- Paperback: 280 pages
- Publisher: Greenery Press; 1st edition (December 1997)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 1890159018
- ISBN-13: 978-1890159016
- Product Dimensions: 9.1 x 6.1 x 0.7 inches
- Shipping Weight: 12 ounces
- Average Customer Review: 4.2 out of 5 stars See all reviews (115 customer reviews)
- Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #225,331 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities Paperback – December, 1997
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At last a comprehensive, no-holds-barred guide for anyone who dreams of having all the sex and love and friendship they want. Here are the skills you need for successful - and ethical - sluthood, from scheduling dates to handling jealousy, finding partners to resolving conflict, raising children to caring for your health. If you've ever envisioned a universe beyond traditional lifetime monogamy, this is the book for you.
Top Customer Reviews
This is a great read for people with feelings like mine...it gives a great account of the guidelines you need if you ever choose to enter into polyamory. Several good points are emphasized: love and sex are not necessarily the same, one may be an expression of the other but they CAN be completely separate. Love, sex and pleasure are not limited qualities people have...you can love someone else and make love to them without depriving your "primary" partner of the same feelings and actions. Drawbacks are also discussed, including time constraints, jealousy, respecting privacy and property of all your lovers, and coming out to your kids about your relationship (most actually think its pretty cool because there's always someone to talk to).
I read this book aloud with my girlfriend because we had always been curious about poly-type relationships. We asked ourselves many questions, and when we finally attended our first party, we were able to talk more afterwards and decided we loved it...and yet we could still be committed to each other! And we're still going strong...thanks to this and other wonderful resources that provided a basis for us to try new things!
I thought it failed to deliver. It seemed to spend a lot of time patting itself on the back for being so open and for daring to suggest an alternative lifestyle. But I wouldn't have picked up the book in the first place if I weren't ready to consider (intellectually at least) alternatives to monagomy. Aside from offering fairly glib and superficial advice (don't have loud sex within hearing distance of your primary partner), it doesn't really grapple with the problems--physical, emotional, financial--that come with open relationships. I'm not saying that pursuing open relationships isn't possible. I'm saying that this book is not an honest look at the problems and difficulties that might come up in such relationships. It's less than honest, and that's a disappointment coming from someone who claims to care about ethics.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
Gives one a new perspective and how women are more and more allowed by society to actually enjoy sex.Published 9 months ago by TrialAuthor
Great book on human sexuality and exploring relationships outside of standard two-person monogamy. Very funny and insightful.Published 14 months ago by Franklin Burg
I found a lot of typos so far but I'm definitely happy I bought this book after Rupaul recommended it. A good start for anyone interested in polyamory. Read morePublished 22 months ago by Stephanie
Lost interest in reading it. Bought it for my g friend. Not saying its bad, but just not quiet what I expected. Im very liberal and was a little disappointed.Published on August 10, 2014 by randy