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My Formerly Hot Life Dispatches from Just the Other Side of Young [HC,2010] Paperback – 2010
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My Formerly Hot Life: Dispatches from Just the Other Side of Young by Stephanie Dolgoff. Ballantine Books,2010
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I was never a guy magnet in my 20s. Unlike Stephanie Dolgoff I was never asked the time for any reason other than guysjust wanted the time :( I was attractive enough and even at times beautiful, but not in the Sex in the City way that gets you a night out without having to pay for a single drink. I actually get much more attention today as a 43 yr old mother of 3 than I EVER got in my 20s. I attribute that to knowing myself and being ridiculously confident (something I NEVER was) and all of those other things related to being a 'Formerly' that Stephanie talks about in this book.
Even though I am far happier with myself now than I ever was when I belonged to that ever so desirable 19-35 demographic, I still went through all of those painful, slow motion at times, "bitch-slap" realizations that I was no longer the age I felt I was. You know, when you realize that all of the hot new actors (the ones that you respect and can actually act) being touted as the next Pacino or Meryl, could actually be your CHILDREN!!! - NO!!!....yes...sigh.
Well thank you Stephanie, for saying it and for helping me laugh about it and for still looking pretty darn hot as a formerly.
The longest part of our lifespan is actually the years between youth and old age, and the years when much of our "living" occurs--marriage, building a career, starting a family, caring for your parents, setting priorities in our busy lives. Stephanie Dolgoff celebrates how we gradually stop caring so much about less important things--dissecting trivial conversations with friends, fighting to lose those last 5 pounds, wrestling into the latest fashions whether or not they suit us. Instead, with maturity comes the confidence to quit unfulfilling jobs, commit to marriage and children, celebrate our healthy bodies, demand that our clothes fit us instead of the other way around!
I really enjoyed the ways the book celebrates the rewards of confidence, stability, and self-knowledge, and would recommend My Formerly Hot Life as positive (and sometimes funny) book for women of any age.
Stephanie deals with the loss of certain things about her life, all the while keeping her sense of humor and by not taking herself too seriously. We should all take these life lessons from her. As "heartbreaking" as it is when you realize you can no longer wear a strapless bra, Stephanie realizes that being a Formerly is not so bad when know you don't need to drink yourself under the table and go to work with a hangover the next day to be cool. Stephanie finds the bright side to being "just" the other side of young and you'll laugh when you realize you've felt or done the exact same thing, which is when you realize that you really are a Formerly.
If you're close to or over 40, you'll be amazed at how much this will book parallel your life or at least your thoughts about getting older. Read it, have a good cry, then laugh and just embrace your Formerly.
Of course some people will relate less to this book than I did, but there's a book for everyone (e.g., if you prefer to read about Sarah Palin, there's one for you!!). I loved reading it and plan to give this to my friends at our 20th college reunion and to follow the author's blog.