Enter your mobile number or email address below and we'll send you a link to download the free Kindle App. Then you can start reading Kindle books on your smartphone, tablet, or computer - no Kindle device required.

  • Apple
  • Android
  • Windows Phone
  • Android

To get the free app, enter your mobile phone number.

Buy New
$24.95
FREE Shipping on orders with at least $25 of books.
Only 5 left in stock (more on the way).
Ships from and sold by Amazon.com. Gift-wrap available.
The Emotionally Unavailab... has been added to your Cart
Have one to sell? Sell on Amazon
Flip to back Flip to front
Listen Playing... Paused   You're listening to a sample of the Audible audio edition.
Learn more
See all 2 images

The Emotionally Unavailable Man Audio CD – September 18, 2008

4.5 out of 5 stars 126 customer reviews

See all 6 formats and editions Hide other formats and editions
Price
New from Used from
Kindle
"Please retry"
Audio CD
"Please retry"
$24.95
$24.95 $24.95

The Amazon Book Review
The Amazon Book Review
Author interviews, book reviews, editors picks, and more. Read it now
$24.95 FREE Shipping on orders with at least $25 of books. Only 5 left in stock (more on the way). Ships from and sold by Amazon.com. Gift-wrap available.
click to open popover

Frequently Bought Together

  • The Emotionally Unavailable Man
  • +
  • 8 Keys to Eliminating Passive-Aggressiveness (8 Keys to Mental Health)
Total price: $42.57
Buy the selected items together


Editorial Reviews

Review

An incredibly resourceful read for both women and men. --Whitney Casey, The Houston Chronicle --The Houston Chronicle

About the Author

Patti Henry, M.Ed., L.P.C., has been a psychotherapist in private practice since 1988. She began her career developing women's programs in psychiatric hospitals, committed to empowering women. However, her focus soon shifted when she observed how desperately men needed healing as well. After studying and working with men for over twenty years, she is considered an expert on understanding men and what they need to heal. She lives in Houston with her husband and two sons.
NO_CONTENT_IN_FEATURE

The latest book club pick from Oprah
"The Underground Railroad" by Colson Whitehead is a magnificent novel chronicling a young slave's adventures as she makes a desperate bid for freedom in the antebellum South. See more

Product Details

  • Audio CD
  • Publisher: Bob Pryor Productions (September 18, 2008)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0981715583
  • ISBN-13: 978-0981715582
  • Product Dimensions: 6.8 x 6.5 x 0.9 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 12 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (126 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #977,185 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

Customer Reviews

Top Customer Reviews

Format: Paperback Verified Purchase
This book was a revelation ... finally I understand why my husband behaves the way he does and why I respond to him the way I do ... and why we kept engaging in such a futile dance on a daily basis. In a sense, it's taken us both "off the hook".

The bottom line is that this knowledge has empowered me. I have changed the way I respond to him. I no longer take his behaviour personally, but instead accept this as a universal problem with many, many men and not just with my man. He's now reading the book and (for the first time with any book he's read) said "it makes sense".

Often self-help books make men feel inadequate. This book instead reinforces that the behaviour of the emotionally unavailable man is entirely normal in the circumstances. It acknowledges their fear and hesitancy whilst gently encouraging them to take tentative steps in overcoming their lifelong conditioning. It is a doable "blueprint for healing".

I don't want to be the "hurricane" (albeit a very quiet one) in my husband's life. I love him, why would I want to hurt him or make him even more unavailable? Perhaps this book and the newfound patience it can engender in partners will lead to these men becoming much more available to us and others in their lives who are important to them. This is the first time I've actually been optimistic that this might be possible. Everybody wants to be understood, and this book takes a quantum leap in helping us to genuinely understand the emotionally unavailable man. Thank you sincerely Patti Henry.

