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The Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense at Work Paperback – January 19, 2000
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Nationally recognized linguistics expert and author Suzette Haden Elgin applies her acclaimed techniques for combating verbal attacks to common workplace situations. Powerful yet unthreatening, her proven strategies will help you recognize and defend yourself from verbal abuse—everything from casual obscenities and racist or sexist language to sarcasm, cutting jokes, and subtle put-downs.
Richly illustrated with fully dramatizes scenarios and real-world examples, Dr. Elgin’s communication techniques will help you instantly take control of any verbal confrontation. You’ll also learn how to avoid “malpractice of the mouth” and sexual harassment; communicate sensitively and clearly with non-native English speakers; and project a strong, straightforward, and trustworthy image.
You’ll find tips for handling sensitive issues via email and voice mail, advice on meeting the communication challenges that face home-based and virtual businesses, and plenty of “workouts” placed throughout the book to give you valuable opportunities to practice your new skills.
The Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense at Work is your roadmap through the potentially career-threatening minefields of workplace communication.
- Print length340 pages
- LanguageEnglish
- PublisherPrentice Hall
- Publication dateJanuary 19, 2000
- Dimensions6.03 x 0.96 x 8.98 inches
- ISBN-100735200890
- ISBN-13978-0735200890
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Her genius is in separating what is meant from the words that are actually spoken. -- Dallas Morning News, Januray 23, 2000
She interweaves lessons agreeably with examples that read like fiction. -- American Way, February 2000
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- Publisher : Prentice Hall; First Edition (January 19, 2000)
- Language : English
- Paperback : 340 pages
- ISBN-10 : 0735200890
- ISBN-13 : 978-0735200890
- Item Weight : 13.8 ounces
- Dimensions : 6.03 x 0.96 x 8.98 inches
- Best Sellers Rank: #153,458 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
- #83 in Public Speaking Reference
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Dr. Elgin provides an understanding from a linguistics perspective, as opposed to a psychological one, although she references a lot of psychological articles and studies. It is part scholarly work, part early self-help era work. A lot of the references are old and you can tell the 'at work' version is somewhat slapped together to have another 'contemporary edition' book to sell.
That's OK, as there is enough instructive content to outweigh the flaws of this book. Flaws include poor editing. There are scenarios and things that often left me in 'left field,' but once I started skipping around the book it was easy to find the good stuff. Persevere and you'll get a lot of good from this seminal work on 'workplace bullying.' I've wasted a lot of money on books trying to come to terms with this issue.
Dr. Elgin lets no one off the hook. She clarifies how one becomes a victim and how to dodge this vulnerability with sound techniques. She also points out how you can learn what needs work in your own language and personality that turn off others, so that you can correct yourself.
I like the book so well, despite it's shortcomings, I'm getting for friends and colleagues!
Anyone who has ever worked in an office and most who haven't should have figured out everything in this book. The examples are contrived and not very relevant to real life. Unless you live on a movie set, this stuff doesn't happen like this anymore. Maybe it did in the 80s, but we're past the generation where HR doesn't control the workplace.
Save the money and buy a proper book on either psychology or something like NLP. Interestingly enough, the author goes through the trouble of discrediting some books that are more useful than the one she's written.
If you already know her formula then get this book to share with other employees. Otherwise get it for yourself and you will be amazed at how many ways her paradigm will help out every single day.









