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Getting to 30: A Parent's Guide to the 20-Something Years by [Arnett, Jeffrey Jensen, Fishel, Elizabeth]
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"For parents who are caught up in the struggle to stay connected while pulling back during their kid's journey to adulthood, this book provides a frank, factual, and fearless look at the road ahead."
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"Highly readable and informative . . . A must-read for 50-something parents."
―Susan Krauss Whitbourne, Huffington Post

"Replete with sage advice and thoughtful observations."
Realize magazine

"[A] good-humored parents' guide."
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"A Dr. Spock for parents with children in all stages of emerging adulthood."
–Robin Marantz Henig, coauthor, with Samantha Henig, of Twentysomething

"Parenting kids in their twenties takes tact, patience, and wisdom. If you find you are running out of all three, you must read When Will My Grown-Up Kid Grow Up? This is the book parents have been waiting for. It will restore your confidence and lift your spirits."
—Michael Thompson, Ph.D., coauthor of Raising Cain

"Wise, very concrete help for parents trying to find the elusive middle ground between biting their tongues and remaining actively involved with the life dilemmas of their emerging adult children."
—Philip and Carolyn Cowan, professors emeriti, University of California, Berkeley

"A timely guide for parents who are navigating their children’s transition to adulthood—helpful, hopeful, and engaging."
—Jeanne Brooks-Gunn, Ph.D., Virginia and Leonard Marx Professor of Child Development, Teachers College, Columbia University


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  • File Size: 1371 KB
  • Print Length: 321 pages
  • Page Numbers Source ISBN: 0761179666
  • Publisher: Workman Publishing Company; Reprint edition (May 14, 2013)
  • Publication Date: May 14, 2013
  • Sold by: Amazon Digital Services LLC
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B00ANSW8ZO
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‘When will my grown-up kid grow up?’ is an excellent book and well worth reading if you are a parent of an emerging adult, or, like me, if you are an emerging adult yourself. Professor Jeffrey Jensen Arnett and Elizabeth Fishel have assembled a broad array of developmental, social and cultural psychological research and packaged it into a very accessible and interesting volume. This book charts the lived experience of a new developmental phase from the perspective of both the emerging adult and their parents. This phase, lasting from age 18 through the twenties, is new to this generation: this time frame was not experienced in the same way by the parents of the emerging adults. Therefore, there is often misunderstanding between both parent and child. The authors provide a wealth of information, based on careful psychological analysis of large numbers of interviews, about this life phase. Emerging adults are exposed to, and engage with, different social, religious, romantic, and ideological experiences, which lead to a delayed pathway to full adulthood. There are consequences, both negative and positive, for these emerging adults, as well as their parents. The authors engage with these topics sensitively, providing clear information, as well as offering advice for parents to navigate their relationships with their children during this new developmental period. As such, this is essential reading for both groups of people, so that they can better understand themselves, and each other.

Séamus A. Power, Department of Comparative Human Development, University of Chicago.
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I happen to notice this book the other day and what caught my eye was the tagline "For parents whose children are 18-29". I immediately decided to pick this up (my children are currently 26 and 23). There are TONS of books out there with advice on how to deal with kids in high school or in college, but very few if any that deal with the post-college years, say kids between 22 and 30.

"When Will My Grown-Up Kid Grow Up? Loving and Understanding Your Emerging Adults" (2013 release; 303 pages) is co-authored by Dr. Jeffrey Arnett and Elizabeth Fishel. In the prologue, the authors explain the reason for writing this book (seeing the lack of books on this topic, to become a Dr. Spock-like guide for parents on how to deal with emerging adults). As a consequence of this ambitious goal, the book tackles a LOT of different topics, in great detail, always with understanding and respect for different viewpoints, yet not being afraid to provide specific guidance. The book is littered with real-life examples from parents asking advice on a specific situation, and the authors oblige.

THE thorniest topic seems to be when a 20-something son or daughter returns to live with mom and dad, either after college (or having dropped out during college), or even further down the road after losing a job or some other mishap. First and foremost, the authors document time and again how common this situation has become in recent years, so right then and there you are put at ease because you are not alone! Then the authors provide helpful hints on how to give-and-take, not only literally (as in: money), but also emotionally (these emerging adults are not just some teenagers you can 'boss around'), while making sure that the parents maintain soms sanity during it all.
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I bought this book based on reading articles by Arnett on Emerging Adulthood. Since I teach at the college level and have children in the Emerging Adulthood phase, I wanted to gain a deeper understanding. This book would be helpful if you really have no clue or you need assurances that you are not in this alone, but for me it did not give me the depth of knowledge I was looking for.
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Just when we thought we were done parenting, here come the 20-something and 30-something years with the kid at home or the one who won't even come over for dinner.

Now we have this guide to "loving and understanding your emerging adult." Step aside, Dr. Spock! Here we can find out how to handle the Bank of Mom and Dad; when to bite your tongue and when to speak up (should we say something about that iffy boyfriend? what do you do when the college boy doesn't call for a week or two?)

You get good guidance, clever stories and quotes, and a friend at your side as you navigate good relationships with the grown-ups who are not-quite-grown-up after all.
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I have found this to be such a help! It really does answer many questions and offer practical advice for helping this age group to make their best decisions and for both me and my husband to feel good about what we have said and done. I have especially liked the section about the "Bank of Mom and Dad" and how to help turn this off. I thought I knew how to guide my son- and for the most part I do and I am not that far off track. However,this book is my ready resource whenever I need back-up or additional resources.
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This book is informative and helpful for those of us with grown children. It helped me to understand that my situation was not unique. It would have helped even more if some troubling signs were covered.
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