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The Essentials of Parental Alienation Syndrome: It's Real, It's Here and It Hurts Paperback – October 21, 2011
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Dr. Evans has a Ph.D. from The Catholic University of America. He has over twenty-five years of experience in individual, group & family counseling; psychological & educational evaluations; training & training research. He is an approved sponsor of continuing education for psychologists by the American Psychological Association. In addition, he has been approved by numerous state bar associations to offer continuing legal education to attorneys in the areas of Parental Alienation, Parent Alienation Syndrome and Critiquing & Reviewing Child Custody Evaluations. He specializes in comprehensive divorce services, including child custody evaluations, expert testimony, attorney consultations and trial preparation. He has developed the internet based child custody system called Custody Report Pro and can be seen at http://custodyreportpro.com. Dr. Evans can be reached at his website www.drbobevans.com or his email: firstname.lastname@example.org. J. Michael Bone, PhD, holds a Ph.D. from the New School for Social Research in NY. He has worked extensively in the area of high conflict divorce with special interest in Parental Alienation. He has served as evaluator, therapist, court appointed expert, researcher, teacher and consultant. He currently serves in a consultative capacity to attorneys and parents throughout the United States, and advises them on developing strategies and outcomes that protect their children’s wellbeing, and their relationship with them. He has numerous publications and presentations on the topic of Parental Alienation Syndrome. Dr. Bone may be reached through his website, www.jmichaelbone.com or his email: Michael@jmichalebone.com.
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Living with an alienating parent is continual exposure to emotionally charged situations where the child is in an environment where there are a lot of expressions of anger and hostility towards the targeted parent. That negative energy is contagious. The child picks up on that energy. This is the breeding ground for depression, feelings of rejection, and poor self-esteem in the child, all emanating from the negativity that is in the alienating parent's home.
PAS is very real; it is very valid; and it is very well documented. The phenomenon admittedly needs more research and discussion; there is no doubt about it. Our focus should, however, should be on the harm PAS does to children, especially when they lose their relationship with a loving parent. In fact when PAS is not acknowledged it can be life-threatening.
There are very few books out there discussing this major issue that almost 50% now of all children now find themselves caught between and made to suffer through these traumatic adult head games.
Children caught in the middle of two people who can't work their problems out in a civil and adult manner in order to spare their offspring issues that will follow them phychologically into adulthood and even onto the next generation if not addressed.
UNJUST: When your granddaughter, whose father raised her as a infant, mother divorced father but told child father left them (lied) which is parental alienation.
UNJUST: When the parent will not allow any gift exchanged between the child, father or paternal grandparents.
UNJUST: When the court awards a child with a cell phone with only three numbers programmed in, mom, dad and grandma & grandpa. Mom smashed the phone as soon as they got home according to granddaughter.
UNJUST: When a twelve year old child has to borrow a girl friend's cell phone to text to her father, "Daddy, I love and miss you."
UNJUST, especially here in IL when a parent has "Joint Custody" and the court mandated that the mother give out her phone number, address (son is not stalking - mother is though) and to comply with the 48 hours every two weeks Home Custody to only have the mother non-comply AND THE STATE ALLOWS THE MOTHER TO BE NON-COMPLIANT.
UNJUST: When the Paternal Grandparents have to dip into their retirement fund to pay court costs to see their own granddaughter (now we're up to $30,000) just to take this non compliant parent back to court (again).
UNJUST: When a woman is allowed to get away with calling the father's place of employment and get him fired (stalking) in order to make it impossible for him to continue paying child support and try to then have him thrown into jail.
If a man had done any of the things to his ex wife my ex daughter in law has done to my son, he would find himself in jail. Until our son finds another full time permanent job, we are paying through the court, child support, again dipping into our retirement fund. Mother would not accept any money directly from us, nor gifts of clothes or food.
Son is keeping a tab and will pay us back so for any nasty comments we are not enabling him. He has always pulled his own weight and paid us back anything we have loaned him.
UNJUST: When the mother has been allowed to be in non-compliance for weekend custody every two weeks for now going on nine months in addition to stalking. If a man had done 1/2 of this he would have found himself in jail. Our system is now currently very anti-father. Men, read that last statement again. You will need a lot of money and a really good lawyer if you marry a woman that likes to fight and decides to take your child(ren) away from you.
In our case, the mother would rather the money go to the lawyers and not her because some people are mean and so hurt (ex daugher in law is repeating exactly what she went through as a child) they have to poison everyone around them.
These vendictive games have been allowed to go on for now 9 years and who suffers?
My granddaughter still cried the last Sunday evening we saw her and her mother called saying to my son, "It's time for us to meet at the place of my designation."
MEN: You get married; make darn sure you marry a nice, fair playing, woman, before you have a child you will lose your heart to, be darn sure your marriage is stable. Once you have that baby, legally in 80% of the cases the court will award the child(ren) to the mother and they belong to her like a PC, car, table, dress - they are her property. You and your parents will lose almost all rights to seeing your child(ren) on a regular basis if you made the dumb mistake of picking a real vicious partner that likes to play war games.
To the system at present, it does not matter that your children carry 50% of your DNA or that you were and are a good father.
Parental and Grandparent Alienation Syndrome: It is here, it is real and it hurts beyond description.
The system, as it is currently set up, does not care about the child's psychological welfare. THEY DON'T CARE, TO THEM, YOUR CHILD IS JUST ANOTHER CASE NUMBER. To the lawyers who are making out like bandits, it's their vacation money in Aruba.
Here in America, you get all the justice you can buy.
And people wonder why so many of our youth are so messed up psychologically?
If you find the book, "Father's Rights" by Jeffery M. Leving - forget him, his firm in Chicago are the ones who initially screwed up my son's "Joint Custody" by assigning a lawyer that didn't know what she was doing. Very expensive and very bad lawyer.
I have watched my 12 year old granddaughter go from being a happy, carefree, bubbly, child into a moody, sad and broken young adult, thanks to a system that won't recognize a child until someone comes up with enough money, and a good lawyer.
It has taken me $30,000 total playing around with a system that simply does not care.
Our children are our legacy and no child should have to go through the vicious head games that my granddaughter's had to endure for nine years.