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Enabling Romance: A Guide to Love, Sex, and Relationships for the Disabled (And the People Who Care About Them) Paperback – May, 1995

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The authors offer a guide to intimacy and physical relations for disabled people and their partners.
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... reminds us that the pursuit of sexual happiness, regardless of the condition of our bodies, belongs to us all. -- Betty Dodson, author of Sex for One --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
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Product Details

  • Series: And the People Who Care About Them
  • Paperback: 211 pages
  • Publisher: Woodbine House (May 1995)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0933149786
  • ISBN-13: 978-0933149786
  • Product Dimensions: 0.5 x 6.2 x 9.2 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 4 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (18 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #2,305,590 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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Format: Paperback
We always joke that children and spouses should come with "How to" manuals. Well, this is THE definitive "How to" manual for having a romantic relationship with someone who has a physical disability. If it were up to me, every person on the planet would be required to read this book! Even though this book is targeted to people who are in relationships with someone who has a disability, "Enabling Romance" is also very relevant to a "physically normal" person. Frankly, I think I'm going to be a better person for having read this book.
As a dating coach, I know that whenever two people enter into a relationship, there are going to be issues. Why? Simply because you are melding two people who have had different life experiences. This book makes many brilliant points, but I especially liked this: someone in a relationship with a disabled person will often make the mistake of blaming the disability for all of the couple's relationship problems. But the reality is that the couple would have many of the same issues to work through even if they were both physically perfect.
The book also talks very specifically about how to have a fulfilling sex life with someone who has a disability. It is done in a warm and caring manner, and it reminded me that people with disabilities have the same needs for love, sex and affection that everyone else has.
Bottom Line: I have given this book 5 stars, but I really wish I could give it 6. It's an A plus. If you're in a relationship with someone who has a disability (or even thinking about starting one), this book is a must-read. Don't wait another day ... order this book right now!
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Format: Paperback
I am severely disabled. I read the first few pages of this book and was encouraged. I then read the remaining 165 pages or so and was incredibly disappointed.

This book is unbelievably trite. If you have little or no experience with relationships or creative sexuality, this book might help you. If you are at all experienced or knowledgeable about establishing relationships and fundamental variations on ways of being intimate then do not waste your money.

Two basic themes dominate the book and are repeated over and over:

1. Disabled people need to learn to be creative and open to new ways of doing things, including being intimate.

2. When dealing with the disabled and partnering with the disabled, people need to learn to be understanding, respectful, and open to new ways of doing things, including being intimate.

The vast majority of disabled people become good at #1 above very quickly out of necessity. We do not need a sixteen dollar paperback to explain that to us.

And as far as #2 goes, how obvious is that?

The book does a good job of identifying problems that persons with disabilities might encounter, but solutions offered are simplistic and obvious - if they are even offered at all. An example of this is the in Chapter titled, "Attendants and Sexual Intimacy." The basic theme is that some of us have severe disabilities that require full time attendants and that it can be awkward to have an attendant around during intimate activities.

Gee, really? Who would have guessed?

Okay, so what to do about it?
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Format: Hardcover
My ONLY problem with this book is that it does not discuss GLBT issues. Nonetheless, this is the BEST book on sex/sexuality I have ever read, and the ONLY one I have read for people with disabilities. The drawings are AMAZING - VERY erotic but done tastefully. I could get turned on on just the pictures alone. Add the stories, and, in the words of my husband (we read this book together), "VA VA VOOM!"
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This is an excellent book. I have Cerebral Palsy. As I read through the various situations described by the authors along with the interviews from other disabled people, these are exactly the type of situation I have dealt with throughout my life. Most important are issues dealing with human sexuality. For a "normal" person who has concerns about these issues, his or her concerns are treated as not only normal, but healthy. However, when the disabled person has the same concerns, he or she is not only treated as abnormal and even perverted, but so often he or she is ignored. Moreover, there is the acknowledgment that these situations, or attitudes, are prevalent in not only the general public, but people of the medical profession who should be trusted to know better. It is so empowering for these issues to be acknowledged in such a mature manner as this book acknowledges them.
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Format: Paperback
The "Joy of Sex" for the disabled is as good of a summary that anyone can write. And that sums up both the good and the bad of this work. The best feature, and the element for which I am personally grateful, is that the book states unquivically that the handicapped are sexual beings, just like anyone else. For that, all of us who are disabled, give a heart-felt "thank you!" When we moved from the general to the specific the book was less strong. I look forward to a time when the authors can assemble a more condition-specific work that has a bit more of the "how to do it" as well as "why do it." This book is sensitive and well written, and I praise it as a good start. But I also hope it is only a start as well, for it left me wanting more.
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