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Experiencing Reality: Perspectives from an Agent of Change Paperback – December 16, 2011
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Profoundly simple stories which transcend the hype of some NLP and which ground change work in the down-to-earth reality we live in. - Richard Bolstad, NLP Trainer and Author
Chris Cathey's book, 'Experiencing Reality' is must read for anyone! I rarely recommend books but this book was fun to read. - Richard Nongard, LMFT
About the Author
Chris Cathey is a Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and has spent over a decade of his life studying human behavior and methods of creating lasting change. He has trained with many of the best and brightest in the field of psychology and personal development. He is currently working towards a M.A. in Counseling Psychology and lives in Las Vegas, NV
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The stories are billed as metaphors, though the author leaves it to the reader to formulate what those metaphorical lessons may be, much the way that a change agent may operate with his clients. A few chapters--such as the one warning change agents against guru worship--fall short of metaphor, simply presenting straightforward advice. Others seem so obscure that the message is a bit hard to discern, though I suspect that may have been intentional. A few of the tales describe adaptations of Ericksonian methods, such as Cathey taking Erickson's approach to helping Olympic shot-putters and adapting it to helping a child overcome his fear of heights.
All in all, I found a great deal to agree with in Experiencing Reality--especially the points about tailoring the work to the client, the value of kindness, and the need to avoid idolizing teachers. The book is a quick and pleasant read, and because it consists of short, easily-digested chapters, it will probably take its place in my bathroom next to Rosen's work. While it might not change lives or revolutionize the coaching industry, Experiencing Reality certainly provides an illuminating diversion for anyone in the business of change. For someone just beginning that journey, there is a wealth of wisdom and advice.
This series of anecdotes and insights captures the heart of what it takes to change or to help someone else change. I found many of the stories touching in their simplicity and directness. Overall it gave me a perspective into not *how* to help as much as how to be *the kind of person* who is generally helpful--a person who cares.
I imagine this book would be perfect for new psychotherapists or individuals who want a clear, from-the-heart, honest take on what it takes to really change...or for anyone interested in Mr. Cathey's approach to working with clients.
I took off one star only because it was shorter than I would expect from a book of stories, and I wanted more! Perhaps the length wouldn't have surprised me if it was instead titled, "Zen and the Art of Change," a title which would have fit quite well for these wonderfully pithy insights into human nature.
It was a very quick read and easily understandable stories that will transform.
I think the book is more for people who do change-work with people... however i think at some level we all do that
so i believe it is useful to all.
I like the personal stories within Chris's life. I get more from them than anything else i might read that has 10 points to follow.
While i may not remember the 10 points i can almost always remember the story and the meaning i have made of it
Experiencing anothers reality can help you experience what they experienced and sometimes get that same change youself
at other times you might remember that story and feel it is right for the person in front of you.
Either way stories transform and the more you have in your toolbox the better the chance you will have the perfect one
at the perfect time.
Chris has given me some stories that will be very useful...at sometime.
I especially liked the Diaper story and the Reaper story.
I look forward to more of Chris's work!
The book itself didn't revolutionize my life, but refreshingly the book didn't promise to. Instead the book promised short stories and metaphors woven with different lessons - and this it delivered. The book was an easy read and I read it in one evening.
I learned a very important lesson from reading this book. Curiously, the lesson I learned wasn't from the content in the stories, but rather their style. I've had this weird idea that in order to help people create change, I had to tell them elaborate and super exciting stories. This book provided a strong counter-example to this. The stories were simple, BUT the brilliance about this is that this allowed me to relate to them and keep me interested. This has helped me free up more resources and I now have a lot more stories from my life that I can use to help people create change.