From the Author
This Methodology was mostly conceived and matured during the last 12 years as a result of my experiences with many of the several million visitors to my "Novelist Seeks Heroine" website.
I don't know about you but I am a very impatient man. Patience is not a virtue--to me, it's a waste of time. Part of this comes from being a CEO--starting and running numerous companies and always trying to eliminate inefficiencies. Part of it comes from years as a management consultant, helping others figure out better ways to do whatever they do.
But mostly, it is just my nature to be impatient. I have a screaming sense of urgency to grab all the gusto possible, to savor and relish all that I can, in this all-too-short life we have.
The Good-Man Method originally started as a way for a somewhat introverted, somewhat middle-aged, somewhat average-looking man to more efficiently find a somewhat compatible date.
Now a fairly comprehensive approach for finding Happily Ever After, The Method has been honed not just from my own personal experiences with those I have met through my website, but also from interviews with tens of thousands of folks about their own relationships.
What started as a quickie web page to help me eliminate some of the endless iterations of the usual, inane, first-date platitudes grew into a tool to help me find the Heroine who matched all that I wanted in a lover and Soulmate. And into a Methodology which has already helped thousands of others find the love they have sought for themselves.
During the past few years, many thousands of visitors to my web sites have written to thank me for sharing my Method online. Many of these readers have urged me to publish my success story in book format so even more people could benefit from these life-changing insights.
My Goal Is to Save the World - One Million Years of Wasted Time - One Lover at a Time
Efficient Love is intended to help you take charge of your own Quest. Giving you the power to create your own "Happily Here & Now"(tm) and "Happily Ever After" in the ways that are most meaningful for you. Efficiently!
It is gratifying and humbling to know that my Method has already helped so many in such a positive way. My goal is to help every reader eliminate at least a year of dating disappointment. That's an extra 365 sunsets they'll have to share with their Hero or Heroine once they've used Efficient Love to find each other.
Are you willing to say goodbye to an entire year of awkward first dates, Internet trolls, head games and dead-end flings? Do yourself--and the soulmate who's searching for you--a favor. Get your copy of Efficient Love today.
I'm confident my Method can help you find the love of your life.
From the Inside Flap
Isn't love wonderful? Isn't love terrible? Isn't it terrible how cyclical the Quest for wonderful love seems to be for you?
My guess is that you are experienced enough, maybe too much so, to understand and appreciate all three of those points. However, my other guess is that you may be doubtful how something like a methodology could possibly help.
Before I show you how to apply The Method to your own love life, let me see if I can quickly point to some compelling evidence that might, just maybe, sway your thinking and open your mind to an approach that might, just maybe, be better than all the ones you have been using all these years in your own Quest for Love.
Firstly, how many times, so far, have you been in love--or thought you were?
Think back to ALL your past relationships--not just your last, or current, one. Remember all of their names since the first one? OK, how about just the ones you've had sex with?
Based on my several million website visitors, my own 10,000 Heroine applications and my tens of thousands of interviews with others about relationships, along with some other, VERY non-scientific personal experiences, I've concluded that there are NINE Stages in each Cycle of our Quests for love--Nine Stages that we all go through--time after time.
You. Me. Them. All of us.
Some Stages really are magnificently wonderful. Some really are downright terrible.
Let's find out which Stage YOU are in right this minute. What was the average length of time you enjoyed the fantastic, incredible Stage of Love that made the Quest worthwhile after all? What was the average amount of time you were left on the stage, falling out of love? How much time was spent on looking for love once again?
One of the regrettable parts of the whole process is how often we all seem to cycle between all the different Stages of Love--along with the consequential waste of time, energy and emotion.
How much of all three have you wasted, so far, in your own seemingly never-ending Quest?
I know this may sound like an efficiency expert's approach to love, but my goal with Efficient Love is to help you minimize future time, energy and emotional waste and accelerate your success at finding your own flavor of Happily Ever After while maximizing your own Happily Here & Now.
You've got to admit that this is a formidable goal . . . but, even if The Methodology was only 30 percent successful, might it be worth learning and incorporating into your own approach to the Quest? What if the success percentage was even higher for you?
As you will see, I certainly don't consider all parts of the Cycles we go through to be a waste of time, energy and emotion. Just the opposite, as a matter of fact. Each one IS hopefully a learning and growing experience. However, you don't want to end up having the same bad experiences more often than absolutely required. And, once you've learned and grown, it's time to move on to new experiences that get you on the right path of Happily Here & Now.
Here's a hint for you: The parts of the Cycle that are really worthwhile are those that help you obtain and savor and appreciate all the Happily Here & Now you can grab on your way to Happily Ever After.
After all, one of the most important things I have learned, and one of the major points I hope you grow to believe and appreciate from reading this book, is that your Happily Ever After is made up of a series of day-in-day-out Happily Here & Nows.
I believe Efficient Love will help maximize both for you. Right now, there are over 100 million single adults in the United States. Most of them, along with a LOT of married folks, are still looking for their own version of Happily Ever After--with varying degrees of luck. Virtually all of them are going through one of the following Nine Stages of the Love Quest right now. My guess is that you are too.