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Fidelity: How to be a One-Woman Man Paperback – December 6, 1999
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Why, you ask? It's disturbing to know the severity of unfaithfulness toward one's wife and it should have never been written because it's not easy owning up to dishonoring one's spouse.
This book is excellently written. The style is smooth and the outline is fluid. Doug Wilson once again writes in a style that is easy to digest, follow and research his points by referring back to the authoritative standard from which he argues, namely, the Bible.
The chapters: lust and pornography, fornication, adultery, divorce, prostitution, rape, polygamy, sodomy, masturbation, celibacy, sexual solutions, questions and answers and sexual glory.
This book is really not intended for women. It is much too directly addressing shameful areas of a man's life that fall short that dishonor his wife.
I really can't even get into the subject matter of the book other than to say that Wilson makes points in this book that every Christian man should seriously consider and contemplate.
Please don't misunderstand...this book is not crude or indecent. It is Biblical. It is instructional. But it does handle many topics which only Dr. Ruth has dared to tread. And that's a point Doug Wilson brings up: The Christian must take pleasure in his wife, with his wife, not according to society's standard of fulfillment, but of the Scriptural instruction on true enjoyment.
It's about avoiding the problem areas of dishonoring one's wife and sinning against her. It's about the glory of the bed. It's about the gifts of God and how to enjoy them more, Biblically.
Wow. Good stuff.
I wasn't sure if I should read this book -- it might as well have a "No Girls Allowed" sign on it -- but I am glad I did. Someone needs to write a version that women aren't afraid to buy or read. (Yes, I've read Elisabeth Elliot's books, but they aren't quite on the same level.) Ironically, it may be the very desire to protect the purity of Christian women that tends to keep such a purifying book out of the hands of those whom it might benefit. Granted, women who were lovingly shielded from exposure to what the world has to say (and show and tell) about sex probably don't need it, so Fidelity might do them more harm than good. But for women to whom the harm has already been done -- by their own sin or others', by misinformation or abuse, by media or "education" -- it should be considered as a possible curative. For me, reading Fidelity was like giving my soul a long-needed bath.
(Adapted from a post on my blog.)
This book is NOT a treatise on the man getting his way with the woman nor is it the contrary. Someone reading that into this book would have much difficulty intellectually digesting a Sunday comic strip. Among many of the issues it addresses is the struggle with fidelity and temptation from Satan, flesh and the world that both husbands and wives struggle with, and for which BOTH are protectors of the others weakness. Furthermore, IF you love your wife or IF you love your husband, and do not protect the other by the marriage bed (yes that means sex under the God given covenant of marriage for all the medieval dinosaurs out there) then you should examine yourself and your love toward your spouse.
Those who read this and think it is about women giving in to "their ape of a husband's sex drive", are grossly ignorant of what Scriptures say to the issue and this book. And men who would read this and think that it is about "their wives being slave like concubines to them" are equally grossly ignorant of what Scriptures say to the issue and this book.Read more ›
His use of contemporary jargon and slang to heighten the sense of obscenity in ungodly actions is excellent - and makes for a memorable and entertaining read.
Wilson uses solid exegesis that doesn't bend or twist the text. He hits the nail on the head every time.
Please buy this book and when you're done reading it, pass it around.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
As a woman is excellent to be able to understand the man main. Thanks to Douglas WilsonPublished 18 months ago by Milena Valverde
I am a married man and have struggled with masturbation and pornography before. This book helps me understand not only the severity of such actions, it's effect on marriage, and my... Read morePublished 24 months ago by Bradencn
Desperately needed frankness and clarity for our homes and churches. My only complaint is that he did not address the few remaining topics of perversion that are becoming... Read morePublished on January 19, 2014 by Elliot Cameron
It's a good book for any man or woman to read. It does challenge some of our modern views. Be ready to think through.Published on September 16, 2013 by Lee Chi Hau
Wilson's writing is always entertaining to read and insightful. Fidelity is a must read for the man who senses that there is something deeper behind the problem of lust than just... Read morePublished on June 27, 2013 by heavyclassical
This is the book that much of society will ignore but perhaps may be one of the most beneficial for our society to read. Read morePublished on May 28, 2013 by Nicholas M.
This a classic ! Every man should this book. Douglas Wilson spoke to my heart. Will read it over and over again.Published on December 19, 2012 by Darainman
This is a book written for men.
And all men should read this and think about what it is saying.
Wilson writes with wit, and it's awesome.
This book "Fidelity" by Douglas Wilson is to put it bluntly explicit.It is totally unlike any marriage manual I have ever read. Read morePublished on September 2, 2012 by 24th chance