Reading this memoir made me want to reach out and help this tormented man. It made me wish I had the magic words that could change things for him and end his torture.
I have not experienced what he did so cannot personally relate to what happened to him. I just know from what others who have experienced this say, that it is devastating.
I am not at all certain whether he is doing better now or not. My impression from the list of prescription drugs he takes daily, that he is over-medicated; but I am not a doctor. I hope he is no longer drinking and that he no longer cuts himself or experiences physical pain each day.
I was glad to hear that he sold the house. I felt it was not an emotionally healthy place for him to be living.
Certainly he dwells upon the negativity that has occurred in his life. Perhaps when these negative images and thoughts decend if he could stop himself and exchange them for something positive that would help some--get in the habit of always doing that.
I think the way his parents treated him following the incident was as much or maybe even more, damaging, than the drunken act itself. The blame should have been placed primarily on the father, but the mother and grandmother should have spoken up. That the parents behaved as if it were this boy's fault destroyed his self esteem and created the self-hatred and fears that have kept him prisoner during his life.
A great deal, if not all, of what happened was due to heavy drinking.
Like many of us, and partly I believe due to his upbringing, he has placed too high a value on the looks of things. He berates himself because he's not "beautiful enough." There are virtues, values and goals far more relevant than one's looks or even having the "perfect" sex life; although certainly a person should be able to enjoy love and sex with their beloved.
I do think he is an immensely talented writer and hope he will now focus his skills on writing a novel. I wish him well.
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