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“Hi, my name is Matthew, although you may know me by another name. My friends call me Matty.”

So begins the riveting story of acclaimed actor Matthew Perry, taking us along on his journey from childhood ambition to fame to addiction and recovery in the aftermath of a life-threatening health scare. Before the frequent hospital visits and stints in rehab, there was five-year-old Matthew, who traveled from Montreal to Los Angeles, shuffling between his separated parents; fourteen-year-old Matthew, who was a nationally ranked tennis star in Canada; twenty-four-year-old Matthew, who nabbed a coveted role as a lead cast member on the talked-about pilot then called
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Friends, sharing stories about his castmates and other stars he met along the way. Frank, self-aware, and with his trademark humor, Perry vividly depicts his lifelong battle with addiction and what fueled it despite seemingly having it all.

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An Amazon Best Book of November 2022: One of the biggest celebrity memoirs of 2022, Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing by Matthew Perry, a.k.a. Chandler Bing, is both a story of on-set antics and celebrity make-outs, as well as a tell-all of the insidious nature of addiction. There are juicy stories of fame and fortune (the raucous parties, the private jets), love and sex (guess which co-star he had a crush on and what A-list actress he dated and dumped), but what’s the most shocking is the severity of Perry’s addiction—he went through detox a whopping 65 times. Perry divulges what his benders were like, how it started, who helped him, and the lowest lows that he experienced (an anecdote about riffling through people’s medicine cabinets for pills is gutting)—much of which happened when he was starring in one of the hottest, and some could argue most iconic, shows on television. Could he be any more honest? I mean, maybe, but he’s alive and telling his story. So, for that, I think we have to be pretty grateful. —Al Woodworth, Amazon Editor

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"Remarkable, startling, and heartfelt...The bravery of Perry’s book is not just in what he says, or how he says it, and how unflinching he is in his commitment to say it, but that he chose to say it at all." GQ

Candid, darkly funny…starkly chronicling his decades-long cage match with drinking and drug use. Perry writes gratefully and glowingly…fans will find poignant nuggets in its pages.” The New York Times

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heartbreakingly beautiful memoir.” People

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Friends, Lovers and the Big Terrible Thing is a raw, unflinching memoir that took courage to write. As it turns out, Matthew Perry has a lot of courage. He takes us through his addiction, his illness and his paralyzing loneliness. Somehow, during the course of his life, Matthew was able to turn his pain into comedic joy for others, but, he tells us, it was at a cost. Matthew takes us through his “hell” but doesn’t wallow. Ultimately, this book is filled with hope for the future. If you want to know about who Matthew Perry is, stay away from the rags and read this." ―Marta Kauffman, co-creator of the NBC sitcom Friends

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  • Publisher ‏ : ‎ Flatiron Books; First Edition (November 1, 2022)
  • Language ‏ : ‎ English
  • Hardcover ‏ : ‎ 272 pages
  • ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 1250866448
  • ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-1250866448
  • Item Weight ‏ : ‎ 1.06 pounds
  • Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 6.45 x 1 x 9.55 inches
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A good listen and heart breaking truth
Before finishing the show f.r.i.e.n.d.s I decided to either read or listen to his book after, I don't usually buy audiobooks but it was more special to listen to since Matthew read his own.I am so glad I finished the show because if I would have read this first then finished it, I wouldn't have looked at his character in the same way, after hearing everything he has gone through with addiction, abandonment issues and loneliness ( just to name a few), I hope he found peace after writing his book, even for a little while.
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Reviewed in the United States on November 25, 2023
There are some books you want to look through the reviews before you decide if you want to pick it up or not, then there are others you just want to read for yourself. Matthew's book was one that I wanted to read for myself. Though in looking through the reviews now that I have finished it, I realize either someone loves it or does not, there is no in-between it seems.

Before I write any more of my review - I want to point out that I am 99.9% certain I read a Kindle version that was edited to remove whatever there was about Keanu. So if someone is reading my review wondering why I don't mention it, I cannot comment on what I did not read. --- One more observation, from the reviews I did look through, it seems that most people who *listened* to the book disliked it more than those who *read* it. Seems listening to it make it more difficult to follow the already jumping timeline. Again, just my observation.

