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Feeling Better, Getting Better, Staying Better : Profound Self-Help Therapy For Your Emotions Paperback – June 1, 2001
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Copyright 2001 Reed Business Information, Inc.
—Betty Street, MSSW, LCSW; NASW Mississippi Chapter Newsletter
—Carolyn Johnson, MSW, ABIL Newsletter
—Raymond Corsini, PhD, clinical psychologist (ret.), editor, Encyclopedia of Psychology, Current Psychotherapies and Handbook for Innovative Psychotherapies
—Arnold A. Lazarus, PhD, ABPP, Distinguished Professor Emeritus of Psychology, Rutgers University, author of Martial Myths Revisited and co-author of The 60-Second Shrink
—Cyril M. Franks, PhD, Distinguished Professor Emeritus of Psychology, Rutgers University, Editor, Child & Family Behavior Therapy
Top Customer Reviews
Ellis makes no bones about the fact that it is often difficult to achieve the changes you want to make - but that's no reason for not doing so!
Having tried other therapeutic methods, until I discovered Dr. Ellis at one of his legendary Friday night workshops, I can tell you that if you stick to the principles laid out in this book, you will be the better for it.
He emphasizes not only the aspect of feeling better, which many clients can more or less easily do (e.g. by exercising, meditating or distracting oneself from difficult feelings and situations). It is much more important to actually get better and permanently stay better. Ellis shows how you can achieve the kind of deep restructruring of your basic philosphies of life. He specifically recommends the use of the following techniques:
- Logical Disputing, e.g.: does it really follow that I am a worm if I am acting wormily?
- Realistic Disputing: Where is the evicence for my absolutist belief?
- Pragmatic Disputing: making cost-benefit ratios of short and long term benefits of my behavior and thinking patterns
To effectively dispute your irrational beliefs, you better dispute them cognitively, emotionally and behaviorally.
What I as a psychologist especially liked about this new book, are Ellis' exemplary disputations of low frustration tolerance, self-downing and other downing. This can help clients considerably to apply the ideas to their real life problems.
A good book to use for bibliotherapy!
To benefit the most (as with any time tested tool) you have to be honestly dedicated, ready to change and persistent because deep rooted habits, IR's (irrational thoughts) and beliefs can be challenging to shift - but they do change for the better. I tell you, it's a relief to quit fighting with my reality as much. So roll up your sleeves and develop USA (unconditional self-acceptance) and unearth your genuine self worth. I tip my hat to Dr. Ellis.
Another Very effective book is "SOS Help For Emotions" by Dr. Clark. This easy read makes the process of changing for the better a tad fun the way it's written, plus it has tests to make sure you get it and apply the new tools.
While this is not a manual for the seriously disturbed, those with more common issues will find a great deal of help, so long as they are willing to apply these principles.
- that "people disturb themselves by the things that happen to them and by their views, feelings and actions"
- that "people have a choice of how they feel"
- that there are 3 main irrational beliefs that disturb people: a) Ï absolutely must perform well b) I absolutely must be treated fairly by others c) I must not find life's conditions very hard
In order to dispute these Irrational Beliefs that are the source of your suffering, he proposes a number of thinking, feeling and behaving methods of actively disputing and counter attacking these beliefs.
REBT's effectiveness was scientifically proven according to Ellis, unlike other psychological theories such as psicotherapy. This is supposedly a great advantage about it. You read it and he really knows how to "sell" it. But I wonder, if REBT is so succesfull why is it that it hasn't become the standard practice of every psychologist? I don't know. However, I recommend this book to everyone interested in psychology and getting better.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
Hard to beat Dr. Ellis when you're trying to get your head straight.Published 6 months ago by J. Rue
I quickly developed a love-hate relationship with this book while reading it. Overall, though, I love it more than I hate it, hence my rating of four stars. Read morePublished 8 months ago by Adamantius
Albert Ellis, the psychologist who originally designed cognitive therapy in the early 1950s, wrote more than three dozen books. Read morePublished 12 months ago by M. C. Loftin
The world renowned psychotherapist albert ellis writes a book on how to stay better and not just feel better using techniques he approves of in this book by correcting your... Read morePublished 18 months ago by twikkione
One of the best books for self-help I've ever used. Works best for those that think more logically than creatively.Published 20 months ago by Kelly Harrelson
Great book. I recommend it for people who want to stop being negative.Published on August 24, 2014 by Christine A. Eckert
His books have been better, I give this an OK. If you are not familiar with REBT you may get lost in some of Dr. Ellis's verbiage. Read morePublished on August 9, 2014 by Sirhikesalot