ph.D., sex educator, ecosexologist, artist
— Jean Haner, author of The Wisdom of Your Face
— Dossie Easton, marriage and family therapist, co-author with Janet Hardy of Radical Ecstasy and The Ethical Slut
About the Author
Barbara Carrellas is an author, sex/life coach, sex educator, university lecturer, workshop facilitator, motivational speaker, and theater artist. She has authored two books, Urban Tantra and Luxurious Loving and written numerous articles about sex and spirituality. She also wrote and produced The Pleasure Principle, an educational audio series.
She is the founder of Urban Tantra®, an approach to sacred sexuality that adapts and blends a wide variety of conscious sexuality practices, and the co-founder of Erotic Awakening, a groundbreaking series of workshops focusing on the physical, spiritual and healing powers of sex. Carrellas’ pioneering Urban Tantra workshops were named best in New York City by TimeOut/New York magazine.
Carrellas’ is a certified sexologist (ASC, American College of Sexologists), a member of AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists), and a proud graduate of the Coney Island Sideshow School with a double major in fire eating and snake handling.
Top Customer Reviews
As she says in her book: "I do sex for the mystical experiences--for the connection to all the disembodied beings and spirit guides I meet in erotic trance. I love altered states of consciousness, and nothing has ever beat sex and orgasm for consistently delightful--and often profound--travels through the cosmos. I have a partner who values sex as passionately as I do--for a completely different reason: she gets high on the intense intimate connection with her partner. With such different reasons for doing sex, we had our challenges in finding a way of creating sex together where she felt the connection she needed and I did not feel constrained."
I probably relate to Barbara's partner more. But the fact that she pushes anyone to have a dialogue with their own sexual nature makes this book useful for people who don't have sex for quite the same reasons as Barbara. You get to decide how you feel and what you want from relationships. Her book is not necessarily line after line about her perspective on sex: it's actually just one huge excellent and resourceful brainstorming get-together, between herself, her collegues, her research, and her polls -- and then bringing them to you to get you to add to the brainstorming your own individual feelings and wants and tie it all together to better understand yourself.Read more ›
This book is an empowerment manual for embodiment. It is a road map to learn how to go into your body and get to know yourself on a physical, mental, emotional and spiritual level. I spend at least 6 hours a week diligently working on these connections for myself and there was a lot I learned about myself within the first seventy pages.
You begin to examine your values, needs and desires are right away. I was really surprised when I was working through my values, since this timing coincides with my thinking and talking about how I find balance and settle on my priorities. Distilling your core values to six main tenets tells you what your priorities should be, gives you some guidance as to how to align your life.
Get a cute notebook when you're getting the book. You'll need it for your work going inside and becoming the expert about your own body.
It can be frustrating as a single person without many regular sex partners to want to improve your sex life and not really know where to start. I am a big believer in the power of attraction-that you attract what you put out. This book is a great place to work from within to draw to you what it is you want from a partner. I felt not once alienated by my single status. Barbara also begins the book by giving a shout out to "they" as a gender neutral singular pronoun and the book is explicitly queer positive.
Barbara shares so many of the messages I spout, but she does so in such a loving, compassionate, patient manner. She does an excellent job explaining concepts that might be unfamiliar to the reader.
Therefore, it would greatly behoove you to read this book, as it will clarify and reinforce many truths about sex in a way that will make you feel safe and empowered.
Honestly, I'm embarrassed to admit I hadn't heard of the author and educator until my friend David Wraith told me about her new book and accompanying tour. I'm familiar with many of her other contemporaries - Annie Sprinkle, Nina Hartley, Denise Linn, Bettie Dodson, Dossie Easton and more - so I'm glad I have been introduced to her work and am eager to share it with you.
For instance, she teaches the Something More Factor. No matter where you are when it comes to your own orgasms, whether you've never had one or have more than one a day - you can enjoy Something More, if you desire. You can have more orgasms, longer orgasms, deeper orgasms - and orgasms are one ticket to ecstasy and bliss. Having an orgasm creates similar brain waves as meditation.
From the book:
"The Something More Factor is what drives us all in erotic - and spiritual - exploration. The longing for Something More impels some people to dive into the deep end of the pool of sexual excess, and stops others from even dipping their toes into the water. The search for Something More requires permission - from oneself or from some higher authority.Read more ›
Most Recent Customer Reviews
Very informative and has a lot of practical advice. Not just about sex but about enjoying everything in your lifePublished 11 months ago by Christopher P. Hartman
Sex is a valuable part in our existence this was a good book.Published 14 months ago by Antwon Blakeney
I liked Barbara's compassion, the exercises in proprieties, and beliefs. What I disagree with is the point of view that a high level of risk is needed for blissful behaviors she... Read morePublished 17 months ago by ZakkisGod
Ecstasy is Necessary guides you through every nuance of emotional desire, allowing you to integrate ecstasy as part of your every day life. Read morePublished on May 30, 2014 by Sarah Rose
The section about a "permission slip" to explore your own life and pleasure, is well worth buying this book for alone. Read morePublished on March 10, 2014 by Sean W Morefield
.... would have preferred a little more "hands-on" advice as opposed to self-actualisation philosophy, but good for what it is.Published on October 21, 2013 by Daphne Lawless
The author spent to much time on her personal pursuits. Ther was not enough information on how to improve your erotic focus. The book was fairly mild and unimaginative.Published on August 18, 2013 by J. Simpson
Barbara is a marvelous teacher and her love of the subject is reflected in this work... nice practical guides for living an embodied life outside of the "usual" way that... Read morePublished on January 24, 2013 by Ed
Living the ecstatic life. Bring it on. (Book review of Ecstasy is Necessary by Barbara Carrellas-by Dan Nicholas 3.1. Read morePublished on December 27, 2012 by Dan E. Nicholas