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Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing: A Memoir Hardcover – Deckle Edge, November 1, 2022
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The BELOVED STAR OF FRIENDS takes us behind the scenes of the hit sitcom and his struggles with addiction in this “CANDID, DARKLY FUNNY...POIGNANT” memoir (The New York Times)
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“Hi, my name is Matthew, although you may know me by another name. My friends call me Matty.”
So begins the riveting story of acclaimed actor Matthew Perry, taking us along on his journey from childhood ambition to fame to addiction and recovery in the aftermath of a life-threatening health scare. Before the frequent hospital visits and stints in rehab, there was five-year-old Matthew, who traveled from Montreal to Los Angeles, shuffling between his separated parents; fourteen-year-old Matthew, who was a nationally ranked tennis star in Canada; twenty-four-year-old Matthew, who nabbed a coveted role as a lead cast member on the talked-about pilot then called Friends Like Us. . . and so much more.
In an extraordinary story that only he could tell―and in the heartfelt, hilarious, and warmly familiar way only he could tell it―Matthew Perry lays bare the fractured family that raised him (and also left him to his own devices), the desire for recognition that drove him to fame, and the void inside him that could not be filled even by his greatest dreams coming true. But he also details the peace he’s found in sobriety and how he feels about the ubiquity of Friends, sharing stories about his castmates and other stars he met along the way. Frank, self-aware, and with his trademark humor, Perry vividly depicts his lifelong battle with addiction and what fueled it despite seemingly having it all.
Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing is an unforgettable memoir that is both intimate and eye-opening―as well as a hand extended to anyone struggling with sobriety. Unflinchingly honest, moving, and uproariously funny, this is the book fans have been waiting for.
- Print length272 pages
- LanguageEnglish
- PublisherFlatiron Books
- Publication dateNovember 1, 2022
- Dimensions6.45 x 1 x 9.55 inches
- ISBN-101250866448
- ISBN-13978-1250866448
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The beloved star of Friends takes us behind the scenes of the hit sitcom and his struggles with addiction in this candid, darkly funny, and poignant memoir.Amazon editors say...

A juicy memoir of on-set antics and celebrity make-outs, as well as a tell-all of the insidious nature of addiction.
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“Drinkers think they are trying to escape, but really they are trying to overcome a mental disorder they didn’t know they had.”2,824 Kindle readers highlighted this
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"Remarkable, startling, and heartfelt...The bravery of Perry’s book is not just in what he says, or how he says it, and how unflinching he is in his commitment to say it, but that he chose to say it at all." ―GQ
“Candid, darkly funny…starkly chronicling his decades-long cage match with drinking and drug use. Perry writes gratefully and glowingly…fans will find poignant nuggets in its pages.” ―The New York Times
“A heartbreakingly beautiful memoir.” ―People
"Friends, Lovers and the Big Terrible Thing is a raw, unflinching memoir that took courage to write. As it turns out, Matthew Perry has a lot of courage. He takes us through his addiction, his illness and his paralyzing loneliness. Somehow, during the course of his life, Matthew was able to turn his pain into comedic joy for others, but, he tells us, it was at a cost. Matthew takes us through his “hell” but doesn’t wallow. Ultimately, this book is filled with hope for the future. If you want to know about who Matthew Perry is, stay away from the rags and read this." ―Marta Kauffman, co-creator of the NBC sitcom Friends
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- Language : English
- Hardcover : 272 pages
- ISBN-10 : 1250866448
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- Item Weight : 1.06 pounds
- Dimensions : 6.45 x 1 x 9.55 inches
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Before I write any more of my review - I want to point out that I am 99.9% certain I read a Kindle version that was edited to remove whatever there was about Keanu. So if someone is reading my review wondering why I don't mention it, I cannot comment on what I did not read. --- One more observation, from the reviews I did look through, it seems that most people who *listened* to the book disliked it more than those who *read* it. Seems listening to it make it more difficult to follow the already jumping timeline. Again, just my observation.
From the beginning Matthew tells us how this story is going to be written/told. How? you ask? "Groundhog Day" is his favorite movie, do I really need to say anything more? If you do not understand this reference, please take the time (1 hour and 40 minutes) to watch the 1993 classic movie with Bill Murray and Andie MacDowell. Then perhaps more things will make sense for you.
Thankfully I have never been an alcoholic or an addict, however, I have known several in my life. For them every day is groundhog day. Every morning the question of, "How will I get through today without a drink/pill/smoke/etc." makes every 24 hours the same. Matthew shows that in spades with his repetition throughout his story. Many of the reviews I saw complained about the repetition; if they don't understand it, perhaps they should count themselves lucky not to. To have never known someone who lives every day like this; or to not be that person themselves.
