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- Print Length: 63 pages
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- Publication Date: September 9, 2012
- Sold by: Amazon Digital Services LLC
- Language: English
- ASIN: B0098KIH8K
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Finding Out Will Change Your Life Forever: Dealing with the Knowledge You are Face Blind Kindle Edition
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It is an excellent, quick read for folks who want to know what it's like to be FB. More of a booklet than a book. (As with any self-published book, there are a smattering of typos and grammatical errors, but completely forgivable as they don't detract from the booklet.)
As someone with faceblindness, I loved all his stories and found them completely relateable. Many of his coping skills I use myself but some were new (and very clever!) that I plan to enlist in the future. He tries to humorously describe his mis-steps but sometimes the humor falls flat.
I was very grateful for his perspective of always thinking he was normal until he realized he was FB. Finding out devastated him, as it did me. Unfortunately, the most vocal and active members of the FB community embrace FB as a disability and identify as victims. The author has a deep emotional reaction to finding out he is FB, because he immediately places himself in this category as well. (Even news stories consistently present FB folks as pathetic, instead of strong and successful.)
Regrettably, he ends the book at this state of emotional crisis. I would love to hear how he has since assimilated his awareness into a new self-image - to hear how he has moved beyond the fear of being different and come to appreciate how brilliantly he succeeded throughout his life. Maybe he'll write a sequel!
I have to say that many of the things he talks about are very familiar to me; becoming friends with people who stick out in some way, becoming rather shy in public because you don't always know who people are, that sort of thing.
What I could not relate to was his assumption that he was "normal" and people who could recognize others were seen by him as having some kind of extraordinary power. Perhaps it comes from the priviliged position of being a white male--after all in our society, white males are the normal standard and everyone else deviates. I personally always knew there was something lacking about me socially, and I was unable to pin it down for years.
Finding out I was faceblind was nothing but a relief to me, it explained so much. He on the other hand finds it a "label" and one gets the idea that he feels stigmatized by no longer feeling "normal". This just confused me. He talks about feeling he can no longer be in business and that parties have suddenly become too stressful. I can't understand why--obviously his coping skills have been more than adequate in the past, there is no reason they shouldn't be now. Better, since he now *knows* he is faceblind he could easily tell new acquaintances, "Sorry, I'm rubbish at recognizing people...If I run into you and don't see you, don't be offended". Ninety percent of the people I tell this to say, "Oh that's fine I'm rubbish with names too." because they misunderstand what I mean, BUT they almost always say, next time we talk, "Hi, I'm _______. We met at _______." which is all I really need.
As I read this I also got the feeling that the author was feeling a little depressed about it and could benefit from having a conversation with either other faceblind people or a counselor who is knowledgable about the subject.
Faceblindness is a real thing with real consequences, some serious, some not so much, but I do find that those of us with congenital prosopagnosia learn to cope just fine over the course of our lives. The only way finding out changed my life was to make me more conscious of developing my coping skills and more functional as a social person.
However, I think the book does very little to explain the condition of faceblindness, but rather documents one person's (the author's) experience.
He, rather unusually, did not realise until recently that to recognize faces is normal and therefore grew up thinking that "recognizers" were extraordinary, lucky people and that he was just normal. I certainly always knew that I found it difficult to recognize faces and that this was not socially acceptable as it was not the norm. There was a sense of embarrassment for many years, then a great sense of relief when I found out that it was a real condition. His story was the reverse, the knowledge has made him less confident.
The book is extremely short (61 pages of large print) and does not really tackle its subtitle "Dealing with the Knowledge You are Face Blind", which is a shame. I would welcome a book that did that and so would many I know.
However, the stories he tells are interesting and I wish him well.