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Gender: Your Guide: A Gender-Friendly Primer on What to Know, What to Say, and What to Do in the New Gender Culture by [Lee Airton]

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“An invaluable resource for both new and veteran allies…obvious and necessary” (Library Journal, starred review) information for everyone who wants to learn more about how to navigate gender diversity in today’s families, communities, and workplaces.

The days of two genders—male, female; boy, girl; blue, pink—are over, if they ever existed at all. Gender is now a global conversation, and one that is constantly evolving. More people than ever before are openly living their lives as transgender men or women, and many transgender people are coming out as neither men nor women, instead living outside of the binary. Gender is changing, and this change is gaining momentum.

We all want to do and say the right things in relation to gender diversity—whether at a job interview, at parent/teacher night, and around the table at family dinners. But where do we begin?

From the differences among gender identity, gender expression, and sex, to the use of gender-neutral pronouns like singular they/them, to thinking about your own participation in gender, Gender: Your Guide serves as “a warm, inviting guide to a complicated area” (The Globe and Mail, Toronto). Professor and gender diversity advocate Lee Airton, PhD, explains how gender works in everyday life; how to use accurate terminology to refer to transgender, non-binary, and/or gender non-conforming individuals; and how to ask when you aren’t sure what to do or say. It provides the information you need to talk confidently and compassionately about gender diversity, whether simply having a conversation or going to bat as an advocate.

Just like gender itself, being gender-friendly is a process for all of us. As revolutionary a resource as Our Bodies, Ourselves, Gender: Your Guide is “greatly needed…an impactful tool for creating a world more supportive of people of all genders” (INTO! Magazine).

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"This guide is unlike anything else available today, and an obvious and necessary item for collections of all kinds."

—Library Journal (starred review)

"Lee Airton’s book ‘Gender: Your Guide’ is a vital resource toward understanding and inclusiveness.... A must-have for everyone, and not only those who are trans, gender non-conforming or non-binary—or who have someone trans in their life."

—The Washington Post

"What I like most about how the author writes is how they combine their knowledge about gender, language and identity with a warm and caring tone. I feel like Airton is both my smartest and best friend on this subject matter."

—TED

"A helpful primer for those who need help negotiating gender situation and issue at work, in a social situation, and within their families. … The book may just change your thinking and the way you deal with gender diversity."

—The Advice Sisters

“A wealth of information useful for creating safe and welcoming space for all gender expressions.”

—TD Magazine

About the Author

Lee Airton, PhD, is assistant professor of gender and sexuality studies in education at Queen's University in Kingston, Ontario. They are a frequent keynote speaker and media commentator and are regularly asked to consult on gender-neutral language and gender diversity issues in relation to media, policy, and education. They founded TheyIsMyPronoun.com, a blog on gender-neutral pronoun usage and user support in 2012 and the No Big Deal Campaign (NBDCampaign.ca) in 2016. Learn more at LeeAirton.com.

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ASIN ‏ : ‎ B07CL53JRV
Publisher ‏ : ‎ Adams Media (October 16, 2018)
Publication date ‏ : ‎ October 16, 2018
Language ‏ : ‎ English
File size ‏ : ‎ 809 KB
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Print length ‏ : ‎ 241 pages
Page numbers source ISBN ‏ : ‎ 1507210701

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Kevin G.

He/Him/His? Read this book and you'll get it right!

Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on September 15, 2019

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My goodness, these topics certainly have become fraught with the embarrassment of even the most innocent misuse, have they not? I'm reasonably bright and I keep myself up to date with the world around me—you know, fashion, show tunes and grammar—but this book has made me realize just what a rube I really am and why so many of my party invitations have been getting lost in the mail. The pronouns, for god's sake! The pronouns! Who would have thought that we'd have to sweat the pronouns in order so as not to inadvertently diss our more woke friends and coworkers? Since reading this book I have been carrying a laminated pronoun "cheat sheet" in my wallet. This book is particularly useful as the author tells us not only *what* is correct today, but also *why* it is correct, along with whether or not we'll be banned to gender-queer purgatory (at best) if a slip up inadvertently and rhythmically spurts from our lips even when we thought our lips were covering our teeth enough to do no harm. After carefully assimilating the finer points in this useful and well-written book, the reader is likely to be showered with more party invitations than ever before. Further, the reader will be so much more in demand for even the most intimate after-party.

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Rae Johansen

Love the author!

Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on February 13, 2022

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I’m enjoying reading their book! I definitely have a better understanding on gender identity. My daughter is a lesbian and works with LGBTQ+ youth and she recommended the book to me as a guide for clarity and questions. Thank you!

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TVM

The most basic of basic

Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on November 9, 2022

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Unless you know absolutely nothing about lgbtq+, this book is pointless. The most basic beginner knowledge. What a bore.

