Enter your mobile number or email address below and we'll send you a link to download the free Kindle App. Then you can start reading Kindle books on your smartphone, tablet, or computer - no Kindle device required.
To get the free app, enter your mobile phone number.
The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A Toltec Wisdom Book) Paperback – November 7, 1997
|New from||Used from|
"Children of Blood and Bone"
Tomi Adeyemi conjures a stunning world of dark magic and danger in her West African-inspired fantasy debut. Learn more
Frequently bought together
Customers who bought this item also bought
Customers who viewed this item also viewed
Sit at the foot of a native elder and listen as great wisdom of days long past is passed down. In The Four Agreements shamanic teacher and healer Don Miguel Ruiz exposes self-limiting beliefs and presents a simple yet effective code of personal conduct learned from his Toltec ancestors. Full of grace and simple truth, this handsomely designed book makes a lovely gift for anyone making an elementary change in life, and it reads in a voice that you would expect from an indigenous shaman. The four agreements are these: Be impeccable with your word. Don't take anything personally. Don't make assumptions. Always do your best. It's the how and why one should do these things that make The Four Agreements worth reading and remembering. --P. Randall Cohan
About the Author
Janet Mills is the founder and president of Amber-Allen publishing. She is the co-author, with don Miguel Ruiz, of six books in The Toltec Wisdom Series, creator of “The Four Agreements for a Better Life” online course, and editor of Deepak Chopra’s bestselling title, The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success. Her life’s mission is to publish books of enduring beauty, integrity, and wisdom, and to inspire others to fulfill their most cherished dreams.
Author interviews, book reviews, editors picks, and more. Read it now
Top customer reviews
There was a problem filtering reviews right now. Please try again later.
The Four Agreements are very simple, but very profound. To embrace and live each of the Four Agreements is to find yourself experiencing personal freedom--possibly as never before. The Four Agreements are:
Be Impeccable With Your Words
Don't Take Anything Personally
Don't Make Assumptions
Always Do Your Best
From the cover of the book:
Be Impeccable With Your Word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
Don't Take Anything Personally: Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.
Don't Make Assumptions: Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
Always Do Your Best: Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.
This book may be small in size, but it packs a hefty punch in terms of shattering personal illusions and opening up a path to personal freedom. I consider this book a must-have for anyone wanting to become more conscious and wanting freedom from personal stories and agreements that cause suffering.
1. If you have nothing nice to say, say nothing.
2. The world does not revolve around you.
3. When you assume you make an "ass" out of "u" and "me".
4. If it's worth doing, it's worth doing well.
There. I've just saved you eleven bucks and 4 hours of your life.
I didn't need to study ancient Toltec wisdom to come up with the Four Agreements - my mother taught them to me as a child - and she was Scottish!
2. The 4 Agreements are just that: agreements because almost every world religion agrees with Ruiz and puts forth some form of the four agreements in their dogma. "Always do your best"? I heard that one from my little league coach who's wisdom was about as abundant as ice cubes are in hell. I mean the stuff in the pages of the book are just platitude after platitude. I am really shocked that I have heard good things from so many people about the book. I have to be honest and say that i have lost some respect for the people who have suggested this book to me. Of course I don't have any problem telling them that they lost respect because they know "not to take anything personal". I mean...its like they watched sesame street and declared it the most profound thing on television. Not that the truth has to be complex either but Ruiz has actually ruined the wisdom of the agreements by taking them too far and going from one extreme to another.