From the beginning Matthew tells us how this story is going to be written/told. How? you ask? "Groundhog Day" is his favorite movie, do I really need to say anything more? If you do not understand this reference, please take the time (1 hour and 40 minutes) to watch the 1993 classic movie with Bill Murray and Andie MacDowell. Then perhaps more things will make sense for you.

Thankfully I have never been an alcoholic or an addict, however, I have known several in my life. For them every day is groundhog day. Every morning the question of, "How will I get through today without a drink/pill/smoke/etc." makes every 24 hours the same. Matthew shows that in spades with his repetition throughout his story. Many of the reviews I saw complained about the repetition; if they don't understand it, perhaps they should count themselves lucky not to. To have never known someone who lives every day like this; or to not be that person themselves.

Matthew's story didn't end all sunshine-and-rainbows with a happily every after. Not everyone's does. I appreciated the fact that he kept it real. That he kept it honest. That he shows his faults to us just as much as he shows us the goodness. Life isn't always polished and pretty no matter who you are or how much money you have. Matthew proves that. No matter how bad things seemed to be for him, Matthew always looked to his future, he always wanted to be there. Perhaps not always for the right reasons, but reasons that kept him moving forward nonetheless. There is something to be admired about that.

Interestingly, one of my favorite lines reads, "God looked down on me, just waiting it out. He's got all the time in the world. F*<k, he invented time." There is something raw and honest and scary and funny in those words that just made me stop reading and literally highlight it in my Kindle book. Follow that with another line I highlighted that reads, "It was an amazing moment and a terrible moment all at at the same time." Talk about defining life most days. Perhaps not Pulitzer winning writing, but powerful and truthful just the same.

I have to say my all-time favorite sentence is this one - "God is everywhere - you just have to clear your channel, or you'll miss it." Doesn't matter what version of God you believe in, that sentence has a profound truth to it. (That one got highlighted in pink) Not something I would have expected from Matthew. But I am grateful he wrote it.

I am easily giving this book all five stars for it's raw honesty, it's openness, it's imperfectness. Just like Matthew.

Yes, I finally read his story after his sudden death on October 28, 2023. As I'm writing this on November 24, 2023, his cause of death still has not been determined nor released. Which makes one last sentence stand out for me in a premonition kind of way as I wonder what COD will turn out to be... Matthew himself wrote, "I could have a cigarette right now, have a heart attack, and if no one was around to call 911, I was a goner." Well, he was home alone, and he did try to call 911 himself, but he was unable to save himself this time. Oh, Matthew.

I wonder if you have finally found peace and all the deep, full Love you have always desired. Thank You for leaving a light on for us with your story. I pray it helps more people so that you may continue helping people even after you've gone on ahead of us in death.
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Reviewed in the United States on June 25, 2024
This book was very emotional. Every time I picked it up I couldn’t put it down (but motherhood and my job stopped me from reading it straight thru). The torment Mathew had to endure was heartbreaking. If I wasn’t about to cry I was laughing though. Amazing life story. Sad to know after his fight for life he did indeed die not long after this book.
Reviewed in the United States on March 17, 2024
Rating: 4/5 Stars

Pros:
"Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing" offers a deeply personal and touching exploration of the author's life journey. The memoir is beautifully written, with raw honesty and vulnerability that pulls you into the author's world from the very first page. One of the strongest aspects of this memoir is its ability to capture the complexities of relationships - from the highs of friendship to the depths of heartbreak. The author's storytelling is compelling and immersive, making it easy to empathize with their experiences.

Cons:
While the memoir is captivating overall, there were moments where the pacing felt slightly uneven. Some sections delved into intricate details that may not resonate equally with all readers, potentially slowing down the narrative flow. Additionally, a bit more context or background information in certain chapters could have provided a clearer understanding of the author's motivations and decisions.

