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Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder Paperback – August 4, 2004
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- Publisher : Hazelden Publishing; 1st edition (August 4, 2004)
- Language : English
- Paperback : 464 pages
- ISBN-10 : 1592850995
- ISBN-13 : 978-1592850990
- Item Weight : 1.11 pounds
- Dimensions : 5.1 x 1.3 x 7.75 inches
- Best Sellers Rank: #67,457 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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A crisis this week in my relationship triggered my "craziness", making me feel even more full of shame and alone in the world, rejected by those I love who just see a crazy woman who needs to calm down. I looked for a book about BPD to help my partner learn to "deal" with me (I hate using that word) and was dismayed to find a lot of books that used stigmatizing language and dehumanized us BPDers. I did eventually find one, "Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder" by Shari Manning, and although it wasn't perfect, it was the most compassionate read I'd found yet.
After reading it, however, I was consumed with despair and still resigned to feeling "broken" the rest of my life. That's when I came across this book. Although Rachel's symptoms were a lot more extreme than mine, so much of her words resonated with me, and I do feel hopeful that I can be in a position where I am as fortunate as she was and have a stable loving support system as well as the right mental health professional to help me work through my 38 years of pain and bad programming. This book humanizes the experience of BPD, in a landscape where so many professionals and laymen alike paint us as diabolical, raging lost causes. But I have a little hope now.
The fact that this is a true story, and that the author (as she describes in the book) was such a dedicated journal keeper / note taker as to be able to recall this level of detail, gives this the potential to be a very healing read. The fact that she is also a good writer (or had very good editors to help her to keep what could have been a monster of a story to balance and keep interesting) seals the deal.
Read it from beginning to end in about 36 hours of living, then instantly gave a copy to a person that I know struggling with similar issues. They also appreciated it.
It is harrowing, and so, so very true-to-life for anyone that has seen or dealt with these issues, and also very, very hopeful and instructive.
This author (my understanding is that Rachel is a pseudonym) has done a tremendous service to a great many suffering people by writing this book. It's existence is evidence both of her own recovery and that people can and do, in fact, recover from BPD.
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Bad side - I was hoping that it would provide more insight in overcoming the BPD and was shocked by the rather abrupt ending. I really was hoping for some general pointers or ways to get better but I could only infer them from Reiland's own experience. It does have a list of useful websites and numbers but these are mostly American and the websites offer only general information.
So don't expect to read this as a guide but rather a beautifully written experience of BPD while knowing that everyone can get past this nasty condition and move on with their lives. I would recommend people read this even if its just to know that someone else has gone through the same experience. If you know someone with BPD it might help somewhat to understand BPD but other books do this better. Still lovely book and I am glad to have read it. One thing is sure Reiland is brave for writing this book and I am really glad that she did.
Well, this book was something else! Out of nearly 500 pages, I found only one to be boring, but even then, once I read on, I realised that it was applicable.
I felt for Rachel, even though I found myself disliking her at times. I understood what she was going through and that is not just because I am a sufferer - I think she was able to show her feelings and use fantastic dialogue to explain the mental disturbances that she had, plus the recovery process and time lines.
She also showed very well, the family disruption that she caused and the effects it had on her family. This was very sad.
I could not put the book down, as I was so interested in it.
I may not have liked what Rachel did at times, but I did have empathy for her, I learnt a lot and it made me feel better. It also showed that BPD is a BIG umbrella under which to put a huge range of people with a huge range of symptoms and realities.
I didn't get enough of the `good' vibes about Rachel, as she didn't show enough joy in her story.
I liked it overall and found it a great support when I was in the depths of borderline personality disorder myself - I could relate to her feelings and she made me feel less alone...
In my opinion Get Me Out of Here... is extremely accurate in its depiction of what it's like to live with BPD in a way that only someone who has the illness could appreciate. That's not to denigrate other relevant resources written by people who do not have mental health issues but I do think we need more first person documents like this one, which prove that it is possible if not easy or straightforward to heal from BPD. A caveat: I can see how the book might be triggering for some and don't think I would have been able to read it before I'd been diagnosed and received therapy myself; it would have been too distressing.
The parts of the book leading up to Ms. Reiland commencing therapy were compelling but what really resonated with me was her account of the therapeutic process itself. To be honest I found myself laughing out loud at some of the similarities between her "acting out" behaviour with her therapist/psychiatrist and my own, and I was moved by what clearly developed into a relationship of mutual trust, love and respect, within professional boundaries of course. I thought she was brave to reveal all the messy and unpleasant s*** that comes with BPD and to document it for her readers. I'm quite sure that her willingness to do this (in therapy) helped her heal.
What also struck me was that she had the support of an understanding and stable spouse throughout who stood by her despite the pain the illness can inflict on others.
Personally I found this book hopeful - it didn't shy away from exposing the incredibly painful aspects of the disorder and related difficulties she had to contend with (e.g. anorexia) but I didn't find it sensationalist. I also liked that she was true to the fact that recovery is not a linear process. Despite the fact that it's an intense read I finished it feeling encouraged and pleased for the author that the therapy she undertook clearly changed her life.
What's important though is that she now writes as someone who has recovered and developed sufficient insight to understand the process that she was going through at the time. Not only that but her writing style is accessible and flows very well, so even when she is writing about painful and difficult subjects the book remains very readable. She's obviously quite intelligent and that shows both in her writing and in her insight into her journey. The book finishes on a fairly upbeat note and contains suggestions for further reading and online resources.