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A much needed and often overlooked aspect of parenthood
on June 13, 2015
Disclaimer: I have not finished this book. However, several chapters in, I find that this book is exactly what I was looking for.
As the title suggests, it is a somewhat abstract guidebook on the conversations that parents should be having within themselves in order to parent with grace, patience and wisdom. It is NOT a traditional manual on childrearing. It is not about methods to use when disciplining or interacting with your child (though there are sections on co-sleeping, breastfeeding, etc.). (For concrete parenting tips and approaches, I HIGHLY recommend Janet Lansbury's books.) Instead, this book is about the mental workings of the parent as he or she plays, admonishes, lives with children. If that sounds confusing, let me offer an example...
My 3 year is spirited, to say the least, and can be running around, shouting with excitement one minute, or falling into a very intense tantrum the next. While I recognize that the tantrum is a sign that she's: a) sleepy, b) trying to communicate but is overwhelmed by her emotions or c) wants my attention, the intensity of her emotions can often feel like an assault on my senses and I tend to react emotionally. Then, we often fall into a battle of wills and both get increasingly upset and frustrated. Whether you believe in time outs, time ins, consequence driven discipline, or none of the above, this book is about what the parent does with his or her energy and thoughts in such a scenario and many others. When I am able to apply the approach in this book, I am able to completely improve my outlook and level of contentment. This is a much needed and often overlooked aspect of parenthood! I am very grateful for this book!