Dividing the book into a men's section and a women's section was entirely apt. Partners absolutely need to be proactive in helping their man in his efforts to change. We need to be patient, encouraging and compassionate. We need to empathise.
Read more ›
2 Comments 126 people found this helpful. Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
Report abuse
Format: Paperback
This is the first self-help book I have ever read that hit right on the money. It is the first book that accurately describes how I feel as a man in this society and has helpful, doable suggestions for healing. It has, literally, saved my marriage. I highly recommend it.
Comment 27 people found this helpful. Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
Report abuse
Format: Paperback
I have recommended this book to so many people and they've all loved it. All of the men who I know who have read it have raved about it -- and most guys I know don't really get into "self-help" books.

What makes this book unique -- besides a message that is all about how to have healthy relationships -- is that it's written for both men and women. One side of the book is "for men," then flip it over and the other side is written for the women who love them.

Several times, I had to stop reading just to have a "lightbulb moment." This book is fabulous.
Comment 42 people found this helpful. Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
Report abuse
Format: Kindle Edition Verified Purchase
A very interesting read and yet at the same time extremely concerning in many ways. Psychology has always interested me, as has betterment of the inner self, therefore my reasons for reading this book may be different than for others. I do have people in my life who aren't emotionally available and thought this book might offer some insight into why they are as they are. The book did offer great insight - if the person is an unavailable man, and that's the point, or one of them that I found concerning.
How do we know for certain that an unavailable woman isn't handing this over to an available man? We don't. Women have equal ways to be unavailable emotionally as do men.
When I came to the section for women there was very little advice for women as to how to deal with the unemotional man other than to 'heal him'. Is this not asking laypeople to become psychiatrists?

There's another point that really stood out for me - the very fact that a man is emotionally unavailable (or woman for that matter), tends to suggest that he/she regularly stonewalls the other partner. In my humble opinion this isn't just being emotionally unavailable; this is emotionally abusive! Stonewalling is abuse no matter who does it; man or woman. Then the abused are expected to have the necessary tools to heal their own abuser. I can't buy into this theory and find it quite disturbing if I stop and think on different outcomes that could play out after an abuser had read this book. Another critique has already said words to the effect of 'and then he called her a hurricane'.

Having said that, I did find a goodly amount of advice in this book. The premise is excellent, but no offence to Ms Henry, in my opinion it needs a different author who can understand all dynamics of what 'could' be going on.

My comments apply equally to either the man or the woman being emotionally unavailable, and we needn't be married to them.
Comment 11 people found this helpful. Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
Report abuse
Format: Paperback
My husband and I are eternally grateful to Patti Henry for writing this book. It profoundly changed our marriage and, I believe, potentially saved it from deterioration before it even had a chance to get off the ground. While I was dating my husband, it appeared his heart was open to me and that I was the woman of his dreams, but shortly after we got married, I experienced a clamming up with him. He just didn't seem to trust me. He wasn't open, and he became very defensive at every little thing. There was a distinct emotional disconnect. The more I tried I tried to bring him back, the more I felt I was pushing him away and losing him. I had no idea how to work with him or deal with him. The tension escalated, and very soon neither of us was having the marriage we had hoped for or dreamed of.

Now, I knew he was abused as a child by one of his parents, and I was all too aware of the emotional challenges that brought. I had my own past wounds too. But I was not expecting the heated arguments my husband and I had after we got married as they hadn't been there before. It was so disappointing and heartbreaking, to say the least.

Then I found this book on Amazon. I began reading it myself, and my husband immediately noticed a change in me, a hope, an enthusiasm, a light in the tunnel neither he nor I had seen before. I told him it was because of this book, and he became curious.

So now my husband and I are reading this book faithfully every day, and it has changed our lives, changed our marriage, changed me and changed my husband, a man I was concerned about being so set in his ways due to his age, but he wasn't. He was open to change because he was at the end of his rope too. He cared about our marriage and me and himself that much, and I am so proud of him.
Read more ›
Comment 22 people found this helpful. Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
Report abuse

Most Recent Customer Reviews

Set up an Amazon Giveaway

The Emotionally Unavailable Man
Amazon Giveaway allows you to run promotional giveaways in order to create buzz, reward your audience, and attract new followers and customers. Learn more about Amazon Giveaway
This item: The Emotionally Unavailable Man