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Bridget

Comprehensive introduction

Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on October 7, 2019

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I got this for my mom because she’s been having trouble adjusting to the current state of gender fluidity. I also read it before passing it on so we could talk about it. Dr. Lee has done a great job making a clear and nonjudgemental guide, and I’ve been using the chart for neopronouns lately because someone whose pronouns are ze/hir recently joined my org and I’m not used to those pronouns yet.

5 people found this helpful

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Joan L. Eisenstodt

Important book to own/use

Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on September 10, 2019

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Critical to everyone in life and business to understand and use appropriate language.

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L. Chin

Great Guide

Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on June 25, 2019

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Very helpful in understanding gender.

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Clear, Welcoming, Thorough ...

Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on August 11, 2018

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Foremost, although the author is an academic, the writing is entirely accessible to a layperson. And, I don't mean this in an "if-a-layperson-looks-up-a-few-French-words-and-elects-to-skip-some-jargon, he/she/they-will-get-the-gist" way. I mean that even extremely motivated high-school student will learn from this guide. And, that is beyond refreshing. And, allow me to stress that having an academic write this book gives it validity. This is not one person's experience (and trust me, one person's experience is valuable ... no doubt), but this book offers experience PLUS research/knowledge/education. To me, that makes this book invaluable -- (i.e. it makes it harder for people to argue against). For me, I need that combination when working with resistant students. I need not only a voice of experience, but "authority." This offers exactly that.

Now, why this matters to me: A.) I'm an ally. B.) I teach writing-intensive courses where we deeply explore gender/gendered language ... and questions always arise. This book genuinely helps me answer these questions in a clearer manner ... the biggest of them being, "Why should I care?," "Why should I bother?," "Why should worry if I offend someone?," etc. (To which my typical reaction used to be something like, "Do this because it's important" or "Do this because you are a good/compassionate person.") Now, I am a bit more prepare for these conversations. Of course, why this book matters to you may be different, but I bet many of our goals are similar.

What else is great here? Well, I really like how the author anticipated many of my questions and answered them as clearly as the subject allows. For instance, I needed to know if "trans" and "transgender" are interchangeable. This is carefully addressed. Likewise, I really enjoyed the passage on the use of the word "queer." Since I teach queer theory, I often preface my discussions with why/when this word is appropriate (and not) ... so, it was exciting to see someone address the validity and potential pitfalls of this word.

And while we (most of us who pick up this book) may understand the difference between "gender identity" and "gender expression," maybe a parent would not ... a parent who needs help understand his/her/their child better. I vote that even if an area/concepts seems familiar to you, read those parts anyway ... because there is a great deal to be said about the explanation as well. Like I said, the approach is direct and in plain language. And, this helps me to then teach these topics in an equally direct way.

Moreover, while you may be familiar with the singular "they,""them," and "their," this book also explores alternate pronouns (ones that have been around for decades now). I really appreciate this since I know some folks in their 40s and 50s who prefer ze/hir. In this sense, the book is expensive. By all means, it is a primer.

Airton did a great job of making all readers feel welcome. That is the truly fantastic aspect of this guide. Recommended!

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A friendly and informative guide

Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on September 13, 2018

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Lee Airton brings a calm, friendly tone to a subject that can be fraught with emotion and delivers a helpful book for those of us who want to avoid offending transgender people. Dr. Airton does a good job describing how diverse the transgender community is and why traditional pronouns are a problem. Their goal is to provide a toolkit, and to this end she provides information on prounoun use and ways to avoid using gendered language. Much of the information is illustrated in tables listing alternatives, and I found these helpful. Also especially helpful were examples of how to skirt etiquette problems and deal with resistance from family or coworkers.

The only portion of the text that I had trouble with was her discussion of grammar She advocates asking the person which pronoun they use for themselves, the gender-neutral neo-pronouns (ex: xe/xem and ze/hir) or the singular "they" (instead of "he" or "she") or traditional pronouns. She insists that those in authority who claim that the singular "they" is grammatically incorrect are wrong, but the sound of it makes my eardrums bleed, and I simply cannot envision ever using it without making a mental apology to every teacher or editor I've ever had. This does not mean I won't, but it does mean I have to remember to make an effort to do so, as the prime directive is not to be grammatically correct, but to treat others as I wish to be treated. The author makes this point well, when she reminds the reader that projecting kindness and caring helps bridge gaps in knowledge or unwitting mistakes.

The book also includes a glossary and bibliography.

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C Mc

Essential gender resource for all persons and sectors

Reviewed in Canada 🇨🇦 on September 14, 2019

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Excellent resource. Useful for supporting corporate, government, business, professionals and employees on their learning journey in a gender fluid world. This book reads like an invitation to lifelong learning. Thank you Lee Airton!

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Sabrina May

This book should be in everyone's collections.

Reviewed in Canada 🇨🇦 on September 21, 2020

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A book that should be on everyone's shelf. Cause if you don't understand... EDUCATE YOUTSELVES and the children.

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