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Fatherneed: Why Father Care is as Essential as Mother Care for Your Child Paperback – May 8, 2001
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"A warm and glowing message for parents about how fathers and children need each other from the child?s infancy well into adulthood. Should be required reading for mothers and fathers alike."
--Judith Wallerstein, Ph.D., author of The Good Marriage
"If you aren't already convinced, you will be after reading this book- Dads are really important, too!"
--San Diego Family
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Drawing on more than two decades of highly acclaimed research at the Yale Child Study Center, and backed up by true stories from actual families, Fatherneed is the essential how-to guide for women and men who wish to promote engaged fathering. This book will help enable fathers to give their children the skills they need to develop into happy and healthy adults. Step by step, Dr. Pruett specifically addresses what a father can do to prepare his marriage, his house, and his emotions for his child's needs, from infancy through the toddler years, childhood, adolescence, and young and mature adulthood.
With advice to fathers ranging from how to speak to toddlers so that they listen, to how to avoid the common tendency to reinforce gender stereotypes in young children, to how to maintain a connection with an increasingly autonomous teenager, Fatherneed is the perfect resource for all dads-including divorced fathers, fathers of adopted children, stepfathers, and fathers of special-needs children-as well as moms who want kids who are meaningfully connected to their fathers. With wit, authority, and compassion, Dr. Pruett shows how to be sure that your child gets what only a father can provide.
- Paperback : 256 pages
- ISBN-10 : 076790737X
- ISBN-13 : 978-0767907378
- Item Weight : 12.3 ounces
- Dimensions : 5.53 x 0.53 x 8.43 inches
- Publisher : Harmony (May 8, 2001)
- Language: : English
- Best Sellers Rank: #555,367 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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I read his first book The Nurturing Father at a time when I was acutely aware of my lack of fathering ability. My mother died before I turned 12, my father died when I was 35 and my four children were under the age of 12, all my grandparents deceased. I had nowhere to go for insight or advice. Both these books became reference material, study guides, and ultimately paradigm shifts for me. As a gift to my son when he began his journey as a young father it made him functional where he otherwise would have floundered. For the husband who is seeking to transcend the limitations of his upbringing Pruett's findings are essential reading.
The most illuminating concept I gleaned from this book in particular (against the backdrop of his previous one) is how vital the transference of bonding is from mother to father beginning when a child is born. If this does not take place, the relationship between husband and wife, and parent to child is unlikely to develop in full potential. From what I have observed of Western parenting (over a half century), neither husbands nor wives are fully cognizant of the influence the mother has in the transition of a man from husband to father. It is a process that is really a journey, both for the husband and the wife. It is true that fathers who are facilitated by their wives to bond with their child, rarely abuse them. If the mother does not wean herself from the exclusive bond of maternity, to include the bond of the father beginning with childbirth, his journey to be an involved and effective father (and husband) becomes much more arduous and more prone to serious mistakes. The child is often denied the vital nurturing in their early development that can be pivotal to their own success in relationships, both intimate and social.
Having stated the essential element of Dr Pruett' research, I do not imply he has all the answers, nor that he is perfectly correct in his conclusions. That is not his intent, nor mine. For the person who is seeking answers to their family dynamic, Dr Pruett's books are a wonderful insight. His findings explained a great deal of what was missing in my life, why my first marital relationship never got off the ground, and why mothers often fail to realize their most treasured hopes, and children like myself grow up wondering who their parents really are, and why they feel something is missing within themselves.
The reader should treat this book as a preliminary report. If you're looking for understanding and illumination as a parent, Dr Pruett's research is like a well-lit signpost in the night.