- Paperback: 203 pages
- Publisher: Northfield Publishing; Gift edition (1995)
- Language: English
- ASIN: B0035G04TI
- Product Dimensions: 9.1 x 6.1 x 0.6 inches
- Shipping Weight: 12.8 ounces
- Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars See all reviews (8,870 customer reviews)
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The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate Paperback – 1995
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My only critique is that they didn't focus more on understanding and discussing your emotions. For this you and your partner should read Emotional Intelligence 2.0. It did wonders for my husband and I.
The relationship expert who wrote the book arranges the book into the five love languages, and provides quizzes to help you determine which language you are:
- Words of Affirmation:
If this is your love language, you feel most cared for when your partner is open and expressive in telling you how wonderful they think you are, how much they appreciate you, etc.
Basically, they find ways to remind you that their world is a better place because you are in it.
- Acts of Service:
If your partner offering to watch the kids so you can go to the gym (or relieving you of some other task) gets your heart going, then this is your love language.
This love language is just as it sounds. A warm hug, a kiss, touch, and sexual intimacy make you feel most loved when this is your love language.Read more ›
Author Gary Chapman in his book The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate believes everyone has a love tank, and that tank is filled by different love languages. These five languages are Gifts, Words of Affirmation, Quality of Time, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch.
Often, we tend to give love in the languages we are most fluent in, which usually ends up being the languages that fill up our love tank. This would be why a husband who does yard work, dishes, car maintenance, etc. (Acts of Service) is floored when his wife says "You never show me you love me. You never cuddle with me, or caress my hair, or make the first move for sex." (Physical Touch). Or, "Why don't you spend time with me? Why do you work so much?" (Quality Time). And, "Why don't you buy me flowers? Why don't you ever get me cards or balloons...just because?" (Gifts) Or "You never tell me what I mean to you. Why don't you ever share with me what I mean to you, or what my good qualities are?" (Words of Affirmation) But, if her language is primarily Acts of Service, she'll feel so loved and honored because her husband does so many things for her, and thus feels "full" in her love tank.
This may not sound like a big deal, but considering the divorce rate is 50% (as one relationship instance), and so many seem to be unhappy with their primary relationships, the concept of love languages may very well be a signficant factor in understanding self and others, and in relationship growth.Read more ›
Not expecting too much, one lazy morning I suggested to my husband that we lay in bed and begin reading this book out loud to eachother. We read 120 pages that morning! We could not put it down! Both of us shed a lot of tears that morning, this book really hit home.
That morning when we woke up, everything seemed hopeless for us. After reading this book, we had hope that our problems can be resolved. Our attitude toward eachother has greatly changed since we read this book.
Basically this book explains that people feel loved in different ways. For example, my love language is "quality time" and my husband's love language is "personal touch." Without quality time with my husband, I feel unloved... my husband feels unloved when we have a lack of physical contact. Our love languages are so different... before reading this book, I just thought that my husband wanted more sex for selfish reasons. When in reality, personal contact is what he needs to feel loved. Before reading this book, my husband hated when I nagged about spending time together.. but now he realizes that spending time with me is the best way to tell me that he loves me.
Dr. Chapman says in this book that LOVE IS A CHOICE. Find your partner's love language style, then choose to show love to your partner in that way (it's not about what YOU need to feel loved, it's about what YOUR PARTNER needs). I thought that spending quality time with my spouse was the way I can show him I love him. In reality, that's MY love language, not HIS.Read more ›
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I've only read a few chapters but i already feel it's going to be a great help!!Published 8 hours ago by Allison Robbins
The book reads so easy you don't notice the wealth of information being delivered to your brain. I have recommended this book three times since my purchase.Published 14 hours ago by michael langston rosemond
I truly think if you are experiencing any type of issue or unhappiness in your marriage/relationship this is an excellent resource. I will be getting the Teen edition next. Read morePublished 15 hours ago by NULIFE
great read for every relationship , whether it be a daughter or a partnerPublished 15 hours ago by ckp76
Amazing to read common sense items. Has changed my perspective immensely.Published 15 hours ago by RM002
Clear & easy to understand. We found this book to be very helpful. It was a fast read and well worth the time.
This book would make a great gift for a young couple.
My wife and I took turns reading this to each other. It helped us both understand our love for each other. That it's alright to see and feel love differently than your spouse.Published 1 day ago by JoeRodge