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Emily Post's The Gift of Good Manners: A Parent's Guide to Raising Respectful, Kind, Considerate Children Hardcover – August 6, 2002

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From Publishers Weekly

"The mechanics of good manners can be learned at any age, but when the learning process begins in childhood, mannerly behavior eventually becomes natural." These words set the tone of the latest guide to come from the Post family. Coauthored by Peggy Post (Everyday Etiquette) and Senning, codirector of the Emily Post Institute, this informative manual on teaching social skills to children is based on taking advantage of each development stage. A baby or a toddler is very limited in his or her ability to understand the fine points of mannerly behavior but, as the authors point out, babies learn first through imitation. Parents or caregivers who consistently demonstrate kind and respectful treatment of others will be used as positive role models by the children in their care. The authors fully describe each stage of growth and then outline all aspects of etiquette that should be taught during this period. From such trivial concerns as how to eat soup properly to important issues such as bullying and cheating, Post and Senning provide detailed guidance on methods of instructing children in acceptable behavior. Whatever the age of the child, they suggest positive reinforcement rather than punishment and, in fact, are opposed to any corporal punishment. During the difficult adolescent years, Post and Senning recommend keeping communication lines open, setting clear rules and expectations, and praising rather than criticizing teens. This is an excellent source of ideas and inspiration for raising children to be considerate adults.
Copyright 2002 Cahners Business Information, Inc.

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Every child wants to be well liked, and every parent wants children who can get along well in the school, social, and work arenas. The secret to this is good manners, and Post, the author of ten etiquette books, and Senning, codirector of the Emily Post Institute, emphasize that these do not simply materialize on their own. Like proper hygiene, good manners must be instilled from the beginning, until they become habit. This book guides the reader through the development of babies, children, and teens, explaining what they are capable of and when. Teaching a toddler to say "please" and "thank you" evolves into the preschooler's "excuse me," and the child's "I'm sorry," right up to the teen's college application letter. The confidence that accompanies social skills will stand adults in good stead throughout their lives. Not since Miss Manners (Judith Martin) gave us her Guide to Rearing Perfect Children has this topic been so well done. Highly recommended. Susan B. Hagloch, Tuscarawas Cty. P.L., New Philadelphia, OH
Copyright 2002 Reed Business Information, Inc.

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Product Details

  • Hardcover: 400 pages
  • Publisher: William Morrow; 1 edition (August 2002)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 006018549X
  • ISBN-13: 978-0060185497
  • Product Dimensions: 6 x 1.6 x 9 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 1.6 pounds
  • Average Customer Review: 4.3 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (17 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,356,410 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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There are tons of books that cover how to raise children properly. Some are way out of touch and some are quite useful. This book definitely fits the latter description. The most useful advise in it for me was to not expect things from children that they cannot provide. At the same time, it does not suggest allowing children to misbehave without being corrected. It is not so much a matter of all or none. Rather it is a matter of taking the right approach and having realistic expectations for the outcome.

It would be nice if raising kids was as simple as turning a switch on and off, but the book explains why this is not so. It makes no effort to suggest that any of the methods will be easy to implement, especially when they must be over and over again, with patience and dedication. It also breaks down realistic expectations by age group, each one having its own issues.

I have made use of the book when I work professionally with children. Much of the suggestions even work well with special needs children where the text needs to be applied based on individual development where the mental age of the child is lower than the physical age. Whatever the case, it provides a lot of coaching for the attitude of the adult where setting the best example is essential, especially when children are at their most difficult.
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I ordered this book for my granddaughter as a Christmas gift. She is a teenager now and really wants to learn more about the proper way to do and say things. This little book is extremely informative with all the things young people should already know (but maybe have forgotten) and all the things that we all need more practice on. I would recommend this book to anyone who's social life is growing and wants to be the best they can be. An essential read for all ages.
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As a parent, I'm really concerned with making sure I raise a well-mannered child. I remember how proud my parents were when someone made a comment on how well-behaved we were as children, and I would love for someone to tell me that I have such well-mannered girls. The behaviours I have seen in some children today are abhorrent and I would NEVER allow my children to act so ungraciously so I checked out this book in hopes that I may start teaching manners to my children early, and not let them develop bad habits. This book is terrific. Its expectations of children and parents are not unreasonable. It's written with a realistic point of view. It's not a stodgy and cold fact book. It is also divided by age groups and it covers infancy (yes, you CAN start this soon) through getting to college. It is a very handy reference tool and it's easy to find what you are looking for, in terms of ettiquette topics (thank you notes, table manners, etc.) I highly recommend it to all parents, and I plan on buying it as well. The main point the Post's are trying to convey in this book is that in order for our children to have good manners that they need us parents to set the good example and this book is a good review for us to brush up on our ettiquette as well.
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Quite a lot of information in this book. I've been following the advice and I am seeing an improvement in my kids manners. I love how it follows kids from babyhood through the teen years. So many people are lacking manners nowadays.
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My parents taught me to be respectful, but they were never big on teaching manners per se. I knew to say "please" and "thank you" but it was not something that was explicitly taught and my parents never made us practice at home. Looking back, I think I have always felt a bit socially awkward and wish that I was better at being polite while standing up to myself. With that in mind, I ordered this book hoping it would help me learn the things I might have missed and maybe get some tips on navigating tricky social situations. I really liked the title of the book, but kind of expected the book to be a bit on the old and stodgy, focused on the mundane and trivial details of traditional etiquette. However, the advice is so expansive and relevant. Here is what I love about it...

1.) Promotes confidence and self-respect. This is my underlying goal for teaching my children manners and I LOVE that this book approaches etiquette from this angle. It is not a guide for raising a prim and proper young lady. It is a guide for raising a child who is genuine and well-liked, who cares for others and who is true to themselves.

2.) Developmentally appropriate - The foreward mentions that this book was written with the help of specialists in "education, communication, child and adolescent health, and human development." When you read the text, it is clear that this book takes a holistic approach and considers the child's social and emotional well-being every step of the way.

3.) Phased advice - I saw another comment that someone was looking for a simple reference book. It has an index in the back if you want that. However, I love that this book breaks down manners by age group.
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I am a huge Emily Post fan as everyone knows. I got this book to start preparing for our baby that is on the way.

I had hoped for more specific information. For instance there are only two areas that cover grandparents in the book.

There is great information in the book. But, after finishing it I am still searching for another book to give me more direct answers to questions that never got answered in this book.

I want to know how to handle it when my child points out that their grandparents are not following the table manners that we are trying to stick by. I want to know how to handle negative comments about religion. I want to know how to make a child stick to the yes ma'am no ma'am rule even when adults out there say they don't like being called ma'am.

Again, it's a good book. But, if you are looking for a broad range of answers then you may still need to find another book in addition to this one as I am.
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