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The Gentle Self: How to Overcome Your Difficulties With Depression, Anxiety, Shyness and Low Self-esteem Paperback – August 25, 2011
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About the Author
Gerti Schoen started her career as a journalist in Germany, which brought her to the United States as a foreign correspondent. Inspired by the dynamic energy of New York City, she decided to change careers and became a psychotherapist and Zen practitioner. She lives with her husband and her two cats in the New York metropolitan area.
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I've been a loner all my life. I am great at making new friends, just not very good at keeping them. I've always been afraid that I was intruding if I contacted them except when essential, and if someone actually wanted to hangout with me, it was because they were doing me a favor. I've never been able to publicly articulate that till now.
I see myself in every story : the parents who told me that I am the best, and deserve only the best. The daughter of a mother who kept throwing the stuff I made in 6th grade art class into the trash because she could buy a better piece in a store. I am the girl who leaves parties early so I won't intrude on other people's fun. I am the self-absorbed daydreamer. The girl who doesn't go out of her tiny apartment for days on end because somehow she will be in the world's way. The girl who gets asked very often : "hey how come I never see you around"
This book helped me tie up all these experiences together and made me realize, that I have a very serious problem. A problem that is "not part of my personality", but one that can be fixed. By me. It's a very short but worthwhile read. I highly recommend it to anyone who feels lonely, has spent countless hours analyzing why, and almost wishing we had troubled childhoods, just so we could find a reason.
I loved reading The Gentle Self because it helped me to see narcissism in a different light. Usually being called narcissistic feels horrible because narcissists have a reputation for being self-absorbed and vain. Many of my clients would identify when the author - who is a psychotherapist and psychoanalyst - described gentle narcissists being able to form meaningful relationships but then they are often prone being avoidant and emotional distant out of fear of being taken over. I will recommend this book to many of my clients who might use it as a self-help book and a tool to get more insight in their behavior. I highly encourage beginning therapists and councellors who wish to get new insights to read and learn from The Gentle Self.
Nick Helbich, PhD, LMSW, clinical psychotherapist in private practice in New York City.
I plan to purchase a hard copy for my sister who is a therapist.
***** Gillian Butler - Overcoming social anxiety and shyness *****
**** Signe Dayhoff - Diagonally parked in a Parallel Universe ****
*** Gerti Shoen - The Gentle Self ***