I am so glad I received this book to review as my 3 boys are adopted, and they are half brothers to each other. My boys are 1, 7, and 13 years old. I can relate to 90% if this book from the lying, defiance to aggression along with their ADHD that runs in their birth family. I have gone through these issues and this book really helps make things easier on the parents. You feel so much love for them even when they turn away you can not back down and threaten to send them back that is the last thing they want to hear. You never know how many foster families they have had to go through before coming to you and adopted them. I can say for my 13 year old he was in 6, my 7 year old 3 and my 11 month old thank goodness 1 family before we got him at 5 months. This book is a god send and so happy to have it. --babs-worldofbooks.blogspot.com
This is a life changing book that will give hope to so many families. It takes away so much of the guilt and profound sense of failure that seems to sadly be part of many families involved in adoption. For me, his statement that, until a child reaches his or her late 20 s there is still great opportunity for healing and change to occur, gives us all hope. For adoptive families that is such a major contrast to the usual doom of childcare experts and gives us the knowledge, based on brain research, that we can continue to make a difference in overcoming past traumas. Bryan tells us that healing happens in the home and the biggest difference in a child s life is a well regulated parent . This book will give people confidence in themselves as parents and to trust their own loving instincts. In contrast to many child care manuals based on traditional beliefs, Bryan s paradigm is backed up by the latest research in neuroscience. It is a highly accessible book with key points highlighted allowing readers to dip back in to be reminded and reassured that you can indeed move to Love --Jean Belton, UK
About the Author
A renowned clinician, lecturer, and author of many books (The Great Behavior Breakdown, From Fear to Love and co-authored Beyond Consequences, Logic and Control with Heather Forbes), video, and audio programs, Bryan has traveled throughout the world providing expert treatment and consultation to a variety of groups. An internationally recognized specialist in the treatment of emotional and behavioral, he specializes in a holistic family-based treatment approach that addresses the underlying interactive dynamics of the entire family, a neurophysiologic process he refers to as, The secret life of the family. Post contends that these same dynamics become obvious and are visibly apparent in every relationship.
He holds three degrees in the field of social work: a Bachelors of Social Work degree from East Central University in Ada, Oklahoma; a Masters of Social Work degree from the University of Texas at Arlington; and a Doctoral degree in Social Work from Columbus University School of Public Administration.
A maverick in the mental health field, Bryan broke from traditional teachings in the late 1990 s and developed a dynamic theoretical model of human behavior which he coined the Stress Model. When fully understood and applied to nearly any situation the stress model can reveal underlying unconscious expressive states which can transform relationship dynamics. From the Stress Model theory he has gone on to develop both Family-Centered Regulatory Parenting and Regulatory Therapy which both have been taught at the university level, garnering Post international recognition.
Of noted interest is also the fact that he has woven his therapy model into breakthrough educational experiences that are referred to as POST Camps for adults, parents, and therapists. These rapid results programs have been changing the lives of struggling adults, parents, and families for the past several years.
Bryan is a retired Clinical Social Worker, speaker, author and entrepreneur. He lives with his family in Claremore OK.