3. The book is illogical and anyone with a healthy degree of skepticism is going to see that the book is irrational. Take for example the third agreement: "Don't make assumptions". Assumptions are not evil and very neccesary just to wake up in the morning (gotta assume you aren't still asleep and dreaming right? of course ruiz will tell you that you are still dreaming); as a matter of fact you cannot read his book without making assumptions. You have to assume Ruiz isn't just some lazy schiester who wanted to make a few extra bucks, and recycled a little mother's wit and marketed it as ancient wisdom. You have to make the assumption that you understand the writer clearly and that he knew exactly how to express himself. Don't get me wrong...there is a time and a place for everything but a time and a place to NOT do things. The author does make a strong point for why assumptions get people into trouble, but we all know this. Every episode of Seinfeld teaches what happens when we make assumptions. the problem is that its not that easy. We have to assume the sun is going to rise tomorrow or we won't plant corn and we will go hungry. We have to assume that rain and inclement weather will come or we don't build shelter and we suffer. We don't KNOW anything.
4. Back to the people who find this book enlightening and life-changing...People want life simple. They don't want complexities and nuances and uniqueness. They want a simple moral code that they can print on a 3 by 5 card and use in every situation without having to think or feel fear or hesitation. Just like the Bible, Torah, and Koran cannot be taken literally neither can The Four Agreements. (On a personal note I find this book to be very much like the Bible, Koran, and Torah in one sense. If you seek to argue with someone over the validity of the book...it contradicts itself enogh to give you plenty of evidence.)The first agreement asks you to be perfect (impeccable with my word and thought?) Sure it might be impossible, but its easy to remember eh? The truth is that there is wisdom behind what Ruiz is saying but Ruiz fails to mention that its not really possible to be impeccable on a constant basis...the nature of us being human dictates that we cannot be perfect much less maintain perfection. (perhaps it is possible to be perfect in some regard, but i have yet to meet a reader of this book who has accomplished it and I have a feeling that person would stand out to me). Anyway, it just strikes me that people gravitate towards a book like the four agreements because they want it all easy. And Ruiz gives them what they want. People also have a habit of believing that the truly wise people all lived long ago...and died out...and that no modern belief system is worth paying attention to...and so they turn to an ancient belief systems with a blind faith that this ancient belief system (which by the way was later replaced by Catholocism in the case of the Toltec in Mexico) is somehow superior...but the wonderful people who were using it at the time decided to let it fade to obscurity...and we modern folks are the only people smart enough to see what a mistake it was to let go of these ancient belief systems. Hogwash. Let that assumption go and you will being doing better than any dolt carrying around this book like its the New Age Bible. I have a simple thought for everyone who reads this book: All generalities are false. I know its a paradox...but keep it in mind because Ruiz makes generalization after genaralization. He sounds like a cocky 17 year old who has it all figured out. "All you have to do is never take anything personal." Yeah right Donnie. (Personal note: As an African American man I am glad someone took slavery personal).
5. Ruiz is just not a good writer. I can tell his editor tried to keep it readable but this guy just doesn't have what it takes to convey what might be his personal thoughts in a way that make them seem unique. its like he doesn't know how to use his individual experience to really bring forth his perspective and instead just comes off like Moses reading the ten commandments almost as if they aren't even his words. Ruiz is probably a wise man but his ability to communicate his wisdom is limited. I mean, who uses Forrest Gump as an example in their book? Of all the real people who you can allude to when making a point, you pick a fictional character who was unbelievably unaware as an example of how we should try to be. Talk about dropping the ball. There is a small part of me that maybe thinks Ruiz intended for the book to be bad...like he is parodizing the whole new age movement. He did a wonderful job if this is the case.
The book is very poorly written. So, just read the cover and save yourself some time. Better yet, save your money too. Let me summarize for you. 1. Tell the truth, to and about yourself and others. Don't gossip. Gossip hurts people. 2. Don't take responsibility for other's words and actions. They have nothing to do with you. 3. Ask questions and be a good listener. Don't assume you know what others want, need, or mean. (Ever heard of 'walk a mile in my shoes'?) And don't assume they know what you want. 4. Always do your best. Does this really need explanation?
Most recent customer reviews
• There's some brainwashing. Nothing sinister. (Could be a pro instead of a con, depending on if you may need or want to be pushed and pulled into what's good for you.Read more