Matthew's story didn't end all sunshine-and-rainbows with a happily every after. Not everyone's does. I appreciated the fact that he kept it real. That he kept it honest. That he shows his faults to us just as much as he shows us the goodness. Life isn't always polished and pretty no matter who you are or how much money you have. Matthew proves that. No matter how bad things seemed to be for him, Matthew always looked to his future, he always wanted to be there. Perhaps not always for the right reasons, but reasons that kept him moving forward nonetheless. There is something to be admired about that.
Interestingly, one of my favorite lines reads, "God looked down on me, just waiting it out. He's got all the time in the world. F*<k, he invented time." There is something raw and honest and scary and funny in those words that just made me stop reading and literally highlight it in my Kindle book. Follow that with another line I highlighted that reads, "It was an amazing moment and a terrible moment all at at the same time." Talk about defining life most days. Perhaps not Pulitzer winning writing, but powerful and truthful just the same.
I have to say my all-time favorite sentence is this one - "God is everywhere - you just have to clear your channel, or you'll miss it." Doesn't matter what version of God you believe in, that sentence has a profound truth to it. (That one got highlighted in pink) Not something I would have expected from Matthew. But I am grateful he wrote it.
I am easily giving this book all five stars for it's raw honesty, it's openness, it's imperfectness. Just like Matthew.
Yes, I finally read his story after his sudden death on October 28, 2023. As I'm writing this on November 24, 2023, his cause of death still has not been determined nor released. Which makes one last sentence stand out for me in a premonition kind of way as I wonder what COD will turn out to be... Matthew himself wrote, "I could have a cigarette right now, have a heart attack, and if no one was around to call 911, I was a goner." Well, he was home alone, and he did try to call 911 himself, but he was unable to save himself this time. Oh, Matthew.
I wonder if you have finally found peace and all the deep, full Love you have always desired. Thank You for leaving a light on for us with your story. I pray it helps more people so that you may continue helping people even after you've gone on ahead of us in death.
Pros:
"Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing" offers a deeply personal and touching exploration of the author's life journey. The memoir is beautifully written, with raw honesty and vulnerability that pulls you into the author's world from the very first page. One of the strongest aspects of this memoir is its ability to capture the complexities of relationships - from the highs of friendship to the depths of heartbreak. The author's storytelling is compelling and immersive, making it easy to empathize with their experiences.
Cons:
While the memoir is captivating overall, there were moments where the pacing felt slightly uneven. Some sections delved into intricate details that may not resonate equally with all readers, potentially slowing down the narrative flow. Additionally, a bit more context or background information in certain chapters could have provided a clearer understanding of the author's motivations and decisions.
Conclusion:
With its heartfelt storytelling and profound insights, this is a memoir that leaves a lasting impression. While not without its flaws, it offers a deeply moving and relatable exploration of the human experience. I would highly recommend it to anyone looking for a compelling and introspective read.
Reviewed in the United States on May 18, 2024
It's sad to see what he went through, and all his attempts to get sober that would last only so long before he relapsed again. It's sad to see that chase he always had for that "something" that would make him feel good or even just okay with his life, no matter if it was drugs, alcohol, or just love and attention.
But it's nice to see his humor with everything as well. As I read I could see Chandler Bing, could hear him in my head, and could see that smirk of his.
The pictures at the end made me smile to see his life with his family and friends and the fun he did have.
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Matthew Perry abre sua verdadeira história de vida e nos conta como lidou com inúmeros problemas de vícios desde a adolescência.
A forma como o vício em bebidas e medicamentos arruinou todos os namoros que ele teve, uma pessoa que queria casar e ter filhos mas nenhuma mulher aguentou ele por conta dos vícios.
Uma pessoa que passou por inúmeros processos cirúrgicos de problemas induzidos justamente pela quantidade absurda de bebidas e medicamentos pra dor que ele ingeria todos os dias.
O livro traz também as inúmeras tentativas de tratamento para ficar sóbrio, algo que ele nunca conseguiu fazer durar por muito tempo. O vício sempre vencia ele.
Em paralelo, ele faz um retrospecto dos diversos papéis que teve ao longo da carreira e como os vícios afetaram as gravações de filmes e seriados dos quais participou.
Chandler Bing foi apenas o personagem mais famoso dele e tem uma atenção especial no livro, mas o livro é muito mais do que isso:
É um retrato de alguém que fez de tudo e gastou fortunas para se livrar dos vícios, porém sem êxito.
Livro lançado em 2022 e Matthew faleceu em Outubro de 2023.
Só espero que este livro possa ajudar a dar esperança para aqueles que lutam contra seus vícios e que ele finalmente esteja descansando em paz.
Obs.: edição em capa dura e com texto em inglês.
















































