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I first got this book to try to find a reason to stay. Do not read unless you're ready to face your demons.
on May 21, 2016
I was stuck. I was trapped. I was caught in a war between ethics and ideals.
Marriage, to me, was it. It was for life. There never was any other alternative. Even in the circumstances I was in where my very well being was under attack, I still found it difficult. I constantly thought "well ... what if THIS time is different. Then your relationship will have a bond that's immeasurable. You'll be free of all fear and all doubt."
When I got this book it was my plan to read through it and reaffirm my reasons to stay. To be able to move forward, fully committed and free of fear. I was desperately hunting for something to tell me it was okay to stay. That staying was the right choice.
Upon reading the beginning of the book, I saw all of the words about staying. All of the benefits and clarity that comes. I thought this was the perfect book.
I took every single question seriously. Deliberately, trying to make the best of every single memory while remaining truly honest with myself in the process. I wrote down every answer. I let time pass and read it again, trying to make sure it was the mood of the moment. I thought I was building the case to stay.
I found that it was time to leave.
It's been 3.5 years after an 11 year relationship.
It was simple. It was honest. This is truly a powerful book.