From the Author
We start off optimisticallyassuming things will work out. At least half the time we're wrong. After a fewyears, or more than a few, things start going badly and we're left choosingbetween painful options.
We are more careful about selectingthe city we'll live in than who we'll live with. We spend more time thinkingabout what features we need in a car than we do consciously considering thequalities of the person who would make a great, lifelong match.
There is a better way. Thirty yearsago, after a long series of failed relationships, I finally figured out whatthat better way is. When that happened, when sitting alone in my Los Angelesapartment the "aha!" hit me, my life turned around completely.
I've kept what I learned, my Relationship Quadrants, mostly secretthese past thirty years. On the few occasions I've shared the Quadrants withfriends and family, they have always proven effective regardless of the user'sage, gender, sexual orientation, race, or profession.
Every so often someone wouldencourage me to write it all down so others could benefit from the simple,elegant power of the Quadrants. I never have, until now, because ... well becauseI doubted anyone would want to read what I have to say on the subject. But here you are, so perhaps I was wrong.