Conclusion:
With its heartfelt storytelling and profound insights, this is a memoir that leaves a lasting impression. While not without its flaws, it offers a deeply moving and relatable exploration of the human experience. I would highly recommend it to anyone looking for a compelling and introspective read.
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Reviewed in the United States on May 18, 2024
Matthew Perry’s memoir is a compelling read that goes beyond the glitz of Hollywood to reveal the human side of a beloved actor. It’s a story of pain, redemption, and the enduring quest for peace, told with the authenticity and humor that only Perry can provide. This book is a worthy addition to your reading list. I absolutely could not put it down.
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5.0 out of 5 stars A raw and unfiltered glimpse into the life of one of television’s most beloved actors.
Reviewed in the United States on May 18, 2024
Matthew Perry’s memoir is a compelling read that goes beyond the glitz of Hollywood to reveal the human side of a beloved actor. It’s a story of pain, redemption, and the enduring quest for peace, told with the authenticity and humor that only Perry can provide. This book is a worthy addition to your reading list. I absolutely could not put it down.
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Reviewed in the United States on April 10, 2024
This is Matthew Perry through and through. His memoir is honest, yet humorous, and is honestly a little sad.

It's sad to see what he went through, and all his attempts to get sober that would last only so long before he relapsed again. It's sad to see that chase he always had for that "something" that would make him feel good or even just okay with his life, no matter if it was drugs, alcohol, or just love and attention.

But it's nice to see his humor with everything as well. As I read I could see Chandler Bing, could hear him in my head, and could see that smirk of his.

The pictures at the end made me smile to see his life with his family and friends and the fun he did have.
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Crystal N.
5.0 out of 5 stars MISS YOU, MATTY
Reviewed in Canada on May 21, 2024
Very open & honest, sad & witty. Continuity was an issue for me, but overall an enlightening read.
Brenda Sakura
5.0 out of 5 stars Interesante
Reviewed in Mexico on March 8, 2024
Realmente uno no sabe lo que los demás están pasando. Puedes ver que son muy divertidos pero cada uno tiene sus propios demonios internos. En este libro te ayuda a ver qué no estás solo en tu lucha
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Henrique Epstein
5.0 out of 5 stars O retrato de um viciado. História triste, mas incrível!
Reviewed in Brazil on December 4, 2023
Muitos acham que este livro é só para falar do personagem Chandler Bing do seriado Friends, mas não é bem assim.
Matthew Perry abre sua verdadeira história de vida e nos conta como lidou com inúmeros problemas de vícios desde a adolescência.
A forma como o vício em bebidas e medicamentos arruinou todos os namoros que ele teve, uma pessoa que queria casar e ter filhos mas nenhuma mulher aguentou ele por conta dos vícios.
Uma pessoa que passou por inúmeros processos cirúrgicos de problemas induzidos justamente pela quantidade absurda de bebidas e medicamentos pra dor que ele ingeria todos os dias.

O livro traz também as inúmeras tentativas de tratamento para ficar sóbrio, algo que ele nunca conseguiu fazer durar por muito tempo. O vício sempre vencia ele.

Em paralelo, ele faz um retrospecto dos diversos papéis que teve ao longo da carreira e como os vícios afetaram as gravações de filmes e seriados dos quais participou.

Chandler Bing foi apenas o personagem mais famoso dele e tem uma atenção especial no livro, mas o livro é muito mais do que isso:

É um retrato de alguém que fez de tudo e gastou fortunas para se livrar dos vícios, porém sem êxito.

Livro lançado em 2022 e Matthew faleceu em Outubro de 2023.

Só espero que este livro possa ajudar a dar esperança para aqueles que lutam contra seus vícios e que ele finalmente esteja descansando em paz.

Obs.: edição em capa dura e com texto em inglês.
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Laurentiu Stegarescu
5.0 out of 5 stars Wow
Reviewed in France on June 3, 2024
Une autobiographie inoubliable. Je conseil fortement le livre
Algert
5.0 out of 5 stars Very good book
Reviewed in Germany on June 2, 2024
Very open and honest, could understand more of his life and the likes.