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Finding Frances Paperback – April 10, 2010
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"How does each person want to live? How would they want to die?...Our current medical system is required to do whatever it can to prolong life. Is there a way for us to improve on that model? Van Dyck brings these questions smoothly to the surface without ever pushing an agenda or setting up arguments. She leaves the reader wishing death could be made easier and glad that the family and hospital finally helped Frances go." The Washington Times
"It is a real joy to read this novel, which is rooted in the present reality that our advances in technology have outpaced our ability to restrain them. Our journey on this planet has a beginning and an ending. We have to ease the burdens of the final goodbye and relearn the naturalness of dying." --Lofty Basta, MD, Author of "Graceful Exit" and "Life and Death on Your Own Terms"
"I thought of this book as I watched Monday night s offering of the Showtime series, Nurse Jackie... Do we ever understand fully what family or friends of dying patients go through?" ...Perspective: Nurses
"Something about this story grabbed me and compelled me to read to the end." --Gail Guterl, ADVANCE Book Club for Nurses
About the Author
Janice M. Van Dyck was born in Philadelphia and is a former corporate officer, organizational development consultant and communications specialist. She lives on the west coast of Florida. Her first novel was The O'Malley Trilogy, and she is at work on her next book.
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The Frances character in Van Dyck's novel was exceptionally articulate and prepared: she was a strong-willed woman who knew exactly how she wanted to die. In the novel, Frances was able to enlist the support of her family, one member at a time, starting with her son William. Here are some of her insights: "The increasing effectiveness of all this medicine and all these procedures only prolongs the inevitable. It keeps a body attached to the earth, often torturing the spirit and preventing it from being at peace....That life no longer belongs to the individual or even to God. That life belongs to the doctors and nurses and hospital boards, to drug manufacturers and insurance companies and ethics committees. When did we turn over our deaths to institutions? "
Eventually Frances dies on her own terms. She was very lucky. Most of us will not be as strong or informed as Frances, and hence we will suffer. The important message is that at the end it is: our life, our death, and our suffering. All terminally-ill patients must be informed of their choices and be allowed to decide how to die. The role of the family is to provide support for their loved ones' decisions and learn how to say their goodbyes. It's also important for family members to inform themselves about death and dying so that they can help their loved ones and themselves navigate through this strange landscape we call "end of life." You can start preparing yourself by reading Van Dyck's excellent novel. It can be your gentle introduction to death and dying.
Robert Orfali, Author "Grieving a Soulmate: The Love Story Behind Till Death Do Us Part"
Our family has gone through this very process twice this year - in May with my mother, and in July with my father-in-law. Janice's family is very different from ours, yet very alike at the same time. I loved this book. It is helping me to grieve.
Both times our family made similar decisions to what the Baldwins made. In the case of my mother, my brother finally told the medical staff that enough was enough. No more operations. No more medications, except what would keep her comfortable. No more oxygen that dried out her mouth and made her panic. No more poking and prodding. No more torture. She had gotten so tiny and frail - and bruised. Mom was ready to go - ready to see Jesus - so we let her go. All of us were with her when she left this earth. Somehow we couldn't hold her hand. Not sure why. We are very awkward about physical contact. There were many things in our growing up that kept us distant from one another, I guess. Maybe we thought that if we touched her, she would break. She was so frail.
My brother ordered pizza for everyone, and we visited and cracked jokes. That's how we deal with emotions we don't know what else to do with. My mom taught us that, so it seemed that's what she wanted to hear while she waited for the angels. A little family gathering like so many we had enjoyed at my parents' home. Maybe that was the right thing to do.
A former neighbor of theirs, - who had spent a lot of time at my parents' place when she was a child, - came in after her shift at the local nursing home. She knew what to do for mom. She held Mom's hand and stroked her face, and told her it would all be okay. Mom left us quietly.
The head nurse came in at the end, and told us that we had done the right thing. I guess that some families will not let go. Maybe this book will help some see that it's okay to tell the medical establishment that further unnatural intervention is neither necessary nor warranted.
My father-in-law had suffered from dementia for years, so he had really left us a long time ago. The hospice people were wonderful. During the two weeks that he lingered, my daughter, our 2-year-old grandson, and I visited Grandpa' Bobby every day. She wanted her son to know his great-grandpa'.
It was very hard for my husband to give up on the idea that our beloved parents would never get better. He's having the hardest time.
Anyway, I think that this book will help a lot of us put into words what our families have gone through, are going through, or will go through. It is okay to decide that enough is enough. This book can help people find peace of mind.