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Getting Past Your Breakup: How to Turn a Devastating Loss into the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You Paperback – May 5, 2009
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An estimated 43 percent of marriages in the U.S. end in separation or divorce, a grim reminder that most all of us experiences at least one painful breakup in our lifetimes; speaker and certified grief therapist Elliot has come to understand that many aren't successful in overcoming that pain, which can stall anyone's personal and professional life indefinitely. Using her personal experience and stories from her practice, Elliott provides sound advice for those still driving by the ex's house or obsessed with self-blame. She advises a cold-turkey, "No Contact" blanket rule, but doesn't ignore the reality of situations involving mutual friends or a shared workplace, and provides seven rules for making things easier on the kids. As the end of a relationship can be much like the death of a loved one, Elliott also reviews the grief process and its importance in processing loss. While working through grief and putting time into serious self-examination won't necessarily "transform your life into everything you've always wanted it to be," the payoff should be steady progress toward a mended heart, a clear conscience and a stronger sense of self.
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"Using her personal experience and stories from her practice, Elliott provides sound advice for those still driving by the ex's house or obsessed with self-blame."―Publishers Weekly
"An excellent breakup book that assists not only in dealing with the shock of a relationship ending, but also how to move past the breakup to become a stronger, better person in spite/because of it. Topics such as dealing with breakup myths ('I need closure!') and boundaries (how do I not get into this situation ever again) are refreshing and well-suited to the tone and style. Highly recommended."―About.com ("Top Brekaup Books")
"What sets this book apart from other self help titles is the fact that the author has suffered the same type of heartache. The compassion her writing shows will quickly warm your heart. If you are getting over a failed marriage, or a breakup of a relationship, then this is the must have book that will get you past your pain and suffering...[It] offers hope to those who are suffering. It will show you how to change a life altering experience into something that will change your life for the better."
―Midwest Book Review
"Elliott is supremely practical and behavioral in her approach...Incredibly useful for people who need concrete advice on what to do next."―Huffington Post
"Read it if you want to feel like you're the best thing he never had...With tips and strategies for everything from how to be by yourself to Not Calling Him, Elliott's no-nonsense approach has made this break-up bible one of the most popular self-help books on the subject worldwide."―Marie Claire (UK)
"This practical book offers useful tips about how to get through the depressing post-breakup stages of loneliness and desolation. If you can't afford a therapist, this useful tome will help you take charge of your life instead of giving way to grief."―YourTango.com
"If you're in recovery from a relationship that ended...read this book."―Kansas City Star
"From the devastation that comes at the end of a relationship, through the reeling, dealing and healing, Elliott worms her way around all aspects of a broken heart...Getting Past Your Breakup will help you see a crystal-bright future."―"The Bookworm Sez" syndicated column
"A breakup is the best time to change your life, and this book will tell you how to do it. It will serve as a road map for getting over your ex and putting your energy back where it belongs: on you! Stories and strategies will keep you inspired as you permanently get over the breakup, get your confidence back and open yourself up to finding the love of your life. You can do it with this book."―Dating Advice.com, "9 Best Breakup Books of 2014"
"Elliott delivers the goods with a book that can help anyone get past a broken heart, and be stronger for it...The book provides solid, usable information told with compassionate understanding that really jumpstarts a heart that is on standby. As a motivational speaker and grief counselor, Elliott understands the steps that one goes through in order to fully grieve a loss, even a loss of love, and she really shows how to move beyond that grief by first processing, not ignoring it. This book is valuable to anyone struggling to get past a loss, or get over those lousy behaviors and thought patterns that seem to keep leading to broken relationships. The tools are priceless, and the inspiration to come out on top is what really makes this book stand out in the ocean of other self-help titles out there...Almost makes you want to find fifty ways to leave your lover!"―Curled Up with a Good Book
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I very much enjoy the author's style, as it feels like a wise older sister, older brother, older cousin, or older friend is speaking directly to you, recognizing that you are going through hell, and are hurting terribly, but also gently giving you advice about how to move beyond your present state of misery, and start taking steps towards healing and re-entering the world of the living - stronger, and healthier. A significant topic in the book is why it is essential to go "no contact" with your ex - no exceptions - and how to effectively go no contact if you happen to be in a circumstance where there is no way to completely avoid your ex, like if you have children together, or work together.
I didn't make my life changing breakup "the best thing that ever happened to me," through reading this book, but this book was great in helping me get over it and move on to better things.
My emotions go up have steep up and downs and I’m all over the place.
Do, I bought a number of books in the hopes of finding help.
This particular book really works for me.
It made me understand why my wife and I drifted apart (knowing is therapeutic).
More importantly, the book made me understand that I have to accept the fact that the marriage is over.
It then provides great advice on how to manage the stages of grief, re-establish myself as a person, and how to rebuild my life as an independent person.
Well worth reading and using as a guide to get past a very tough life situation.
The other four books helped some but Getting Past Your Breakup is by far the best “tool” if found.
It’s also a great book if you’ve recently broken up.
I didn't understand one review that said this: "For example it recommends no contact or letter writing that you never actually send, but they never say why this should be done or the benefits of doing so". I thought she explained it very simply.
I would highly recommend this book (and have) to young and more mature people suffering the heartache of a breakup. This will help one get back up, dust off, and develop a strong sense of self. You can't be in a happy healthy relationship unless you are already happy and healthy by yourself.