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The End of Sex: How Hookup Culture is Leaving a Generation Unhappy, Sexually Unfulfilled, and Confused About Intimacy Hardcover – April 2, 2013
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"[An] important, wise, and brave new book...The short book, written in the style of an informative and impassioned pamphlet, is painfully accurate in its assessment of the idiocy that passes for sexuality in the dormitory. Freitas' argument is well-researched and well-grounded, and she is sharp enough to condemn hookup culture on sexual grounds, rather than ethical grounds.... Her indictment couldn't be stronger.... Freitas's work is important because it offers a third way toward sexual independence and autonomy in an America caught between Puritanism and pornography. Rather than morally condemning college students for promiscuity or telling them to treat romance with the detached analysis of the headhunter, she is promising them that better sexmore fun, excitement, and intensityis available."
Wall Street Journal
"Illuminating.... Using extensive survey research and dozens of interviews with young men and women on college campuses across the country, Ms. Freitas explodes the myth of the 'harmless hookup.'... Freitas’s book is a timely and alarming wake-up call to students, college administrators and parents, and she presents a compelling argument against the hookup culture.”
[A] straight-forward, well-researched, and eye-opening book . This compelling testimony from young people around the country provides ample evidence for why this campus lifestyle should not be ignored.”
Freitas provides compelling evidence that far too many young adults live lives of quiet desperationsexually and socially...The End of Sex paints a vivid portrait of hookup culture There is much in The End of Sex to applaud.”
The book is informative, non-judgmental and a must-read for parents and for their university-aged kids although once you become immersed in it you’ll be screaming (as I was), Oh spirit, show me no more.’ But keep reading and start figuring out a new conversation with the kids or they may never know what love’s got to do with it.'"
[A] scathing and reasoned attack on the casual-sex culture at American universities . [Freitas] encourages mindfulness and an open dialogue about what students want to get out of sex, and her remedies (which include temporary periods of abstinence and a return to the traditional date) should provide, if not solutions, at least inspiration for parents and college staff in talking to students about how to have better relationships, and better sex.”
Lauren Sandler, author of Righteous and One and Only
You may think you know about hookup culture, but unless you have read Freitas’s clear, compassionate, and complete study, you have no idea. Instead of gleaning the state of intimacy of an entire generation from a few subjects, Freitas surveys and interviews thousands of students, and the vast scope of the pervasive hookup culture she discovers is stunning. I recommend this book to men and women alike, students and professors, parents and kidsanyone with a personal or social interest in physical intimacy, emotional intimacy, and the widening chasm in between. Whether you spar with Freitas’s conclusions, or feel liberated by them, The End of Sex is simply indispensable.”
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Freitas' conclusion about the hookup culture - that it "silences, shames, isolates, and disempowers students, quashing their ethics, desires, and differences, their need for respect and connection, and their need to be treated with bodily dignity, to express emotion, and the experience of pleasure" - is going to alienate some readers even before they crack open her book. Even if readers don't agree, though, there is an objective argument to be made about the consequences for this generation once they begin attempting to settle down and form long term relationships without the benefit of learning from the dating mistakes everyone makes in their teens and twenties. Not surprisingly, the most compelling portion of the book comes when Freitas discusses Kerry Cronin's work on the challenges and benefits of actually getting students to try dating rather than hooking up, since Ms. Cronin is one of the few people who've taken practical steps to address this gap.
Unfortunately, that is one of the few highlights.
First, the methodology for many of her arguments is simply atrocious.Read more ›
Soulless, primitive, unfulfilling hookup sex seems to be the norm. What she describes sounds like hell. The social pressure to enter this sexual hell seems to overwhelm almost everyone.
I do not care about Freita's religious believes and do not share them. What I highly appreciate is her fact-oriented description of the college student's sexual behavior, based on hundreds (1,500?) of interviews. I know from the testimony of close relatives, girls at college, that the author's description of the "cultural" college atmosphere and sexual mechanics - drunk males using intoxicated females as instruments for masturbation - are accurate.
to a full book. Perhaps it is because they need the dough. Do not waste your time with this book. The idea is pretty clear---people are having hookups, they later learn
these are not fulfilling relationships. This hurts women more than men, but it hurts both. There--you have it. Now you can skip wasting your time on this book.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
This book is smart, thorough, and wise. Such a worthwhile read for anyone involved in this lives of college students.Published 20 months ago by Alexandra Solomon
This is a terrific book for high school and college students - and their parents and school teachers/administrators. Read morePublished on June 4, 2014 by Mayde
The book seems to provide what appears to be the present means by which college students relate to each other socially, through hookups & sex through alcohol stimulus, the author... Read morePublished on April 9, 2014 by Jose M. Callejo Jr.
I find the text essential in answering the concept of liberty, liberation and then more liberty in campuses: where are we heading? Read morePublished on October 17, 2013 by Amazon Customer
The book is based on a survey of 2,500 undergraduate students at seven US colleges, undertaken in 2006, including public, private, Catholic and conservative evangelical Christian... Read morePublished on August 8, 2013 by Iola
As a starting freshman in college this fall semster, I found this book to be incredibly thought provoking. Read morePublished on July 28, 2013 by valj50
I was extremely disappointed in this book. The author took a catchy title and ran to the bank. Nothing of substance or even intrigue in this book. Read morePublished on July 8, 2013 by Lytle James
Newsflash: people like to have sex. Always has been that way, though various ruling parties have done their best to control and regulate this innate element of humanity for their... Read morePublished on July 5, 2013 by Claudia Cascini
As someone who recently graduated from college, Freitas's portrait of hookup culture is very accurate. Read morePublished on June 3, 2013 by Jessica